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travelog:
Hi, i've recently accepted that i have a phone sex addiction. I've been using phone sex for over 10 years but it has escalated over the past year. I have not used it for 3 months now and am feeling that i can give it up for good as i now understand it's addictive potential for me. The problem that i have is that the girl that i talked to most kind of became a friend over the last 3 years of us talking regularly. I feel that i need to speak to her one last time to explain that i won't be calling anymore and to say goodbye. Part of me feels i need to do this for closure to finally move on, but part of me is scared that it will reignite addictive pathways in my brain!
I's appreciate anyone's comments or advice.
Thanks

Ninja:
Why do you want to stop talking to her ? Is it because you can't see her only as a friend ?

EDIT : My bad, didn't understand. Yeah you should stop it, unless you can have a relationship with her outside the phone talks. Congratz for the 3 months !
I mean, unless it's an authentic friend, you don't have to call her to say you stopped the phone sex addiction

travelog:
I only talk to her on the phone sex line, and our frienship has developed around ever more elaborate sexual fantasies and the desire to meet up and act them out. She fuelled my addiction so i know i have to stop talking to her, but i like her as a person and feel i should explain why i'm not going to talk to her anymore.

Mart71:
If you respect her as a person, then I would do it for the closure you seek. One might debate if she cares or not, since it is her profession. But I see no harm in treating a person with kindness.

Ninja:

--- Quote from: Mart71 on April 10, 2014, 09:36:35 AM ---If you respect her as a person, then I would do it for the closure you seek. One might debate if she cares or not, since it is her profession. But I see no harm in treating a person with kindness.

--- End quote ---

I think you're right. But only if he has the feeling that the developing relationship was authentic.

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