Day 1 AGAIN!
- Thread starter tmsx
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Hey tmsx, welcome to the Nation!
Everyone's journey begins with day 1. Your brain can change your entire life, so there is always hope. Some advice:
Hope that helps! Hope the best for you. Much love and keep truckin.
Everyone's journey begins with day 1. Your brain can change your entire life, so there is always hope. Some advice:
- Learn what phsically happens in your brain for it to become "hijacked," then identify any triggers and cues that lead to porn use. Once you identify them, avoid them as best as possible for a period of time. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ffKy-DFU1S4
- Make a schedule. Fill your day up with productive and healthy things. Idle time is the "devil's playground" as the saying goes. Spend your time pursuing what you want, rather than spending it thinking about what you don't want. This is the biggest mistakes addicts make: https://youtu.be/11OCsLmoZj8
- Help others. Post in other journals and encourage someone. This will help you have meaning and purpose and always boosts my mood and resolve when I'm feeling down and "worthless" or like a "failure." Helping others helps ourselves.
- Avoid all artificial stimulation. This will fall under my first tip, but avoid anything on a screen that you find arousing or sexual. I recommend staying off social media unless you're using it for education or communication. Mindless and pointless browsing is a bad idea, where you will just be getting an endless dopamine hit from never ending novelty. Here are the basics of rebooting: https://youtu.be/z4yx4ouxGbQ
Hope that helps! Hope the best for you. Much love and keep truckin.
jimthejones
Active Member
Makes the two of us , don't worry if you failed, part of staying on course is getting up...it takes patience, self-discipline, and commitment.
Flyfisherman
Member
Don't beat yourself up too hard, remember that by just writing on and reading this forum is already a good start to becoming free of PMO. Get educated and stay focused.
A helpful tip, that has helped me somewhat, is using a "spreadsheet". So instead of a day-counter you can just mark in your calendar the days when you PMO. There's no need to count on what day you're on. That way you can see progress and every time you PMO it doesn't feel like your back at the beginning (ie. back to day 1), because you obviously aren't. Every day that you combat this addiction is a step forward.
A helpful tip, that has helped me somewhat, is using a "spreadsheet". So instead of a day-counter you can just mark in your calendar the days when you PMO. There's no need to count on what day you're on. That way you can see progress and every time you PMO it doesn't feel like your back at the beginning (ie. back to day 1), because you obviously aren't. Every day that you combat this addiction is a step forward.