joepanic
Respected Member
Good morning gentlemen Allow me to introduce myself as an ex porn addict I was addicted from the age of 14 or 15 long before the internet was invented In the last few years I have worked to lessen my porn use till I am not clean of it I have never felt better.
So today I feel I can give a little insight or advice to those both starting out and those who have been working hard over time to beat this addiction and that's a tip on managing triggers. The one trigger you hear about so often is that of "being alone" This I had experienced many times when the kids went off to school, wife off to work, and I have a free day with a house to myself. My suggestion is simply go outside and walk around the block. Set a time limit on it 30 minutes or something Even if you do it with the intention of coming back and acting out anyway. Two things are going to happen. One is you will probably think about your addiction while on your walk and possibly(and their is no guarantee here) manage the urge or trigger and not surf it. Or you will come back and surf it anyway. But in the end you will have broken a typical pattern in some small way. Instead of a 5 hour binge you will only have a 4 1/2 hour binge .
I challenge anyone who is still relapsing to give it a try and let me know the result. It is something that's small and very manageable and can be built on over time
For me breaking patterns was such a huge part of abstaining from porn. In the end before I actually kicked it my surf sessions had averaged a few minutes rather than the 4-5 hour sessions I was so used to
Cheers Post often it helps me it helps you
So today I feel I can give a little insight or advice to those both starting out and those who have been working hard over time to beat this addiction and that's a tip on managing triggers. The one trigger you hear about so often is that of "being alone" This I had experienced many times when the kids went off to school, wife off to work, and I have a free day with a house to myself. My suggestion is simply go outside and walk around the block. Set a time limit on it 30 minutes or something Even if you do it with the intention of coming back and acting out anyway. Two things are going to happen. One is you will probably think about your addiction while on your walk and possibly(and their is no guarantee here) manage the urge or trigger and not surf it. Or you will come back and surf it anyway. But in the end you will have broken a typical pattern in some small way. Instead of a 5 hour binge you will only have a 4 1/2 hour binge .
I challenge anyone who is still relapsing to give it a try and let me know the result. It is something that's small and very manageable and can be built on over time
For me breaking patterns was such a huge part of abstaining from porn. In the end before I actually kicked it my surf sessions had averaged a few minutes rather than the 4-5 hour sessions I was so used to
Cheers Post often it helps me it helps you