Do I Tell My Wife I Have Good News And Bad News? Good News ? It?s NOT ED, Bad News ? It?s PIED
I?ve been experiencing ED for a number of years now ? at least 5 or 6. I recently came across an article about PIED. I dug deeper and found several videos like TED Talks about it. When they were describing the gradual events leading up to PIED and the need for novelty in porn and escalating need for more extreme forms of porn, fetishes and shocking stimulation I realized it was a description of me.
Until now I didn?t know I had a problem. In fact, I suddenly realized that I only have ED when it comes to having sex with my wife. She seems to have accepted the fact that I have ED, perhaps a little early in life as I?m only sixty, in good health and we both suppose that it happens to some guys. I was confused as to why I could get a rock hard erection for porn but not for her. Even after using Viagra or Cialis I couldn?t get a lasting erection for her even though she?s a beautiful sexy, receptive woman. The best I could expect was a partial erection for 5 minutes or so then I went limp. Then I would do my best to satisfy her orally and manually but that was a poor substitute for real sex.
There were times that I would try edging just before sex. I?d sneak into my office while she was upstairs getting ready for bed. I?d click to a porn site, fast forward to the raunchiest action scene and start rubbing up a hard on. The thinking was that I could get myself stimulated in advance to give us both a better experience when I got into the bed. That didn?t help. I desperately tried to imagine myself in one of my favorite porn scenes while having sex with her. That didn?t help.
Today marks day 18 or my reboot. I?m so glad I stumbled upon websites that reveal the truth and science behind porn induced erectile dysfunction. I haven?t even considered watching a porn video since I learned what I needed to do. I deleted all my porn bookmarks and I?ll never go back to that again. I?m experiencing the flat line now. My cock is having a hissy fit and is pretending not to be my friend any more. I am waking up in the middle of the night unable to get back to sleep for a couple hours. These are all conditions that are expected according to so many forum posts and scientific research. I am fully prepared to do whatever it takes to get through to the other side. On the positive side of things, in this short time I?m beginning to get a stronger feeling of confidence and enthusiasm for life, my relationship, my business, music, hobbies etc. This too was predicted.
The path has been charted for us. We know what to expect and we just need to soldier on and take our instructions from the head on our shoulders instead of the one between our legs.
I?m looking forward to the emerging new me. There is one thing, however that I?m struggling with. Do I tell her or do I just go through this and emerge one day ?miraculously cured? from my ED? On one hand I feel I should and it might help get results sooner. On the other hand I am worried about being judged and feeling humiliated. She is the type of person who believes that if I go into a strip bar to look at a nude dancer it is equivalent to me cheating on her. Does anyone have experience in sharing the information with your partner?
What would you do?
I?ve been experiencing ED for a number of years now ? at least 5 or 6. I recently came across an article about PIED. I dug deeper and found several videos like TED Talks about it. When they were describing the gradual events leading up to PIED and the need for novelty in porn and escalating need for more extreme forms of porn, fetishes and shocking stimulation I realized it was a description of me.
Until now I didn?t know I had a problem. In fact, I suddenly realized that I only have ED when it comes to having sex with my wife. She seems to have accepted the fact that I have ED, perhaps a little early in life as I?m only sixty, in good health and we both suppose that it happens to some guys. I was confused as to why I could get a rock hard erection for porn but not for her. Even after using Viagra or Cialis I couldn?t get a lasting erection for her even though she?s a beautiful sexy, receptive woman. The best I could expect was a partial erection for 5 minutes or so then I went limp. Then I would do my best to satisfy her orally and manually but that was a poor substitute for real sex.
There were times that I would try edging just before sex. I?d sneak into my office while she was upstairs getting ready for bed. I?d click to a porn site, fast forward to the raunchiest action scene and start rubbing up a hard on. The thinking was that I could get myself stimulated in advance to give us both a better experience when I got into the bed. That didn?t help. I desperately tried to imagine myself in one of my favorite porn scenes while having sex with her. That didn?t help.
Today marks day 18 or my reboot. I?m so glad I stumbled upon websites that reveal the truth and science behind porn induced erectile dysfunction. I haven?t even considered watching a porn video since I learned what I needed to do. I deleted all my porn bookmarks and I?ll never go back to that again. I?m experiencing the flat line now. My cock is having a hissy fit and is pretending not to be my friend any more. I am waking up in the middle of the night unable to get back to sleep for a couple hours. These are all conditions that are expected according to so many forum posts and scientific research. I am fully prepared to do whatever it takes to get through to the other side. On the positive side of things, in this short time I?m beginning to get a stronger feeling of confidence and enthusiasm for life, my relationship, my business, music, hobbies etc. This too was predicted.
The path has been charted for us. We know what to expect and we just need to soldier on and take our instructions from the head on our shoulders instead of the one between our legs.
I?m looking forward to the emerging new me. There is one thing, however that I?m struggling with. Do I tell her or do I just go through this and emerge one day ?miraculously cured? from my ED? On one hand I feel I should and it might help get results sooner. On the other hand I am worried about being judged and feeling humiliated. She is the type of person who believes that if I go into a strip bar to look at a nude dancer it is equivalent to me cheating on her. Does anyone have experience in sharing the information with your partner?
What would you do?