Blenderhead
Member
Hello guys! (English is not my primary language but I try my best)
I have been rebooting for 3 years and about a month ago I finally started seeing big improvements. I have not watched porn in more than 3 years. I have had severe ED, even with porn 3 years ago. I could not get it up for a whole night when I tried with a woman and I was shocked at that time. I have not really had morning wood either and most mornings my dick has seemed completely dead. I started noticing the problems about 3,5 years ago. My reboot process has been very non-linear and sometimes this made me wonder whether progress was really happening, but yesterday I finally had a breakthrough, I think. I started watching porn when I was 12 and masturbating regularly. At least once per day. This resulted in me never having a girlfriend until my thirties because I was very introverted partly because of porn, but I did not know. I even wondered many times if I was really attracted to women and I felt so weird. I even had the belief that I could never be with a woman. I then made a decision to learn to become good with women about about 3 years ago.It took me 6 months without porn before I finally had sex a couple of times. However, I continued edging after this, also fantasizing, so my progress was slowed down even though I masturbated much less than before this. I then had trouble for many sexual encounters after this in a period of 2 years (failed more than 30 times at least in a row), where I have flatlined most days and where I have only kissed girls and not been able to penetrate. I have had a few blowjobs but mostly only kissing and most times I was not hard. A few times during this reboot time I was hard ... but mostly not!
Now after going hard mode for the first time in 5 months, where I have stopped fantasy and the little edging I had a habit of doing I have finally started waking up with morning wood. It's started to happen almost every day and the morning wood is about 70-90 % and sometimes almost 100 % Mostly the erections fade away quickly for me, but I do not force it. Yesterday then I had sex! And I had a hard penis for 15 minutes straight. I used condom and I had feeling. I did however suffer from extreme PE. So I relaxed and took it slow, but it was really good! Now this morning I woke up with complete morning wood again and feeling like I can easily have sex!
My tips!
1) Don't edge. It will really slow you down. Make it a habit not to touch yourself. Try to only have orgasm with girls if it's possible and go hard mode for some months.
2) Stop fantasizing. Break this habit. Do productive things instead. This has been so difficult for me to break, since I have done this for years but now I am finally learning to live without sexual fantasy. Sex is not about fantasy at all!
3) Take it slow when you have sex. Get to know the women you date beforehand. It will take away the performance anxiety that is a part of it!
4) And stop watching porn obviously! Stop it completely!
The reason why it has taken me 3 years to get to this place is because I have not really had a girlfriend most of the time. I think I could have rebooted in 1 year or maybe 1,5 years if I had had a more clean reboot and a partner to rewire with instead of different girls. I really feel confident that I can have a lot of sex from this day forth! And I am really happy about learning to live fapfree and pornfree! Hopefully this story can inspire! It will probably be my last post, since I really reached a turning point yesterday!
A big thanks to everyone who spreads this information! I could have used it many years ago but I finally broke the habit!
I have been rebooting for 3 years and about a month ago I finally started seeing big improvements. I have not watched porn in more than 3 years. I have had severe ED, even with porn 3 years ago. I could not get it up for a whole night when I tried with a woman and I was shocked at that time. I have not really had morning wood either and most mornings my dick has seemed completely dead. I started noticing the problems about 3,5 years ago. My reboot process has been very non-linear and sometimes this made me wonder whether progress was really happening, but yesterday I finally had a breakthrough, I think. I started watching porn when I was 12 and masturbating regularly. At least once per day. This resulted in me never having a girlfriend until my thirties because I was very introverted partly because of porn, but I did not know. I even wondered many times if I was really attracted to women and I felt so weird. I even had the belief that I could never be with a woman. I then made a decision to learn to become good with women about about 3 years ago.It took me 6 months without porn before I finally had sex a couple of times. However, I continued edging after this, also fantasizing, so my progress was slowed down even though I masturbated much less than before this. I then had trouble for many sexual encounters after this in a period of 2 years (failed more than 30 times at least in a row), where I have flatlined most days and where I have only kissed girls and not been able to penetrate. I have had a few blowjobs but mostly only kissing and most times I was not hard. A few times during this reboot time I was hard ... but mostly not!
Now after going hard mode for the first time in 5 months, where I have stopped fantasy and the little edging I had a habit of doing I have finally started waking up with morning wood. It's started to happen almost every day and the morning wood is about 70-90 % and sometimes almost 100 % Mostly the erections fade away quickly for me, but I do not force it. Yesterday then I had sex! And I had a hard penis for 15 minutes straight. I used condom and I had feeling. I did however suffer from extreme PE. So I relaxed and took it slow, but it was really good! Now this morning I woke up with complete morning wood again and feeling like I can easily have sex!
My tips!
1) Don't edge. It will really slow you down. Make it a habit not to touch yourself. Try to only have orgasm with girls if it's possible and go hard mode for some months.
2) Stop fantasizing. Break this habit. Do productive things instead. This has been so difficult for me to break, since I have done this for years but now I am finally learning to live without sexual fantasy. Sex is not about fantasy at all!
3) Take it slow when you have sex. Get to know the women you date beforehand. It will take away the performance anxiety that is a part of it!
4) And stop watching porn obviously! Stop it completely!
The reason why it has taken me 3 years to get to this place is because I have not really had a girlfriend most of the time. I think I could have rebooted in 1 year or maybe 1,5 years if I had had a more clean reboot and a partner to rewire with instead of different girls. I really feel confident that I can have a lot of sex from this day forth! And I am really happy about learning to live fapfree and pornfree! Hopefully this story can inspire! It will probably be my last post, since I really reached a turning point yesterday!
A big thanks to everyone who spreads this information! I could have used it many years ago but I finally broke the habit!