I am 53, suffering with ED for 7 or so years now. I started masturbating at 15 and never stopped. Maybe 2 or more times a week. Always to images in magazines or videos or internet. A couple of years ago I would M for hours in front of PC maybe couple of times a week, I was thinking I better O all I can now cause my ED would worsen. My ED has worsened since then. I stopped that now, porn just does not excite me like it used to. I still M to porn but I need the visual to O. I"m married almost 25 years now, sex with my wife was mostly always good, recently really great because of ED pills I can please her for quite a while, but I can't O in her. For the last 15-20 years I would only O with her hand or mine instead of birth control. Now I can not O with a BJ or intercourse for quite a while, can't even get close to it. The feeling is just not there.
I take ED pills and now penile injections to get hard with some success. But to O takes A LOT of hand stimulation. I can not get myself hard to M without ED pills either, porn or no porn. My urologist diagnosed me with poor blood flow in my penis, but where is the sensitivity I once had? If I stop all hand/penis contact will I get back the sensitivity I once had? Maybe better erections without pills?
I have been to a sex therapist, who said something is wrong in my head, I do sense that something shut down in my brain. I used to really appreciate a beautiful women on the street, not so much any more. Just like porn used to excite me, not now. Recently I have been to nude resorts and other sexually charged activities, not much visual excitement there either. Recently have danced with other women, grinding and other genital contact does nothing for me physically and mentally?
Also Inoften watch porn with my wife while having sex to help with the excitement, seems to excite me a little. I can get off with her hand without it but it adds something.
Recently my wife and I have started swinging with other couples. I was hoping that the excitement would help, it does not. I would think the excitement of a new woman would work, still having ED problem even with the pills then, I end up going home with my wife so she can finish me off with her hand or mine.
Has anyone here had a similar problem with the constant hand jobs? I've read it will de-sensitize the penis. I am hoping that if I have no hand jobs for a while the sensitivity will come back, maybe even better erections too? Also I am wondering if my years of M to porn and images, even if not always excessive is my ED issue? Now I'm thinking it may be.
I take ED pills and now penile injections to get hard with some success. But to O takes A LOT of hand stimulation. I can not get myself hard to M without ED pills either, porn or no porn. My urologist diagnosed me with poor blood flow in my penis, but where is the sensitivity I once had? If I stop all hand/penis contact will I get back the sensitivity I once had? Maybe better erections without pills?
I have been to a sex therapist, who said something is wrong in my head, I do sense that something shut down in my brain. I used to really appreciate a beautiful women on the street, not so much any more. Just like porn used to excite me, not now. Recently I have been to nude resorts and other sexually charged activities, not much visual excitement there either. Recently have danced with other women, grinding and other genital contact does nothing for me physically and mentally?
Also Inoften watch porn with my wife while having sex to help with the excitement, seems to excite me a little. I can get off with her hand without it but it adds something.
Recently my wife and I have started swinging with other couples. I was hoping that the excitement would help, it does not. I would think the excitement of a new woman would work, still having ED problem even with the pills then, I end up going home with my wife so she can finish me off with her hand or mine.
Has anyone here had a similar problem with the constant hand jobs? I've read it will de-sensitize the penis. I am hoping that if I have no hand jobs for a while the sensitivity will come back, maybe even better erections too? Also I am wondering if my years of M to porn and images, even if not always excessive is my ED issue? Now I'm thinking it may be.