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Dimitri:
         Does anyone know what its like to get to 90 days sober? What about after that big landmark of a day? Do you become Captain America or some shit? (go see that new one btw its badass!). I only ask because I've never gotten that far in any previous reboot attempt. I just need some motivation because right now I think I'm really on a flat line session. I'm talking not enough energy in the gym to finish my workouts. I'm mad at the world for every single thing and for no apparent reason. I'm feeling hopeless with my emotions wildly fluctuating like a mid pubescent girl. I cant even talk to women around me because they all wear some revealing shit!, then I think to myself not until day 90. So this brings us back to the original question....What in the blue hell happens after 90 days?

fcjl8:
Hi Dimitri,

I have been past 90 several times... and I tell you what! At 90 days nothing happens!!!! Nothing happens, it is a suggested period of time for abstinence for the effects of a PMO addict to show some signs of abating! It's not a magic pill type deal, time release capsule. Too bad, wish it was.

Give yourself time, patience and be gentle! This PMO addiction causes a lot of damage to our brains that is reversible!! You need time and determination. Do talk to women, being social is a great benefit in recovery.

Take a good look around at yourbrainonporn.com... lots of great tips and experience. Look at Uncle Bob's tips...http://yourbrainonporn.com/uncle-bob-porn-addiction-recovery-tips

Gabe Deem:
@ Dimitri
--- Quote ---What in the blue hell happens after 90 days?
--- End quote ---

You start on day 91


--- Quote ---Does anyone know what its like to get to 90 days sober? What about after that big landmark of a day? Do you become Captain America or some shit?
--- End quote ---

Many guys know what it is like... I am on day 1060 and no... I am not Captain America.

First thing you need to do is get this 90 days number out of your head. No where on this site does it say 90 days is special. Every reboot is different and the only thing that seems to be the case is guys who grew up with internet porn tend to take longer than older guys who did not watch high-speed porn through their teenage years.

I did not feel anything at all until about 180 days, while some others feel improvement after 14.

It is great to set a goal like 90 days, but there is absolutely no magic day that you fully reboot. Really understand that.

I have times felt like Captain America, but it comes more in the form of improvement in concentration, ability to easily be aroused, rock solid boners, shorter refractory period, motivation, energy, and memory. Not so much on strength and ability to kick ass and sling a shield.

If you want to get stronger you have to workout, rebooting doesn't make your muscles grow. However, it may give you the motivation to make that happen = )


--- Quote ---I'm mad at the world for every single thing and for no apparent reason.
--- End quote ---

Felt the same way... it passed with time.

There are many beautiful things about the world, and there are many ugly things as well. Rebooting gave me the ability to enjoy the beauty and the passion to fight to change the ugly.

Dimitri:
Mr Deem, I like that ''you start on day 91'' answer kinda like a troll answer. On a serious note though almost 3 years without a relapse seems like mission impossible, big ups to you. I myself can hardly make it to 90 days let alone 80. The most I've ever got up to was day 72 and reboot wise I felt a bit the same as I do now on day 54."Do talk to women, being social is a great benefit in recovery." There are days I feel like being antisocial like this one for the mere fact that I don't want to be angered. So being sociable is out of the question sometimes. Other times I feel like I need to be further on in my reboot to even feel like I need to start engaging women."
If you want to get stronger you have to workout, rebooting doesn't make your muscles grow. However, it may give you the motivation to make that happen = )"  Yes I know it isn't like roids, I lift weights almost every day to expend any extra energy I may have at the end of the day.
"First thing you need to do is get this 90 days number out of your head. No where on this site does it say 90 days is special. Every reboot is different and the only thing that seems to be the case is guys who grew up with internet porn tend to take longer than older guys who did not watch high-speed porn through their teenage years.

I did not feel anything at all until about 180 days, while some others feel improvement after 14"
Well then looks like I have a ways to go ahead of me, seeing as extreme porno use goes all the back to when I was 15.

Gabe Deem:
@ Dimitri
--- Quote ---I like that ''you start on day 91'' answer kinda like a troll answer.
--- End quote ---

haha my bad dude, that was a real answer. Sorry if it came across as me being an asshole, just trying to point out that day 90 is just another day. This is a lifestyle change. I have been trying to get a certain amount of days out of guys heads for years, so I apologize if it came across as a troll answer.

Out of curiosity. Where did you get the idea of the "big 90"?


--- Quote ---Well then looks like I have a ways to go ahead of me, seeing as extreme porno use goes all the back to when I was 15.
--- End quote ---

It is best to be prepared for the long haul, but again we have no idea how long your reboot will take. Take it day by day and document what happens. Learn as much as you can about the brain and how pornography can numb and re-wire it. This really helped me stay motivated and gave me hope. Knowing that our brains are able to change our entire lives really gave me peace. I hope the same for you.

We are all in this together my man. I can say this, life without porn is way better than life with porn. In all areas.

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