TheUser24
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I'm not ejaculating and can't stay erect.
So I'm a bisexual guy and recently started having an ED problem. I don't know the reason why, but I'm hoping for some advice.
So normally when I start getting physical with someone I get very turned on (fully erect & ready) but, at the moment when I start to makeout with someone my penis stays limp. Its taking a lot to get me hard, once it is, I'm not able to stay fully hard during intercourse.
I'm going to go into details just to see if anyone has had a similar thing happen to them and maybe ways I can get back to normal.
Alright, here is the story:
back in January 2016 when I started dating this guy that would eventually become my boyfriend, every once in a while I wouldn't be able to get hard when normally if we start making out I would. We would just cuddle and I would eventually get erect and we'd have sex. That was only happening in the beginning of our relationship before we were exclusive.
During our time together we were very close, had sex all the time, I could probably count on 1 hand how many times I jerked off alone while we were together.
There was a few strange things though, My dick was like the faces of the moon, sometimes I would cum within a few minutes, others I would go so long we would stop because we were tired. Once maybe twice I would get to a place where I would go and go but not cum, but never went limp, I just couldn't cum. So if you will, I thought I needed some kinda reset. To reset, I would use my fleshlight. Seemed to do the trick and would bring my dick back to normal.
Fast forward to mid-January 2017 we broke up. No big deal honestly. In that relationship, I was the top, even though I'm versatile, he would only bottom. So about 2 weeks (Having not masturbated but maybe once) after all that, having only topped for about a year I wanted to bottom. Had sex, I bottomed, it was great.
A week after that I went on a date with this really attractive guy, he was my exact type. We ended up at his place started making out, I didn't get hard right away like I normally would. I eventually got hard and we started having sex. This was also the first time I'd had a condom on in forever. After a decent amount of time I notice I wasn't close to cumming. He was. So I changed positions a few times and it didn't help and worse I could feel myself getting more and more limp. Freaking out I lied and said I came, whatever. So the next day I figured it would be a good idea to try and do a reset. I tried to jerk off, no porn, no lube, just my hand. After some time I wasn't even close to cumming and I was having a hard time keeping it up. So I grabbed my fleshlight and a few minutes of that I came.
I thought everything would be fine after that. Had a random guy over after that to test things out. Same thing, took forever for me to get hard, started going limp after an even shorter amount of time than before.
So now I'm not sure what steps to take. Anyone that's dealt with this, your advice would be appreciated.
Few things about me, I'm 28 been nearly porn free for 2 years, hardly drink alcohol, don't smoke anything and not on any medications. I live a very healthy and fit lifestyle.
So I'm a bisexual guy and recently started having an ED problem. I don't know the reason why, but I'm hoping for some advice.
So normally when I start getting physical with someone I get very turned on (fully erect & ready) but, at the moment when I start to makeout with someone my penis stays limp. Its taking a lot to get me hard, once it is, I'm not able to stay fully hard during intercourse.
I'm going to go into details just to see if anyone has had a similar thing happen to them and maybe ways I can get back to normal.
Alright, here is the story:
back in January 2016 when I started dating this guy that would eventually become my boyfriend, every once in a while I wouldn't be able to get hard when normally if we start making out I would. We would just cuddle and I would eventually get erect and we'd have sex. That was only happening in the beginning of our relationship before we were exclusive.
During our time together we were very close, had sex all the time, I could probably count on 1 hand how many times I jerked off alone while we were together.
There was a few strange things though, My dick was like the faces of the moon, sometimes I would cum within a few minutes, others I would go so long we would stop because we were tired. Once maybe twice I would get to a place where I would go and go but not cum, but never went limp, I just couldn't cum. So if you will, I thought I needed some kinda reset. To reset, I would use my fleshlight. Seemed to do the trick and would bring my dick back to normal.
Fast forward to mid-January 2017 we broke up. No big deal honestly. In that relationship, I was the top, even though I'm versatile, he would only bottom. So about 2 weeks (Having not masturbated but maybe once) after all that, having only topped for about a year I wanted to bottom. Had sex, I bottomed, it was great.
A week after that I went on a date with this really attractive guy, he was my exact type. We ended up at his place started making out, I didn't get hard right away like I normally would. I eventually got hard and we started having sex. This was also the first time I'd had a condom on in forever. After a decent amount of time I notice I wasn't close to cumming. He was. So I changed positions a few times and it didn't help and worse I could feel myself getting more and more limp. Freaking out I lied and said I came, whatever. So the next day I figured it would be a good idea to try and do a reset. I tried to jerk off, no porn, no lube, just my hand. After some time I wasn't even close to cumming and I was having a hard time keeping it up. So I grabbed my fleshlight and a few minutes of that I came.
I thought everything would be fine after that. Had a random guy over after that to test things out. Same thing, took forever for me to get hard, started going limp after an even shorter amount of time than before.
So now I'm not sure what steps to take. Anyone that's dealt with this, your advice would be appreciated.
Few things about me, I'm 28 been nearly porn free for 2 years, hardly drink alcohol, don't smoke anything and not on any medications. I live a very healthy and fit lifestyle.