30yearsoppressed
Member
This is my first post so I guess I tell a little of my story.
Before I start I would like to state that I am a compulsive/obsessive person. With most things that make me feel good. I am a recovered drug addict and alcoholic. I have been an active member of alcoholics anonymous since January 16, 2008. I have worked all 12 steps and worked them again many times. I am sure the steps can help me with this but there is no groups or help for this anywhere near me. I think God may have led me here. I have tried to win over this most of my adult life with only failures resulting. Anyways, on to my story.
I was born in 1977. We were poor. I mean dirt poor. 5 of us slept in 1 bed, there was never any sexual abuse. When I was 9 months old my mother ran off and I would not know her for the first 13 years of my life. At age 5 my brother and 2 sisters were placed in an orphanage where we would remain until I was 11. This is where I masturbated my first time. I was 10. I remember the first time like it was yesterday. I remember everything about it. I was hooked.
My father came and got us out when I was 11. I was scared. My dad worked 2 jobs and my siblings had better things to do than hang with me. I am the baby. I was alone most days and nights with cable TV so masturbation became routinely 2,3,5 times a day. If people were home I would occupy the bathroom for 30-45 minutes many times a day.
If cable was available late night and other people were asleep in the room I would masturbate anyway. It has controlled my life my whole life.
I tell you this to give you an idea of where and when my road here started.
Masturbation has ruined relationships, I have lost jobs due to not going to work and isolated me due to obsession.
So we come to age 25. I started a relationship with the woman I now call wife. She is a great person and I love her deeply. But I found internet porn at age 30. (I know I'm a little slow at finding anything but my penis).
Masturbating 2,3,5 times a day I would have to stop for a few days to have sex with her so she did without at times. Then at 35 I simply got to where I couldn't stop, even for a few days. This caused unhappy scenes in my home. I have continued to use porn and masturbate multiple times a day. Then I got sick 3weeks ago and was out of it for a week. So I had a jump on stopping. I masturbated 1time in 2 weeks. I was getting this. Then we had sex a few days ago and I couldn't perform. Today I actually got curious and I know it wasn't the smartest thing to do but I experimented. I pulled up the porn and tried masturbation. It worked fine. Everything worked fine. So my truth is that not only am I addicted to masturbation but I am addicted to porn as well.
I have beaten myself up and hated myself for so many years. Cursed myself the weakling. Actually accepted that there was no hope of normalcy. So you guys and this place are truly my last hope. I have nowhere else to turn. I have tried everything I knew to get the idea out of my head. To stop. I can't do this on my own. Will you please help me.
Before I start I would like to state that I am a compulsive/obsessive person. With most things that make me feel good. I am a recovered drug addict and alcoholic. I have been an active member of alcoholics anonymous since January 16, 2008. I have worked all 12 steps and worked them again many times. I am sure the steps can help me with this but there is no groups or help for this anywhere near me. I think God may have led me here. I have tried to win over this most of my adult life with only failures resulting. Anyways, on to my story.
I was born in 1977. We were poor. I mean dirt poor. 5 of us slept in 1 bed, there was never any sexual abuse. When I was 9 months old my mother ran off and I would not know her for the first 13 years of my life. At age 5 my brother and 2 sisters were placed in an orphanage where we would remain until I was 11. This is where I masturbated my first time. I was 10. I remember the first time like it was yesterday. I remember everything about it. I was hooked.
My father came and got us out when I was 11. I was scared. My dad worked 2 jobs and my siblings had better things to do than hang with me. I am the baby. I was alone most days and nights with cable TV so masturbation became routinely 2,3,5 times a day. If people were home I would occupy the bathroom for 30-45 minutes many times a day.
If cable was available late night and other people were asleep in the room I would masturbate anyway. It has controlled my life my whole life.
I tell you this to give you an idea of where and when my road here started.
Masturbation has ruined relationships, I have lost jobs due to not going to work and isolated me due to obsession.
So we come to age 25. I started a relationship with the woman I now call wife. She is a great person and I love her deeply. But I found internet porn at age 30. (I know I'm a little slow at finding anything but my penis).
Masturbating 2,3,5 times a day I would have to stop for a few days to have sex with her so she did without at times. Then at 35 I simply got to where I couldn't stop, even for a few days. This caused unhappy scenes in my home. I have continued to use porn and masturbate multiple times a day. Then I got sick 3weeks ago and was out of it for a week. So I had a jump on stopping. I masturbated 1time in 2 weeks. I was getting this. Then we had sex a few days ago and I couldn't perform. Today I actually got curious and I know it wasn't the smartest thing to do but I experimented. I pulled up the porn and tried masturbation. It worked fine. Everything worked fine. So my truth is that not only am I addicted to masturbation but I am addicted to porn as well.
I have beaten myself up and hated myself for so many years. Cursed myself the weakling. Actually accepted that there was no hope of normalcy. So you guys and this place are truly my last hope. I have nowhere else to turn. I have tried everything I knew to get the idea out of my head. To stop. I can't do this on my own. Will you please help me.