Question for DeltaFosAware

Hey brother,I really like your posts.They are extremely self reflective,and you really lay things out in a no nonsense pattern.Just a couple of questions for you..if you don't mind? How long did it take you to get to that point where you are now saying " I'm just gonna go with the flow",because you seem very comfortable in your current situation? Myself,I am still wondering if all this is true..that's how much of a newbie I am. Second,why do you think you personally got addicted to porn? I know for me,the discovery came when I beat the shit out of some guy 6 months ago and almost went to jail for 5-10 years.That shock of being away from wife and children,coupled with my abusive childhood came to the surface...let's just say to the 1000th power.Lastly,when getting divorced,and I know it is always a "his side,her side and the truth",why didn't you get out early on when you signs? At the time did you think that maybe you "could change her".I always think the only ones who make out in the divorce are the lawyers and the ones that get the shaft are the kids.Unlike your situation,I want to save my marriage and my wife has never mentioned divorced and doesn't have "lover boy" waiting in the wings.Also,what helped you best with abstaining and getting to this point of recovery ( ie: therapy,abstaining,group therapy,books,videos)? Thanks brother,any info would be appreciated