This is my journal. There are many like it, but this one is mine.
I'm a 23-year-old, currently 11 days into quitting PMO once again. I've tried to quit a number of times, some of them an avoidance of porn while still keeping fantasy and masturbation, which only helped me a little. I want to get my life back and figure out this whole sexuality thing without the clouded nonsense of synthesized crap.
I'm a virgin, for what it's worth. Never even kissed a girl, though that was more induced by extreme shyness and lack of socializing than porn itself. Porn was more just an extension of fantasizing for me - the latter being like a gateway drug - and it quickly became an addiction. I have a propensity for getting addicted to things. It sucks and makes me constantly wary of why I'm into doing a particular activity, but the bright side is that I have a lot of experience with quitting things.
I know I can quit it, but it's one of the hardest things I've tried to quit in my life, next to sweets (like chocolate), because it feels too damn good. But I know the "feels good" part isn't worth it because it never lasts and I always want a little more.
I'm making a journal for the first time because I've been relying on only my own accountability for too long with this crap. My main issue is that at this point - like sweets - my instinct to turn to porn is in large part due to stress. I've often rationalized it in the past because, to some extent, it really does make me feel relaxed and helps me fall asleep easier. I also feel like crap later and wake up really groggy, but that's beside the point, right? So says my silly brain.
I'm not good at handling stress "naturally." I don't know what to do in that area. I'm good at medicating stress with addictive nonsense like porn, but I guess I never learned to cope well with it naturally. I know meditation and such is supposed to be good and I've tried that to some extent, but it's really hard to sit down and just do it.
So in the spirit of taking action when the urges arise (I read about using actions somewhere) I'm alternating between tapping my feet and doing multiplication in my head, depending on what's most feasible in the situation, without looking like a crazed animal. I've noticed ASMR is a bit of a gateway drug to porn/fantasy for me, but I don't know why. I guess it hits the same pathways somehow. Which is sad cause ASMR can give me a nice, unique feeling and some nice relaxation, but right now I'm wary of it, cause I think it might just tempt me back into porn/fantasy.
I'm reminded of a quote I've seen a couples times and I think it's quite fitting to cap off this post (cause quite frankly, I'm blanking on how else to cap it off - don't tell anyone though, it'll be our little secret).
"Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Willing is not enough, we must do." -Bruce Lee
I'm a 23-year-old, currently 11 days into quitting PMO once again. I've tried to quit a number of times, some of them an avoidance of porn while still keeping fantasy and masturbation, which only helped me a little. I want to get my life back and figure out this whole sexuality thing without the clouded nonsense of synthesized crap.
I'm a virgin, for what it's worth. Never even kissed a girl, though that was more induced by extreme shyness and lack of socializing than porn itself. Porn was more just an extension of fantasizing for me - the latter being like a gateway drug - and it quickly became an addiction. I have a propensity for getting addicted to things. It sucks and makes me constantly wary of why I'm into doing a particular activity, but the bright side is that I have a lot of experience with quitting things.
I know I can quit it, but it's one of the hardest things I've tried to quit in my life, next to sweets (like chocolate), because it feels too damn good. But I know the "feels good" part isn't worth it because it never lasts and I always want a little more.
I'm making a journal for the first time because I've been relying on only my own accountability for too long with this crap. My main issue is that at this point - like sweets - my instinct to turn to porn is in large part due to stress. I've often rationalized it in the past because, to some extent, it really does make me feel relaxed and helps me fall asleep easier. I also feel like crap later and wake up really groggy, but that's beside the point, right? So says my silly brain.
I'm not good at handling stress "naturally." I don't know what to do in that area. I'm good at medicating stress with addictive nonsense like porn, but I guess I never learned to cope well with it naturally. I know meditation and such is supposed to be good and I've tried that to some extent, but it's really hard to sit down and just do it.
So in the spirit of taking action when the urges arise (I read about using actions somewhere) I'm alternating between tapping my feet and doing multiplication in my head, depending on what's most feasible in the situation, without looking like a crazed animal. I've noticed ASMR is a bit of a gateway drug to porn/fantasy for me, but I don't know why. I guess it hits the same pathways somehow. Which is sad cause ASMR can give me a nice, unique feeling and some nice relaxation, but right now I'm wary of it, cause I think it might just tempt me back into porn/fantasy.
I'm reminded of a quote I've seen a couples times and I think it's quite fitting to cap off this post (cause quite frankly, I'm blanking on how else to cap it off - don't tell anyone though, it'll be our little secret).
"Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Willing is not enough, we must do." -Bruce Lee