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Ages 40 and up / Ex-edger
« on: May 01, 2020, 05:28:32 PM »
Hi Guys, I wanted to name this thread "edger" b/c that is what I am right now, literally today.
But w/ my new positive slant on life (thanks UK), I decided to name it "ex-edger" b/c that is what I will be someday.
I feel like a hypocrite right now. I feel like a faker.
Like, who am I to advise or encourage anyone when I can't even advise/encourage myself?
You guys wouldn't believe how out of control I am at times. (maybe some of you can)  I literally edged w/ this screen up staring me in the face across the room on my laptop. I don't know how you can get more hypocritical than that.
You guys are bravely working your asses off and I'm literally across the room edging to porn.
I wish my first post was more positive but if I'm not brutally honest here, where can I be?  And if I'm not honest, I can't be accountable.
Speaking of which, I hope you guys will hold me accountable. I don't want to lie to anyone or myself.

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Porn Addiction / How about an Eastern approach?
« on: April 29, 2020, 11:48:06 AM »
Hi Guys (including Gabe), The premise of rebooting here seems to be to go cold turkey (Western)- that there's no gradual approach that works.
I'm not trying to generate an argument here.
Let's just ask-- "What if?" What if there was an Eastern approach that works?  What could work?
For me (a Westerner) a slow, incremental,  gradual approach makes sense.  But watching less and less porn, moving to pics, less graphic, less time doing it... doesn't work.
What I did find helpful is having recovery related vids bookmarked. Then, after I o'ed and was most disgusted w/ myself/porn. I'd click a healthy vid for 1 minute, then 2, then more.  It led to less immediate relapses.
Any ideas? 

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Porn Addiction / If it quacks like a duck
« on: April 19, 2020, 05:22:26 PM »
Hi Guys, I've been watching young men like Gabe faced repeatedly w/ the idea that porn is not an addiction. It is said all the thousands of accounts here are anecdotal, placebo effect, questionable science, moral claims, mental issues...
But when I look at my own story and those of the many I've read (these people have no reason to lie), they invariably describe inability to quit, negative effects, withdrawal symptoms, shame, distress, physical issues...  I say to myself:
It looks like a duck and it quacks like a duck; it's probably a duck.  (Even though I can't prove it.)
I'm addicted to porn.

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Porn Addiction / Quick thanks to Gabe
« on: April 19, 2020, 04:56:23 PM »
Hi guys, I'm brand new here. I'm starting w/ a quick thanks to Gabe for the idea of moving my laptop. My reclining chair is a trigger for me. Duh! 
I'm at the kitchen table now and I'm only going to use the recliner for reading and reboot stuff.

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