Making Major Progress after Deciding to Quit Porn

837720TD

Member
Date Jan 16, 2017
I'm 22 years old, almost 23 actually. I've been watching porn from my teen years. Didn't have much access to it until I was in 7th grade though. At this point in time I didn't have my own computer but I'd use those at the library to look at and print hentai anime (this was porn from my younger years) plus I always visited phonerotica on my lil Motorola RAZR n masturbate to the pictures I found. Always a fan of lesbians n solos. I got my own computer in 9th/ 10th grade n my porn consumption has been wild since.

I had a few girl friends n had sex a few times in high school but this early on I wasn't being affected. What was evident tho was that I have performance anxiety. First I use to worry about my body weight, then I got slim n started worrying about my dick size, then started worrying about staying long enough. (I stayed waaaaaaay long before ejaculating though, all that masturbation ensured I did).

Anyway I left high school and met this girl that's been my On n Off gf over the years. We've always had sex, amazing sex. There was a period I couldn't get it up but it was short lived. I changed up my eating habits and it went away so I thought that was possibly performance anxiety or a bad diet. I usually had sex with other girls from time to time but I usually couldn't get it up from ever so often. When I got back to my gf from high school though I always could so I knew it was performance anxiety. Until last year...

I built my first gaming rig, got high speed internet (the type that got me downloading movies in 3 minutes). My porn consumption skyrocketed, HIGH DEFINITION pornography, was loving it. My gf couldn't make it to my house? No problem. I've got kapri styles online, I Don't need her. This continued until late last year. I met this chick n had some amazing sex at her place that night. Next morning we woke up she told me she wanted more. Old soldier wouldn't stand up. The girl is angry at me till this very day. She thinks I just had sex with her cuz she was requesting it a lot and wouldn't go another round cause I wasn't attracted to her.

Boom! Christmas 2016. Had sex with my on n off gf the night after. We went to a party n over did it on red wine. Came home drunk n had sex that night. Woke up the next day n she wanted sex before work, old soldier wouldn't stand at all. This is where I knew something had gone wrong. I was completely comfortable around this girl. She's seen me clothed, naked, fat, skinny, showered together, had sex in a million places etc. My soldier would stand the second she mentions sex or have her butt brush against my pelvic region. (Oh forgot to mention I didn't just do porn, Girls say I'm attractive, I'm confident, learned how to attract women so I always have a tonne a girls sending me nudes n we always sext. So when it ain't pornography it was me n some chick sending nudes n masturbating)

I talked to her, stated it must be my anxiety or the bad eating habits I've been having over the past few weeks. I went back to work after New Years. Did a lil sexting n porn but started noticing that my dick is unusually soft. Even for porn which always got me hard. I started doing research again (I had minimal knowledge of the effects of porn). I always thought I was immune to the stuff n it wouldn't affect me. I stumbled upon a YouTube channel named Improvement Pill (y'all should check him out). Then on this website yourbrainonporn. I started reading n decided ama do a reboot. Not only will I reboot but I'll eat foods healthy for my penis and I got into meditation.  Been doing this for about two weeks now. A week ago I saw a girl I met two years ago, haven't seen her since. I sparked up the connection, kissed her n got her to have sex with me. I couldn't keep my erection all the way but I was doing loads better. She enjoyed it, flew out a country n loves me as hell. (I'm replying to her messages while typing this) I have two new girls at work that wanna rape my life away n they will be the next I was experiment with.

What inspired me to write this post tho is the fact that I woke up this morning. Not thinking about sex, porn or even women. I had massive morning wood. Hard like a tree trunk, thing took almost half hour to go away (maybe 28 minutes). This is massive improvement, I've been having morning wood since I decided to quit the porn, sexting and masturbating.  I deleted all the nudes from my phone, all the videos I made of me having sex with girls. Chicks still sent me nudes over the time period but I have a peek, delete and compliment whatever boob, booty or vagina I saw. Never once have I decided to dive into bed get hard n send her some pics n start sexting.

I dunno if this is too early for a success story but I'm loving the feel. Know what let's not call it a success story, let's call it a progress story. I'm gonna continue updating this thread to motivate guys out there. I should be having sex with at least one of these new girls this coming week (I hope at least). I'll report with what goes down. Peace out guys!

FORMULA
-porn-sexting-masturbation+exercise+eating healthy+willpower to reboot = ROCK HARD ERECTIONS

If you guys want me to provide links to the information I used or write in detail how I eat, meditate and cope with the stuff just lemme know.
 

IAddict

Member
Your stories are quite inspirational man, nice to know we are going through literally the exact same thing, I have the same problems and I was wondering if you could send the links you use to cope because I'm curious on how you handle that! Thanks!
 

837720TD

Member
You're welcome man.
I just backtracked and got the info similar to how I discovered them.
Here are some links from Improvement Pill YouTube Page (Watch his other videos, your sex/ general life will love you for it.
No fap and the science behind it
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=u4j2d7iLWsw

How to overcome an addiction
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KKEyggTTis8

After reading these I went here. This gives you a nice look into exactly what's going on below the surface
http://yourbrainonporn.com/porn-then-and-now-welcome-to-brain-training

With an idea of what's going on I needed to know how rebooting will work. So here it is
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rewire-your-brain-using-ocd-neuroscience

Now that we got all that down, here's what to avoid during a reboot.
http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-stimuli-must-i-avoid-during-my-reboot-did-i-relapse

I questioned using viagra or some other drug in the event that I had a "sex appointment" and needed a boost. That brought me here.
http://rebootblueprint.com/viagra-cialis-performance-anxiety/

Viagra and Cailis isn't the easiest thing to come by plus it's a double edged sword. So I got something for the anxiety just incase I had that appointment.
http://rebootblueprint.com/sexual-performance-anxiety-ultimate-guide/

With all that out the way, a story to inspire you is always good. It fills you with hope, knowing it's been done before, even in cases worse than yours.
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/age-24-ed-cured-even-when-i-thought-it-would-never-happen-20-months

Remember those lifestyle changes I mentioned? Here they are. It's good for your dick and health in general.
http://www.ayushveda.com/mens-magazine/easy-and-functional-ways-to-treat-erectile-dysfunction-naturally/

https://www.pegym.com/harder-penis
(For this link, the only exercise I did was the Kegels. I've never tried any supplements as I'm a lil skeptic. Plus with all the natural success stories, why not give the harder way a shot)

I also said I got into meditation. I'm a lot calmer now and even when I feel a lil pressured doing day to day activities n chill for a sec n focus on my breathing just like I would when meditating.

Here I have some videos from our guy Improvement Pill

Here we learn what meditation is
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=CmhkmLFc74E

Here are some benefits of meditation
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gvJLmVYVvVM

Here he tells us how to (where I learned)
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mMMerxh_12U

I highly recommend watching the rest of his videos as well. Also I'd like to add that I've read it a million times that cashew nuts is great for erections. That's what I ate last night before bed and waking up this morning with a tree trunk of an erection that wouldn't go away for almost half hour.

In closing, guys... just keep at it. It's a hard battle but it's something that  an be won. No matter how hopeless it might seem, fight on, stay active, surround yourself with positiveness, get motivation wherever possible and continue. If you fall get back up and continue.
Here's a lil secret, We were born to fight our adversities. If the first time we fell as babies we just sat there, there wouldn't be one human being able to walk today, simply means we all have it in us!

Countless others have won already and many others are on their way to victory this very moment (Myself included, my battle isn't over, I'm just seeing the tides of the battle shift in my favor). Join us, join your brothers and let's regain control or our lives and this time have way more control than ever before.
Peace out!!!
 

837720TD

Member
IAddict said:
Your stories are quite inspirational man, nice to know we are going through literally the exact same thing, I have the same problems and I was wondering if you could send the links you use to cope because I'm curious on how you handle that! Thanks!
I have the links posted in Post #3. Best of luck bro! I'll still be here reporting my progress
 

leojoe

New Member
can we chat through your email, am new and need some answers from you.
thanks for your inspiration though
 

837720TD

Member
Sure @leojoe no problem. It's always helpful to post here though as it might be of assistance to others that pass by the thread. If you prefer it private though I'd be more than happy to help.
 
M

McQueen

Guest
If you "have a peek" to quote the OP at sexual images / pixels women sext you via a screen. Your still using porn. That is by definition porn so you either are 1) Not truly addicted to porn and in recovery so can still use it despite the severe risk and damage of it or 2) Are addicted and in denial.

And please can you not write explicit text describing sex atleast without a large trigger warning because that is erotic literature and porn.
 

837720TD

Member
DrugFree said:
If you "have a peek" to quote the OP at sexual images / pixels women sext you via a screen. Your still using porn. That is by definition porn so you either are 1) Not truly addicted to porn and in recovery so can still use it despite the severe risk and damage of it or 2) Are addicted and in denial.

And please can you not write explicit text describing sex atleast without a large trigger warning because that is erotic literature and porn.
I slightly tweaked the OP n removed the P word. I've read many places that seeing an image (like running into an erotic one by accident) what you do next is what really matters. If you pass it n not bask in the moment n allow your brain to go awol then it's okay. I'm guessing it would also depend on how addicted you are. If im wrong let me know.
 
M

McQueen

Guest
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837720TD said:
DrugFree said:
If you "have a peek" to quote the OP at sexual images / pixels women sext you via a screen. Your still using porn. That is by definition porn so you either are 1) Not truly addicted to porn and in recovery so can still use it despite the severe risk and damage of it or 2) Are addicted and in denial.

And please can you not write explicit text describing sex atleast without a large trigger warning because that is erotic literature and porn.
I slightly tweaked the OP n removed the P word. I've read many places that seeing an image (like running into an erotic one by accident) what you do next is what really matters. If you pass it n not bask in the moment n allow your brain to go awol then it's okay. I'm guessing it would also depend on how addicted you are. If im wrong let me know.

If you get accidentally exposed and look away and click off or leave whatever that is fine. If you choose to keep looking that is not. Also "how addicted you are" does not make sense because one is either addicted or not, perhaps research more but you seem to understand the neurobiology of porn addiction. Find more on YBOP.

Best Wishes.
 
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