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**Accountability Partner Requests**
« on: April 21, 2014, 11:53:49 PM »
**Accountability Partner Request Thread**

What is an "accountability partner?" = Accountability partners are pairs who hold each other responsible for their sexual habits - someone who commits to supporting and following you along the process of rebooting.

Why get an accountability partner? A few reasons...

1) As the forum grows it will be hard to keep track of everyone's journals. If you are busy, having a partner will keep things fast and simple. The days you have more time, you can venture off into other journals of course, but if you have a partner you can easily give consistent support and help each other, without becoming overwhelmed by numerous entries.

2) Giving/receiving support during the reboot process is highly beneficial, and if you can consistently do so that is even better. Knowing there is someone who is in this reboot process with you can be very calming and soothing. Knowing you are not alone is very helpful, and it is the truth.

3) You will have someone to relate to. Someone who understands some, if not most, of what you describe during your reboot, and who will be trucking along Recovery Road with you, cheering you on when times are bad, and celebrating with you when positive steps are taken.

*RULES FOR ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNERS* 

1) Partners will post IN EACH OTHER'S JOURNAL, or if needed through private messages. This is very important, as your reboot account will remain all in one place, and the forum will not be broken down further into smaller, not as active sections. Ask for a partner in this thread, then once you have one, follow each other's journals and post there!

2) The main forum rules still apply in accountability partner posts. We will be positive and supportive and not push anything on each other. To review the rules go here: *FORUM RULES*

3) You can have more than one accountability partner, but PLEASE avoid doing this unless you are sure you have enough time to be of help to multiple people. The last thing a rebooter needs is a partner quitting on them halfway through their reboot and leaving them feeling abandoned. However, if a situation comes up where you no longer can be a partner (we all know life happens), please let your partner know so they can come back to this thread and request another partner!

4) If your partner relapses, do NOT shame or criticize. This will do no good. Instead offer advice or a different perspective of looking at the situation. Tough love is all right, a personal attack is not. If you have offered all the advice you can give and they keep slipping, you don't have to say anything, just be there for support and reassure them that they can in fact, recover, as many others have before them.

5) Encourage each other to learn as much as possible about this addiction. When you learn something new on this site or YBOP, share it with your partner. The more you know, the better the advice you can give your accountability partner. The better understanding you have of how porn can re-wire and actually numb your brain, hopefully the less desirable porn will become (as happened for me). Then you can come up with a plan of action. In my experience, knowledge is power for rebooters.

6) Just post a comment with a few things about your situation/life/reboot status and request a partner. But first go through earlier comments and see if anyone needs one.

7) After you get a partner please "modify/update" your request post at the top saying you now have a partner. This will save people time who are searching for a partner.

Keep it simple. We are ALL in this together.

Thanks and I hope the best for everyone,

Much love,
Reboot Nation!
« Last Edit: April 22, 2014, 09:19:04 PM by Gabe Deem »
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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #1 on: June 22, 2014, 11:43:53 PM »
Hey guys,

So I'm looking for an accountability partner. I'm 18, a premedical student, and I have just started my reboot. Also, I am gay so if I could find another gay male, he would be my ideal accountability partner.

Hope to hear something soon!

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #2 on: July 02, 2014, 01:35:01 AM »
Hello I would very much love to have an accountable partner here to help and be helped. I'm 18 male ..feeling hopeless been trying to quit for nearly two years.. my mother just passed away and feel soo alone. Want guys and girls to partner with ..would love a girl cuz I've been soo disconnected from them for so long.. but guys are very welcome.. just need some help now urges are unbelievable ..tomorrow is day 1 ..again..

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #3 on: September 28, 2014, 11:16:22 AM »
hello everyone..am new year but today is 1 week since my last pmoing session...i have nearly made it to 60days the last time but relapsed and that reason was i didnt have any experience with a parner..so a accountability partner would be of great help...am 17 by the way and straight so a female would be of even greater help thank you

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #4 on: October 21, 2014, 11:48:18 AM »
Hello ive been struggling for almost two years now.. so an acccountability partener would be awesome...i would prefer a girl havent talk to them in a long time

Thanks

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #5 on: December 02, 2014, 12:44:06 PM »
Looking for an accountability partner, I just can't talk about this with friends or family...
Thank you

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #6 on: January 09, 2015, 02:25:32 AM »
Hello, I'm a 16 year old sophomore student and I'm been addicted for 4 years. I would like an accointable partner and if it is possible, I recommend a girl but a guy is good too. My academics have been declining ever since i started watching porn frequently in high school because of stress. Thankyou for reading this 

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #7 on: May 06, 2015, 11:35:36 PM »
Hey there, this is Isaac. I'm looking for someone to help keep me accountable. PM me if you can help me out. Thanks.

-Isaac

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #8 on: May 18, 2015, 06:57:17 AM »
hlw....
i'm nuha, 19 years old....
totally new to this forum.but not new at all with this porn addiction and masturbation problem. :(
i determined huge for keeping me away from those but couldn't...
hope this kind of help will help me ...
for this i want partner...
but confused how can i do that thing....
please help me.... :(
 

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #9 on: July 12, 2015, 06:15:02 AM »
hlw....
i'm nuha, 19 years old....
totally new to this forum.but not new at all with this porn addiction and masturbation problem. :(
i determined huge for keeping me away from those but couldn't...
hope this kind of help will help me ...
for this i want partner...
but confused how can i do that thing....
please help me.... :(
 

Hey I'm 21 names Josh and I'll be glad to become your friend in our mission to Glory  8)

Lol but for real , let's do this

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #10 on: August 13, 2015, 04:12:02 PM »
Hi, I am 18 years old (male), and if you want I can be your accountability Partner! I didnt watched porn for 8 months without big problems, but I want to quit masturbating (just to test the changes) atleast till the 31.12.2015!


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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #11 on: August 14, 2015, 02:08:28 AM »
18 years old, Christian, male, from Texas, looking for an accountability partner, someone who can offer advice and be supportive and vice versa!

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #12 on: October 04, 2015, 07:56:02 PM »
My first time on this site and I could really use an accountability partner. Anyone free to help?

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #13 on: October 12, 2015, 10:43:07 PM »
Hey Im Pierre,
I'm 16 and I just started my reboot. I really need someone i can talk to. My gf knows Im trying to reboot but i need someone that truly understands what I'm going through. Please respond ASAP.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #14 on: October 19, 2015, 09:00:43 PM »
18, looking for another female if at all possible, but male is okay too.
« Last Edit: October 19, 2015, 09:04:29 PM by Aderes »

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #15 on: January 01, 2016, 11:12:48 AM »
I'm 15 and I am looking for an accountability partner. I really need someone who has gone through the same thing, so we can motivate each other. My prayers go out to all the people who are determined to defeat their addiction.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #16 on: February 14, 2016, 11:21:15 AM »
Hello,

I'm looking for an accountability partner.
I'm 19 years , male.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #17 on: July 03, 2016, 08:25:06 PM »
I'm 15 and I am looking for an accountability partner. I really need someone who has gone through the same thing, so we can motivate each other. My prayers go out to all the people who are determined to defeat their addiction.


Hi, are you still looking for an AP? I'm going through it too and I'm also religious. I'm male, 18.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #18 on: July 03, 2016, 08:26:35 PM »
Hello,

I'm looking for an accountability partner.
I'm 19 years , male.

Hello, are you still looking for an Ap? I'm avaliable. Male, 18

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #19 on: July 03, 2016, 08:38:40 PM »
Hi, I'm looking for an AP. Male, 18

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #20 on: July 06, 2016, 12:19:48 PM »
Heyy guys I would like to have an accountability partner cause i keep slippin if I dont have someone to tell me alot

Im 19yo old straight male

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #21 on: July 29, 2016, 11:47:16 AM »
Heyy guys I would like to have an accountability partner cause i keep slippin if I dont have someone to tell me alot

Im 19yo old straight male

I'm also 19, and I'm looking for one too.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #22 on: April 17, 2017, 03:04:58 AM »
Hey i am 19 years old male...i am looking for an acountability partner..also i am new to this forum.. I think together we can kick this habit far far away..what you say?

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #23 on: September 21, 2017, 07:53:25 AM »
18 yo male 1 week into first reboot looking for accountability partner. Don't feel tempted to PMO at all so far, just need someone to talk things through with because all of this is still a bit scary to be honest. Ideally looking for someone with previous experiences of PIED and the flatline, but any good listener would be very welcome! In return I can offer motivation and an open ear!

PM me!

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« Reply #24 on: November 02, 2017, 04:00:47 PM »
Hey , im an 18 Year old from germany and looking for a partner. I am at day 5 now, tried it a few times 1-2 years ago on my own but with reading articles and yourbrainonporn help it seems like its actually an opportunity and i want to quit for sure. the first few days i felt pretty good but had a strong urge, now im not having such a strong urge but im feeling like crap now, tired, lazy and unmotivated. I think having a partner and support him / get supported will make this whole journey a lot more easier for both of us. :=)