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Ages 20-29 / Re: Wet dreams

« on: December 08, 2016, 02:00:19 PM »

Congratulations on the month long nofap
Had the same personal experience: wet dreams of old fetiches.
My analysis of it is: if you do something for so long and so frequently, you are bound to dream about it. Example, if you go surfing twice a day for a week, you'll end up dreaming about surfing. The opposite is also true, if you stop doing something, you'll stop dreaming about it, example: I don't surf anymore so I don't dream about surfing.
So yes the dreams will fade away if you stop consciously "feeding" the fetiches.
Hang in there, you're doing great

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Ages 20-29 / In your experience, do you respond well to phone sex with gf?

« on: December 08, 2016, 01:17:08 PM »

Little back story: I realized that I had a porn addiction almost 3 years ago. I have been on and off nofap with some great relapses, but overall my life has been way more successful and my relationships much more fulfilling.

I'm on my best streak at the moment, having not PMOd since 2 months and Md only once. 3 weeks ago I met this great girl and a week ago we had sex. Of course I PEd, no big deal though, we just laughed it off. I left the city for a business trip and had phone sex with that girl: she sent me sexually charged texts and I replied, and in the end we were both masturbating. I didn't feel any guilt about it, since my now gf knew what I was doing and I was only thinking of her.
But the next day I felt extremely tired and had a day long headache, my day was totally unproductive. I'm thinking it has something to do with the dopamine release. What do you think?
In your experience, have you ruled out phone sex with gf as something to be avoided because of the effects on your behavior?

PS: this community has changed my life, forever grateful