I have PIED and my girlfriend lives far away

luiz

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i'm addicted to pornography for 4 years and i started rebooting 2 days ago but i was wondering if there is any problem i see my girlfriend naked by cell phone, we live far away so this is the only way we have
 
Hey, congratulations on starting the reboot! I would say that looking at your girlfriend's nudes are certainly a slightly better alternative than porn, but most people who have gone through this journey or are going through this including myself would tell you that at least 90 days hard mode (and I am saying at least) could be beneficial to everyone- especially if you have PIED. By hard mode I mean- no porn, no masturbation, no sexual fantasy, no orgasm for as long as it feels right to you. It does speed up the reboot process especially for PIED cases. Although I do understand that it might be a difficult choice for you to do so staying in a relationship but there's one rule that Gabe Deem says and which I have started to deeply adhere to is "Not real, No deal"- which means that if you are not getting aroused by a living breathing person sitting right in front of you, and you're suffering from PIED then there's no reason to be aroused by any other source and only engage in real intimacy till you feel it is better! Cheers on the journey, you have our support!
 

luiz

New Member
hey, thank you very much for taking this question out of me, I thought that seeing her naked on her cell phone and personally it was the same thing so there would be no problem but I talked to her and decided to go 90 days without pornography and orgasm, being without sexual fantasy is a little difficult because  she likes to talk about it so I don?t think it?s a problem fantasizing about her as a real person once and for all, when the 90 day challenge is over I?ll be at her house and reconnecting willn?t be a problem, I hope everything  go well
 
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