I definitely have! Especially if you know if my wife and I?s relationship. Highly sexual and loving. It was her comments that actually made me think it was more than just my age or anxiety or other mental concerns. When she started telling me she thought it was her, that I wasn?t attracted to her, that she thought there was something wrong with her, I knew something needed to change. The question at the time was always, what? I?m lucky enough to have a very understanding partner and coping mechanisms in place for both of us that helped out, but we still weren?t fully ourselves. Since I started my journey and my reboot, we both have recognized major improvements, not only in our sex lives together, but in our marriage.
So to answer your question yea I have considered her feelings, I have many regrets, and I do feel guilty. I assume that I was on the verge of loosing her, but things are looking much better for us now that I finally figured out what my issues were and am working towards healing them.
I?m sorry you are going through what you are experiencing right now. No one deserves that. I don?t know you, him or what your relationship is/was like. What I do know is that besides smoking and drinking, this is probably the most difficult indulgence I have tried to quit. It?s a struggle... every day! Just a little insight I can share into what he may be going through. You need to do what?s best for you though and you are the only one who can make that decision.