akascotman
New Member
I'm sure you've heard it all before. The benefits, the struggle, the anxiety, the urges, the failures and the women. This will not be one of those or even my 'life story'. Instead i want you to realize that quitting porn and masturbation is a drop in the glass. I truly believe we all do it for the same reason: To become or feel more manly; more in control; more wanted; more respected and more confident. These are only words that are hollow without one thing and that's 'action'. But first you have to want it, want it more than to act out an urge.
I'm 32 and on day 101. I've been doing this for about 3 years and this has been my longest streak to date. I have failed numerous times and I will spare you'll the detail of trail and error.
Don't believe the hype. You will not develop superpowers. Anxiety will not just disappear on day xx, confidence will come and go, etc. You will still be you, but one branch of your life will take shape. I had terrible anxiety, was nervous, low energy etc on day 50! The reason was because I had an overactive thyroid. No amount of nofap would have 'cured' me. Lots of things in life can have a damaging effect on you. If you believe everything that's going bad or good is because of masturbation or porn then you haven't even reached the starting line yet. Life would be very straight forward if absence from PMO cures world issues.
I do feel better. I went to meet a CEO of a international company this morning and while i was walking back towards my car I realized that something has changed in me - I was calm and relaxed. I work with big companies so a calm, approachable and assertive attitude helps tremendously.
We have to become wise about the amount and quality of time we spend on the internet. I firmly believe when i would ask the 70 year old me what was the things i should have done differently, it will be 'have a constructive reason for using the computer and watch minimal youtube videos' and 'read more books'. Silly as it sounds but i think most people will relate. Reading books also has an unbelievable impact on the quality of life. If you have to press me I would say reading bios, history and interesting books has to be one of the diamonds in life. It develops your mind and opens up the world in ways only a book can. This feeds through subconsciously into your daily life and decision making.
For the last 10 years i have been very healthy, fit and strong. I'm fortunate in the sense that it comes easy for me to choose berries over chocolate and pull-ups over whatever reason not to. But like all things you have to know why you want to be healthy; why you should exercise; why you get out of bed in the morning; what your future looks like; why do you believe what you believe? If you don't know the 'why', that's when you will fall back. From what I've seen the real men in history acted out their character and integrity. This is easier said than done as most men grew up without a male role model to emulate. My point is this:
God uses us all, believer or non, for his purpose. PMO is not part of his plan for any of us and I think you know how wrong we all have been in thinking its harmless. The way you came to realize this is pure mercy. A chain of events and a lot of asking 'why' about 3 years ago, He revealed himself to me and that was the thing that has changed. my. life., not nofap, not a diet, not exercise, not a woman, not money. That is a real foundation and the rest is the branches of life. We choose the quality of the branches but your foundation has to be something unshakable, because the storms will come again.
I'm 32 and on day 101. I've been doing this for about 3 years and this has been my longest streak to date. I have failed numerous times and I will spare you'll the detail of trail and error.
Don't believe the hype. You will not develop superpowers. Anxiety will not just disappear on day xx, confidence will come and go, etc. You will still be you, but one branch of your life will take shape. I had terrible anxiety, was nervous, low energy etc on day 50! The reason was because I had an overactive thyroid. No amount of nofap would have 'cured' me. Lots of things in life can have a damaging effect on you. If you believe everything that's going bad or good is because of masturbation or porn then you haven't even reached the starting line yet. Life would be very straight forward if absence from PMO cures world issues.
I do feel better. I went to meet a CEO of a international company this morning and while i was walking back towards my car I realized that something has changed in me - I was calm and relaxed. I work with big companies so a calm, approachable and assertive attitude helps tremendously.
We have to become wise about the amount and quality of time we spend on the internet. I firmly believe when i would ask the 70 year old me what was the things i should have done differently, it will be 'have a constructive reason for using the computer and watch minimal youtube videos' and 'read more books'. Silly as it sounds but i think most people will relate. Reading books also has an unbelievable impact on the quality of life. If you have to press me I would say reading bios, history and interesting books has to be one of the diamonds in life. It develops your mind and opens up the world in ways only a book can. This feeds through subconsciously into your daily life and decision making.
For the last 10 years i have been very healthy, fit and strong. I'm fortunate in the sense that it comes easy for me to choose berries over chocolate and pull-ups over whatever reason not to. But like all things you have to know why you want to be healthy; why you should exercise; why you get out of bed in the morning; what your future looks like; why do you believe what you believe? If you don't know the 'why', that's when you will fall back. From what I've seen the real men in history acted out their character and integrity. This is easier said than done as most men grew up without a male role model to emulate. My point is this:
God uses us all, believer or non, for his purpose. PMO is not part of his plan for any of us and I think you know how wrong we all have been in thinking its harmless. The way you came to realize this is pure mercy. A chain of events and a lot of asking 'why' about 3 years ago, He revealed himself to me and that was the thing that has changed. my. life., not nofap, not a diet, not exercise, not a woman, not money. That is a real foundation and the rest is the branches of life. We choose the quality of the branches but your foundation has to be something unshakable, because the storms will come again.
