MIDGE journal

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midge

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Hi all. I'm happy to be here, and it's good to see all your smiling faces.

I need to get my counter hooked up and come back to fill in some sort of introduction, but at the moment I need to go cook dinner. More details to come.

I hope everyone's doing well and holding steady.  Carry on, gentlemen.
 

fcjl8

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Hi midge,

Nice that you are here with us!

Great overview of your wonderful journey on your path.
 

LTE

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Great to see you Atticus. You are a true asset to RN.
 

Rex

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Midge,

Welcome, great to see you here.  You and so many others on this board are an inspiration to me.


   
 

LTE

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We have a strong crew here. By my reckoning, the four guys that have posted to this journal have over 800 days clean, between them.
 
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Pi

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LTE said:
We have a strong crew here. By my reckoning, the four guys that have posted to this journal have over 800 days clean, between them.

Make that five guys with over 801 days clean between them ;D Seriously, I hope to join you with some big numbers as our journey through time continues.
 

LTE

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Pi said:
LTE said:
We have a strong crew here. By my reckoning, the four guys that have posted to this journal have over 800 days clean, between them.

Make that five guys with over 801 days clean between them ;D Seriously, I hope to join you with some big numbers as our journey through time continues.
Just keep moving a day at a time.
 

Viper

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Just 3 more months of no PMO Midge and you'll be a year deep-
keep up the good work.
 
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"Relations with my wife are better than ever. And even in that realm, I find myself, in recent weeks, exerting more choice and freedom, along with ever-growing respect and love for my wife. All is well there. The pull toward M continues to abate as well, becoming a much less frequent occurrence--freedom of choice is increasing there.

The formula that seems to have worked for me is frequent posting and reading here (and ybop) in the crucial early weeks/months, along with a conscious effort to develop healthier habits--physical, emotional, spiritual, creative, and career-wise. "

This right here. That is what I'm talking about.

Midge, I am bookmarking your journal for a certain someone to read.

 

LetItGoAlready

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Midge,

Just wanted to drop in and wish you well. Like you, I've found that keeping my MO accountability off the books was not doing me any favors in the long run. The urge to look at P has mostly subsided, but the urge to M still remains. Seeing your MO counter and reading about your struggles with M early in your recovery has inspired me to add one to my profile, too. Thanks for sharing the details of your journey. Very inspiring stuff!
 

fcjl8

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Agreed, I truly believe that M use must be part of the accountability. I tried my first 2 attempts at recovery to allow "therapeautic" non-P masturbation and that always led right back to pornography use.
 

LTE

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midge said:
Thanks for the kind words, Viper and Jverhoye.  I'm glad you guys are here, and I wish you well with your journeys.

SO Reboot Partner, I'm glad if that journal note was helpful, and I hope your certain someone takes it to heart. I can vouch--it really works, and getting that stuff out of my life has changed everything for the better. I wish you and your partner all the best.
Likewise. No M is not all that difficult to achieve. Step one is learning that it is possible and not even unpleasant.
 

LTE

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midge said:
Cosmo said:
Midge,

Just wanted to drop in and wish you well. Like you, I've found that keeping my MO accountability off the books was not doing me any favors in the long run. The urge to look at P has mostly subsided, but the urge to M still remains. Seeing your MO counter and reading about your struggles with M early in your recovery has inspired me to add one to my profile, too. Thanks for sharing the details of your journey. Very inspiring stuff!

Hi Cosmo. Thanks for your note. Yes, it took me a while to get the MO urge to calm down. I won't lie--occasionally it still sounds appealing--but it's a LOT less tempting than it used to be, I'm now able to "just say no" to those occasional urges, and I know I feel a hell of a lot better without it.  So far so good. Stick with it a while and you'll see the urges will subside.
That's one thing I love about counters, they help with accountability. If you look at your counter and say to yourself "I've already done 88 days of no M, I don't have to do that ever again" you can get past the rough times.
 

SlaveToRighteousness

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That's one thing I love about counters, they help with accountability. If you look at your counter and say to yourself "I've already done 88 days of no M, I don't have to do that ever again" you can get past the rough times.

My counter is not the only reason that I don't PMO at all, but it certainly helps. The higher your counter number is, the worse it would feel to have to reset it.
 

LTE

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SlaveToRighteousness said:
That's one thing I love about counters, they help with accountability. If you look at your counter and say to yourself "I've already done 88 days of no M, I don't have to do that ever again" you can get past the rough times.

My counter is not the only reason that I don't PMO at all, but it certainly helps. The higher your counter number is, the worse it would feel to have to reset it.
Natch!
 
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midge

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I agree. Opinions vary on the usefulness/advisability of counters, and I suppose they're not for everyone, but they really have been helpful to me. They provide solid visual feedback/motivation every time I'm on the site, and yes, the thought of having to reset either of them at this stage would certainly give me pause. I'm assuming the day will come when I'll no longer need that kind of external "encouragement," but I'll lean on them as long as I need to.
 

fcjl8

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Counters do have a big plus but also can't tell the whole recovery story. I have a friend who is 4 years clean from PMO, 4 years on the past Saturday. he does not have a counter or mark the days but is aware of his anniversary date that began his recovery from a severe addiction.

Use what works best!
 

sonofJack

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Hey Midge. Slowly working my way through Ulysses. There are moments when I get lost in Mr. Bloom's thoughts, and others where I have to wonder if JJ was having a laugh on the reader.

Certainly more rewarding than my previous 'hobby.'
 
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