I want to know whether any of you have solid evidence to support that fantasizing (or mental flashbacks) to real sex is wrong. I'm asking this because it seems like its a little challenging for me to not have flashbacks even in the midst of abstinence. I had a strong desire to watch porn today, but I refrained. I started to notice one good thing i.e. I seemed to have forgotten the visually pleasuring scenes that I craved so much. Yet, I cannot forget the times I had sex, the positions, the memory the sensations and such. Is this a bad thing? And I seem to get moderate erection when I do have these thoughts in my mind.
Fantasizing about real sex...is it wrong?
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Don't beat yourself up about the parts you can't control (unbidden thoughts) but I would recommend avoiding fantasy when it comes to choosing whether to focus on certain thoughts. See the reasoning here: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/what-about-fantasizing-during-reboot
What I take from it is that because your addicted brain is seeking some kind of stimulus, even fantasizing about non-porn scenarios may slow the process. Looks like some say that it depends on your situation though.
Also, it seems that many of us get some degree of success from coming up with ways to distract ourselves when the urges arise.
Edit: Here's another article on the subject that may clear up the question a bit more: http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-stimuli-must-i-avoid-during-my-reboot-did-i-relapse
What I take from it is that because your addicted brain is seeking some kind of stimulus, even fantasizing about non-porn scenarios may slow the process. Looks like some say that it depends on your situation though.
Also, it seems that many of us get some degree of success from coming up with ways to distract ourselves when the urges arise.
Edit: Here's another article on the subject that may clear up the question a bit more: http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-stimuli-must-i-avoid-during-my-reboot-did-i-relapse
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moviesrus said:
I believe the addict in you is beating on the door wanting to get in.
Of course, when he's in, he's going to lead you straight to the porn but you're a lot better than that.
So the best he can do is try to give you these flashes and he found something that worked. And that's memory of your real life sexual experiences. The addict in you will try anything to get his way that got you in the mess to begin with. It's a battle that we're all fighting.