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Gabe Deem:
**Accountability Partner Request Thread**

What is an "accountability partner?" = Accountability partners are pairs who hold each other responsible for their sexual habits - someone who commits to supporting and following you along the process of rebooting.

Why get an accountability partner? A few reasons...

1) As the forum grows it will be hard to keep track of everyone's journals. If you are busy, having a partner will keep things fast and simple. The days you have more time, you can venture off into other journals of course, but if you have a partner you can easily give consistent support and help each other, without becoming overwhelmed by numerous entries.

2) Giving/receiving support during the reboot process is highly beneficial, and if you can consistently do so that is even better. Knowing there is someone who is in this reboot process with you can be very calming and soothing. Knowing you are not alone is very helpful, and it is the truth.

3) You will have someone to relate to. Someone who understands some, if not most, of what you describe during your reboot, and who will be trucking along Recovery Road with you, cheering you on when times are bad, and celebrating with you when positive steps are taken.


1) Partners will post IN EACH OTHER'S JOURNAL, or if needed through private messages. This is very important, as your reboot account will remain all in one place, and the forum will not be broken down further into smaller, not as active sections. Ask for a partner in this thread, then once you have one, follow each other's journals and post there!

2) The main forum rules still apply in accountability partner posts. We will be positive and supportive and not push anything on each other. To review the rules go here: *FORUM RULES*

3) You can have more than one accountability partner, but PLEASE avoid doing this unless you are sure you have enough time to be of help to multiple people. The last thing a rebooter needs is a partner quitting on them halfway through their reboot and leaving them feeling abandoned. However, if a situation comes up where you no longer can be a partner (we all know life happens), please let your partner know so they can come back to this thread and request another partner!

4) If your partner relapses, do NOT shame or criticize. This will do no good. Instead offer advice or a different perspective of looking at the situation. Tough love is all right, a personal attack is not. If you have offered all the advice you can give and they keep slipping, you don't have to say anything, just be there for support and reassure them that they can in fact, recover, as many others have before them.

5) Encourage each other to learn as much as possible about this addiction. When you learn something new on this site or YBOP, share it with your partner. The more you know, the better the advice you can give your accountability partner. The better understanding you have of how porn can re-wire and actually numb your brain, hopefully the less desirable porn will become (as happened for me). Then you can come up with a plan of action. In my experience, knowledge is power for rebooters.

6) Just post a comment with a few things about your situation/life/reboot status and request a partner. But first go through earlier comments and see if anyone needs one.

7) After you get a partner please "modify/update" your request post at the top saying you now have a partner. This will save people time who are searching for a partner.

Keep it simple. We are ALL in this together.

Thanks and I hope the best for everyone,

Much love,
Reboot Nation!

I am 50 years old and have been using pornography and masturbation since my early teens.  I have been married for almost 20 years although for over 1/2 that time my wife an I have not had sex.  I have been trying to quit for PMO for several months and have made it a couple of weeks before relapsing.  I am here looking for someone in a similar situation looking for an accountability partner.

I am just revisiting this site after a long hiatus. I never really participated much but I first became aware of this concept over a year ago. Deep down I've always suspected that my porn use was at the center of my life struggles. At least it hasn't been making anything better.

So, I am prepared to let it go ....and seriously.  I think I need an accountability partner to give me the edge I need.

I am a 49 year old, divorced, gay father of 4. I come from a rather strict religious background so I've had large periods of time in my life when I haven't viewed porn or even masturbated. Now that I no longer subscribe to the same beliefs, it is all "morally" OK so I've kind of been on a binge. I want to stop porn because I believe it's the wise thing to do for me right now, not because I believe it's morally sinful.


I am new here but like what the forum stands for.  I consider myself the casual porn user but really hate the feeling after . Further with more research into the topic  I am realizing that continued use only encourages women abuse as that creates a market for porn, and from the articles here harms my brain

I am looking for an accountability  partner to help me flush this thing off my system as I start my journey



I'm looking for an accountability partner....

....hey everyone. I'm someone that found this site in the past but didn't use it. I was successful in abstaining for 90 days, then relapsed. This time I'd like to take use of the forum and get support / be support for others going through the same journey. If you are interested just reply, or write to me in my journal. Good luck to all.


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