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Redfire03

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Re: 700 days of hardmode.
« Reply #25 on: March 19, 2020, 12:36:20 PM »
700 days i have surpassed. Still not any noticable improvements physically.  Mentally I am all good, porn is gone... has not been a desire.. I just gym, work,eat, sleep. I have had sex twice, but they were not satisfying. I wouldnt even consider it sex really. Really thinking of ways to better things and possibly give up on try to have sex and just see if things just take its course over time. Really just dont want to have to deal with the humiliation.

My morning wood had decreased for awhile and I believe that was because I had logged back on to social media for awhile and recently I got back off. The Hits of dopamine are noticed while scrolling thru social media and seeing an attractive person. Just not ideal.

At night when i lay in bed and my penis as always just feels dead, not any sensation really just the floppy piece of jellow..... just feels numb.. I can play with myself for a few minutes and manage to get it hard. But it wont stay hard to long without constant attention... really just trying to figure out if i am actually long termed damaged. My dick just feels lifeless.

Really just unsure about my sex life or even if I want to try to please a woman anymore.  I have become content with how my life is and I just live for my passion in cars and my kids. I think i dont need a woman anymore and just be happy with the life I have created and just see where it takes me. Please chime in.

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Re: 700 days of hardmode.
« Reply #26 on: March 22, 2020, 03:26:24 PM »
http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=10800.msg111262#msg111262

Don't give up Redfire, I know you know that and at this point we really can't give up, porn and masturbation is essentially pointless. But if anything you have noticed improvements so its clear something is improving. Did you use viagra when you had sex? How many orgasms did you have?

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Re: 700 days of hardmode.
« Reply #27 on: March 23, 2020, 03:31:43 AM »
I think, when it comes to rewiring, one benefits immensily from having a steady partner and ongoing sex. Because I think the problem is twofold: PIED goes hand-in-hand with performance anxiety or general confusion and nervousness. I remember, the first few times I had sex after the initial rebooting phase were very rocky. I was totally unsure if I would have an erection and I was grabbing my own dick several times to see if it was hard because I couldn't really feel it. Moreover, I was always very hectic when putting on a condom because I thought my erections would fade. Switiching positions did not even cross my mind because of that, too. After a while, I became used to all that and the sex also got a lot better because I started focussing on enjoying it and making it enjoyable for my partner instead of just not failing.

Don't give up just yet. As a gym rat you know that repetitions are crucial for growth ;)
400 days clean and counting...

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Re: 700 days of hardmode.
« Reply #28 on: May 26, 2020, 06:01:09 AM »
More sex has led me to better erections (but also more orgasms and orgasms lead to cravings to masturbate)

I'd keep trying having sex, it'll get better :)

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Re: 700 days of hardmode.
« Reply #29 on: May 29, 2020, 08:28:07 AM »
(but also more orgasms and orgasms lead to cravings to masturbate)

I think getting your brain used to multiple ejaculation through P makes it rebel against "only once". Maybe this is where that chaser effect comes from.

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Re: Day 500 of hardmode.
« Reply #30 on: June 15, 2020, 10:18:25 AM »
Continue to have sex, it'll get a lot better. Your system needs to calibrate  ;)

I can most definitely say it is because your body haven't had any female touch that much(or if any) and your brain is just trying to adapt itself to this newfound form of activity. Every guy goes through it at some point in their lives, especially the ones that are just starting to have sex. This is not a PMO issue, I promise you. In no time at all, you will be ejaculating inside them, over them, behind them and etc. :D. Keep going strong my dude

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Re: Day 500 of hardmode.
« Reply #31 on: June 15, 2020, 10:25:19 AM »
Social media was a big help. Because it in its own can cause dopamine hits. I would log off and remove the apps, also I would spend less time watching tv. Specific stuff, nothing that would cause a trigger. Take on reading... most importantly.. get in the gym. The gym was probably the biggest contributor to my success. I also know that I want to be Normal... I remember masterbating and being disgusted with myself.  I know I dont want that feeling anymore.

Can you please read my post? You have to go strong, man. Finding a girlfriend and some hobbies are also really helpful, it just makes you think about her, and wanting her till the next date, which makes you lose yourself in the moment and give it to her. Just please, don't relapse. Rewiring takes time.

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Re: 700 days of hardmode.
« Reply #32 on: October 21, 2020, 11:13:07 PM »
Hi Redfire. How have you been? You haven’t posted in a while. I hope you are well.

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Re: 700 days of hardmode.
« Reply #33 on: October 26, 2020, 04:20:02 PM »
I have been doing well. I guess I will give an update, I went clear over 1000 days of hardmo

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Re: 700 days of hardmode.
« Reply #34 on: October 26, 2020, 04:28:24 PM »
I made it to around 1000 days. I even stopped taking note of the days because I felt like I was moved on from the issue.  I had amazing progress.  However i logged on to social media and got on dating apps. I noticed that the dating app would cause me to have dopamine rush from all the girls. I noticed it would set me back... so I recommend staying of apps and social media. I am still going strong. I am still trying to find someone to rewire with. But I have found peace with just giving it time. I would just focus on yourself and stay off social media.  Instagram and tinder seem to be the hard hitters for me. So they are a complete no no to me.  I noticed on them my morning wood would decrease from to much screen time. So in all I just try to spend less time on my phone. Hence why I haven't posted in a while. I am more open amout the issue and have told many people about the effect of PIED.  Just stay clear, I can't say for sure if this will ultimately fix the issue. But I can say that I feel better with porn eliminated from my life. Strive to be a better person and with time I pray everyone has the strength to recover.

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Re: 700 days of hardmode.
« Reply #35 on: October 26, 2020, 05:54:03 PM »
I would like to say, even as we rewire it's essential to look at essential natural foods/fruits that help in boosting sexual drive and erections. Avocados and bananas are very beneficial btw. Would recommend to avoid over the counter sex enhancers like viagra, they are good short term bt will cause damage on the long term

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Re: 700 days of hardmode.
« Reply #36 on: October 26, 2020, 10:20:45 PM »
I made it to around 1000 days. I even stopped taking note of the days because I felt like I was moved on from the issue.  I had amazing progress.  However i logged on to social media and got on dating apps. I noticed that the dating app would cause me to have dopamine rush from all the girls. I noticed it would set me back... so I recommend staying of apps and social media. I am still going strong. I am still trying to find someone to rewire with. But I have found peace with just giving it time. I would just focus on yourself and stay off social media.  Instagram and tinder seem to be the hard hitters for me. So they are a complete no no to me.  I noticed on them my morning wood would decrease from to much screen time. So in all I just try to spend less time on my phone. Hence why I haven't posted in a while. I am more open amout the issue and have told many people about the effect of PIED.  Just stay clear, I can't say for sure if this will ultimately fix the issue. But I can say that I feel better with porn eliminated from my life. Strive to be a better person and with time I pray everyone has the strength to recover.
Thanks for answering, Redfire. Your post is very positive, that’s good news. Congratulations on 1000 days, and on heading towards inner peace. I am beginning to suspect that our issues with libido are not only related to porn. Most guys with PIED (including me) feel depressed, hopeless and are ashamed of themselves, and I am pretty sure that constantly feeling this way has a very bad effect on libido. Overstimulation that comes from screen and internet could also be harmful to some of us, as you mentioned it. I am not sure about what I am writing right now, it’s just an hypothesis. Anyway, I am happy to see you are doing better, and I will meditate on what you wrote about peace and social media. Take care.

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Re: 700 days of hardmode.
« Reply #37 on: October 28, 2020, 11:05:17 PM »
I made it to around 1000 days. I even stopped taking note of the days because I felt like I was moved on from the issue.  I had amazing progress.  However i logged on to social media and got on dating apps. I noticed that the dating app would cause me to have dopamine rush from all the girls. I noticed it would set me back... so I recommend staying of apps and social media. I am still going strong. I am still trying to find someone to rewire with. But I have found peace with just giving it time. I would just focus on yourself and stay off social media.  Instagram and tinder seem to be the hard hitters for me. So they are a complete no no to me.  I noticed on them my morning wood would decrease from to much screen time. So in all I just try to spend less time on my phone. Hence why I haven't posted in a while. I am more open amout the issue and have told many people about the effect of PIED.  Just stay clear, I can't say for sure if this will ultimately fix the issue. But I can say that I feel better with porn eliminated from my life. Strive to be a better person and with time I pray everyone has the strength to recover.

Thank you for the post.
I also feel like a better person without porn.  So, it is at least one major positive so far seen.  Without this one affliction I would probably feel like i have come to a pretty good point in life...but, this tends to amplify the other stressors in my life I think, which is tough.
I will strive to be a better person as you challenge us.
Stay strong and I will follow you to day 1000 soon.

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Re: 700 days of hardmode.
« Reply #38 on: January 21, 2021, 09:18:03 AM »
Hey man congrats, well done.

did you have withdrawals?

what other improvements have you noticed?
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Re: 700 days of hardmode.
« Reply #39 on: January 27, 2021, 03:53:38 PM »
1000 plus days is amazing work. I feel that maybe the anxiety of all of this is causing you some psychological troubles in regards to using social media and finding a partner to reboot.
I use social media to connect with friends and only have women who are friends or family on there. I have no problems with MW through using social media.

I hope you find yourself a partner and more success on your journey!