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Teens / Yo kiddos! Read this!!! It'll help
« on: October 27, 2018, 09:42:24 AM »
OK, so I'm starting to realize that this website is like the WebMD of "I was losing my virginity and I couldn't get it up", looking over some other people's journals. WebMD meaning you have a little cold so you google it and then think you have some serious illness. A lot of guys don't get it up on their first times, it's natural. Nerves are so high, and if you watch any porn it can look like a super easy and effortless thing to get hard in a second and pound away for like 15 minutes. It's kind of similar to if you've never played basketball and you only watch NBA games and then are told to play with them. I can tell you that you would be nervous as shit and probably wouldn't be able to play well. Except with sex it's different because if you are nervous it has a direct relation to your dick and if your dick isn't up you're not even playing.

So I personally believe the solution to that problem is to just not be so god damn nervous. Easier said than done though lol. Find a girl that you can be with for awhile and try to avoid sex for a bit. Feel her, embrace her, just be with her. I don't believe this current hookup culture we are in is a good thing, especially for guys with nervousness problems. Don't identify with PIED. Admitting you have a problem should not be the first step, at least for younger guys. Saying you have a problem will only make you more nervous for next time you attempt to have sex. Avoid porn, as it promotes unrealistic standards for both men and women which will only further your issues.

Success Stories / IDK if I'm fully healed but I got some action
« on: March 17, 2018, 04:54:51 PM »
I posted this a month ago in my journal and then just realized that it would be considered a success story.

Day (Something. i don't really know, I haven't PMO'ed in like 7 months but MO'ed like a week ago)

I had actual sex last night, woohoo! Everything worked just the way it should, I got an erection without jerking it at all. I Just pulled down my pants and was good to go. I moved through several positions and maintained my erection the whole time.

But now for the important part... What was different this time vs. the last time I tried but failed to get fully hard? I think it was a combination of not being as nervous (I've been with this girl before and have failed to have sex with her and she didn't judge me so I knew she wouldn't if I failed again) and not watching over sexualized pornographic material that puts me into my head whenever anything slightly sexual happens to me.

Maybe this was another reason: I used to think that I had to oversexualize my thoughts and "pump" myself up to be hard for sex. The other day when I had sex though I just let myself go with the flow and move things along with the girl at a not sped up pace.

I wasn't thinking about this journal or that PIED even existed, I just carried on with what I thought was right and my Johnson did too.

So for the future: I'm done with porn. That was a part of my life in the past and I "enjoyed" it before I found out that it was hurting me. I won't continue doing something if I know that it is hurting me and it offers no upside. I drink alcohol, it hurts me, but the upside is that I have a fun time socializing with others while doing so (I should quit that too, but one battle at a time haha).

With regards to this journal, I really enjoy writing. It helps me process my emotions and things that have been going on throughout my day as well as keep a record of what I actually do. It's hard to sit on my butt and play video games all day if I know I'm going to be writing about it later. I'm probably going to keep my future journaling to pen and paper though, it just seems better suited to my goals. Thanks for everything people of RebootNation :)

Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction/Delayed Ejaculation / Precum?
« on: November 07, 2017, 12:20:42 AM »
I was making out with this girl and afterwards I noticed I had some precum in my shorts. I don't remember having precum since   I was like 13, waking up with little drops of it in my shorts. Is this a forward movement?

I'm on Day 91 of my reboot so you think I'd have morning wood all the time, but I never do. I'll wake up with a semi every once in awhile but it is nowhere near the norm. Do any of you know what is going on? I had morning wood all the time in my teenage years, I'm 21 now, pretty healthy.

Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction/Delayed Ejaculation / One night stands?
« on: September 25, 2017, 04:57:04 PM »
Is a one night stand a relapse? I'm curious because there was like no emotional connection.

I have not been getting MW lately. Earlier in my reboot the MW happened sporadically but it doesn't really happen at all anymore. Is this the flatline?

I'm 21 and have PIED. I'm getting opportunities to have sex with women but I can't get it up! I'm curious how often I should just go for it? Should I test it out like every other week, or like once a month?

I'm on Day 37 of my reboot right now and testing it out won't cause me any problems with relapsing back to PMO

Ages 20-29 / Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: July 26, 2017, 07:19:20 AM »
I am 21 years old and every time I try to have sex with a girl I don't get hard enough. One girl last week was literally giving me a BJ for like 6 minutes and I didn't get fully erect. I don't think I've ever been so confused in my life, I mean when I look at porn I get hard before I even enter the porn site... Just typing "po" into the address bar will give me a semi. So of course when it was time for the real thing I thought I'd be rock hard for hours, nope. It was a very odd time for me.

I have PMO'd 2-3 times a day pretty much since I was 13. I didn't do many sports in high school so most of my time was filled with porn and video games. It made me like a zombie, just bouncing between my house and school in a dopamine haze. After the time I mentioned in the first paragraph I called up my brother to see if he had any ideas on the whole thing. He said some of his coworkers actually were talking about giving up porn (I was pretty surprised by that because I thought porn was a taboo subject). So right after I heard it may be the problem I started searching around for answers on the internet. Found Gabe's videos, found Rebootnation, and here I am.

I gave up porn 2 weeks ago to try to fix my problem. However, when I read more from this website I learned that if you stopped masturbating as well you will recover faster. I'm all about a speedy recovery. But, that will make it a little harder because I get some serious urges to M about every 4 days.

But I am starting now! no more PMO, I'll post updates of how I'm doing on here.

Porn Addiction / Can I still masturbate?
« on: July 26, 2017, 02:55:56 AM »
I am two weeks clean of pornography but about every four days I get tingles all over my body that only jerking it can solve. I'm curious if this will slow down my recovery?

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