I feel like I have no real libido for normal sex. It's been like 10 years since all I do is go through a cycle where once a week I use demeaning porn to hurt myself and have a long session of self punishment where I almost finish with a flaccid penis everytime. After it's over I feel better for a few days then it slowly starts again. I'm pretty discouraged and disgusted with myself right now, and would like to outsource some hope from you guys. Has anyone recovered from this? Do you know any analysis of what is going on in the brain in a situation like this?
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tying porn with frustration and low selfesteem
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WoundedSparrow
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It's called addiction, my friend, and I've been suffering under it for over 7 years now. Your cycle is one I've experienced time and time again, and only through breaking it can you free yourself. It seems like an impossible task at first. Going from Day 1 to Day 2 of sobriety is harder than going from Day 81 to Day 82. After you relapse, your brain has gotten the dose of dopamine it desperately craves. In a matter of days, it'll want another dose, and the cravings will kick in. Sometimes they seem all but impossible to resist. I know.
But, take heart. The urge to relapse is strongest after about 7 days or so. It's a neurochemical thing, it's science. That's when you'll feel the worst of it. And that's when a fork splits in the road ahead of you: Give in and prolong your suffering or resist and break the cycle. As I type this, I will be 2 weeks sober after today. I feel infinitely better now. It seems almost inconceivable that I was as miserable as I was 2 short weeks ago. My mind is clearer, my disposition is happier, and my outlook is more optimistic. The fog hanging over me has lifted away for the most part. That's after just 2 weeks. You can feel like a new man in under 14 days, my friend.
Breaking the cycle after a relapse is the hardest part of conquering an addiction. You feel hopeless and lonely and the urges are unbearable. But this is all an illusion created by your brain to draw you back into porn. It's literally all in your head. It's nothing more than withdrawal. Focus on going 7 straight days without porn. Don't watch it or think about it. In fact, try to avoid all sexualized imagery altogether. I find that physical exercise severely lessens the urges and makes me feel 10x better than I would have without it. Even a few sets of sit-ups once completely dissolved my cravings for an entire night, cravings which I assumed I would give into.
There's a war in your brain right now and your entire future depends on its outcome. All of your misery is in your head, and any misery that exists in reality outside your mind is amplified tenfold by it. Realize this and you've achieved a golden ticket to help you recover. And remember to be diligent! All it takes is one slip-up to ruin a run at sobriety, then you have to repeat the process again. Good luck, friend. We'll be here for you.
But, take heart. The urge to relapse is strongest after about 7 days or so. It's a neurochemical thing, it's science. That's when you'll feel the worst of it. And that's when a fork splits in the road ahead of you: Give in and prolong your suffering or resist and break the cycle. As I type this, I will be 2 weeks sober after today. I feel infinitely better now. It seems almost inconceivable that I was as miserable as I was 2 short weeks ago. My mind is clearer, my disposition is happier, and my outlook is more optimistic. The fog hanging over me has lifted away for the most part. That's after just 2 weeks. You can feel like a new man in under 14 days, my friend.
Breaking the cycle after a relapse is the hardest part of conquering an addiction. You feel hopeless and lonely and the urges are unbearable. But this is all an illusion created by your brain to draw you back into porn. It's literally all in your head. It's nothing more than withdrawal. Focus on going 7 straight days without porn. Don't watch it or think about it. In fact, try to avoid all sexualized imagery altogether. I find that physical exercise severely lessens the urges and makes me feel 10x better than I would have without it. Even a few sets of sit-ups once completely dissolved my cravings for an entire night, cravings which I assumed I would give into.
There's a war in your brain right now and your entire future depends on its outcome. All of your misery is in your head, and any misery that exists in reality outside your mind is amplified tenfold by it. Realize this and you've achieved a golden ticket to help you recover. And remember to be diligent! All it takes is one slip-up to ruin a run at sobriety, then you have to repeat the process again. Good luck, friend. We'll be here for you.
CapoReboot
Member
First of all, I'm sorry. Yeah you're brain is like a war zone of different thoughts that would decide your future.