Murgatroyd
Member
Greetings. Just registered. This is my first post. I am here not because I think I have a problem with porn or masturbation but because my wife says if I don?t stop watching porn and masturbating, she is considering leaving me. She and I have been together since 1989 (32 years in May). Not sure how to approach it. I am 62 years old. I have had a robust porn and masturbation habit on and off since I was 14 (that would be before broadband internet). She is aware of all my porn and masturbation-related activities.
She doesn?t like having sex for as long as I like to have sex, and she only really likes plain vanilla sex (in my opinion) whereas I like some things that don?t press her EASY button. Therefore she has decided I must have a problem with porn and masturbation. She feels I have porn/masturbation-induced Delayed Ejaculation. I was not aware I had a problem. I am not convinced I do, other than that my wife is considering leaving me. Which is why I am here.
I have read Gary Wilson?s book, ?Your Brain on Porn? and perused the web site and resources, so I believe I am up to speed (even ordered the second edition this week to read on a road trip together, having lent our first edition to a friend for whom it did a huge amount of good). I?m just unsure how much of what I?ve read really applies to me (I can hear your eyes rolling, but yeah), because it seems to be targeting much younger men questioning their own choices, who don?t have a lot of experience with females and can?t get it up. These are not descriptions of me.
To be sure, I know there are men my age here, so I am assuming I am not the only one with the issues I?m facing. Surely responses to this post will make helpful suggestions I have not considered. I am looking forward to that. Thanks in advance.
She doesn?t like having sex for as long as I like to have sex, and she only really likes plain vanilla sex (in my opinion) whereas I like some things that don?t press her EASY button. Therefore she has decided I must have a problem with porn and masturbation. She feels I have porn/masturbation-induced Delayed Ejaculation. I was not aware I had a problem. I am not convinced I do, other than that my wife is considering leaving me. Which is why I am here.
I have read Gary Wilson?s book, ?Your Brain on Porn? and perused the web site and resources, so I believe I am up to speed (even ordered the second edition this week to read on a road trip together, having lent our first edition to a friend for whom it did a huge amount of good). I?m just unsure how much of what I?ve read really applies to me (I can hear your eyes rolling, but yeah), because it seems to be targeting much younger men questioning their own choices, who don?t have a lot of experience with females and can?t get it up. These are not descriptions of me.
To be sure, I know there are men my age here, so I am assuming I am not the only one with the issues I?m facing. Surely responses to this post will make helpful suggestions I have not considered. I am looking forward to that. Thanks in advance.