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Mmmmat2020

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Masturbating with photos/vídeos of my girlfriend
« on: December 27, 2020, 01:21:06 AM »
hello good day, I am Latin American and I am publishing this with the translator, I hope you understand, thank you very much.
My question, is if I can masturbate to my girlfriend's photos / videos, I see her usually but sometimes I'm alone and I masturbate that way. We are both 20 years old, I have been watching porn since I was 12 and now I am on "reset.
luckily I do not have ED but I do have low libido in my relationship
I have read that such photos or videos of my girlfriend is considered artificial stimulation but I wanted to know if this or masturbating thinking about flashback with her or about the sensations could add more libido-passion towards her and towards the relationship.
In short, if masturbating with flashback / photos.
/ videos or sensations of my girlfriend could increase the passion and libido of my relationship.
thank

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Re: Masturbating with photos/vídeos of my girlfriend
« Reply #1 on: December 28, 2020, 06:29:45 PM »
You need to abandon all artificial sexual stimulation during the reboot, aka the hard 90.  After you fix the problem, ask the question again. 

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Re: Masturbating with photos/vídeos of my girlfriend
« Reply #2 on: January 13, 2021, 06:09:51 PM »
You need to abandon all artificial sexual stimulation during the reboot, aka the hard 90.  After you fix the problem, ask the question again.

Totally lost here, myself.  I was under the impression that "hard 90" was no sex no orgasms not even with an actual partner.  Mmmmat2020 didn't say he wasn't having sex with his girlfriend.  Are you saying he should not have sex with his girlfriend for 90 days?

I've got the same or similar question - I'm abstaining from consuming porn or jerking off, but I am having sex with my wife.  Am I doing it wrong?  I would love to jerk off to notty pictures of my wife, too, but for now I am arbitrarily not doing that either.
2021-03-05 is Day 90 of my reboot.
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Re: Masturbating with photos/vídeos of my girlfriend
« Reply #3 on: January 14, 2021, 12:53:06 PM »
The most efficient cure for porn addiction is the hard 90, no porn, no masturbation, no orgasm, no sex, and no sexual thoughts to be best of your ability.  Remember what the core problem is:  It is using sexual thoughts to achieve a dopamine high.  We call it porn addiction for a lot of reasons, but it is the high that is actually addictive.  Most people I advise to have no sex, which is easy advice to give when talking to what may be a majority of people here:  kids who are still virgins, or guys who have PIED, so are not having sex anyway.  When I quit, I was in a relationship, and so I had sex during the reboot.  Very important:  when having sex during the reboot, do not use porn memory or porn imagination to get off; it has to be with thoughts of your partner only.  Be aware of the neuroscience underlying the problem.  Porn is not directly the problem.  Porn leads to a sexual thought, and that leads to a dopamine high.  It is just that we can ride that high with porn far more efficiently than in our natural environment. 

La cura más eficaz para la adicción a la pornografía es la dura 90, sin pornografía, sin masturbación, sin orgasmo, sin sexo y sin pensamientos sexuales para ser lo mejor que pueda. Recuerde cuál es el problema central: es usar pensamientos sexuales para lograr un nivel alto de dopamina. Lo llamamos adicción a la pornografía por muchas razones, pero lo que es realmente adictivo es el efecto. A la mayoría de las personas a las que les aconsejo que no tengan relaciones sexuales, es un consejo fácil de dar cuando se habla con lo que puede ser la mayoría de las personas aquí: niños que aún son vírgenes o chicos que tienen PIED, por lo que de todos modos no tienen relaciones sexuales. Cuando lo dejé, estaba en una relación, así que tuve relaciones sexuales durante el reinicio. Muy importante: al tener relaciones sexuales durante el reinicio, no uses la memoria pornográfica o la imaginación pornográfica para salir; tiene que ser solo con pensamientos de tu pareja. Sea consciente de la neurociencia que subyace al problema. La pornografía no es directamente el problema. La pornografía conduce a un pensamiento sexual y eso conduce a un nivel alto de dopamina. Es solo que podemos viajar tan alto con la pornografía de manera mucho más eficiente que en nuestro entorno natural.

Paz.
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