I'm emotionally struggling right now, with depression and anxiety problems and can get to the point of having problems breathing. I started porn at 20 years old and I am now 24, I stopped porn at 10th December 2013 and relapsed twice during that time. I have not relapsed once since February 2014. I have not seen any improvements other than semi erections and don't get morning wood. I'm a virgin and I'm nearly 25 years old and not getting any younger, to make things worse I have a bad habit of searching for information to put myself at ease, and found that women find in a turn off if a guy is a virgin at this age. I want to just give up and not bother, because I'm at the point where I just don't see the point in this. I have been off porn for awhile now and not seen any improvements, this is very frustrating and bothering me a lot. I have seen my GP and he just didn't understand at all and discharged me, I already had blood test and there was nothing wrong with my hormones or blood pressure. what am I going to do with all these problems?. I just can't handle this kind of pressure anymore. Is there something I am doing wrong?
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I wouldn't say you are doing anything wrong, but you are not doing yourself any favors either. Worrying about things you cannot control does little more than add a lot of stress to what can already be quite a stressful journey. I completely understand why you feel pressure in those areas, but just lingering on them and letting your anxiety build up is going to do more harm than good.
Also, forget that gibberish about women not wanting a virgin at your age. Those studies articles just ask random women, "would you want a guy who is a virgin?" They say yes/no. With that question does is completely remove the important context of a man that actually attracts them. When is the last time you heard, or thought that any guy would realistically go up to a girl and introduce himself as a virgin? I would not be surprised if women generally had a thought in their head about the kind of person who is a virgin at that age, or maybe don't even have a thought about it at all and just say they have no interest.
I was a virgin at your age (see my journal). None of the girls that pursued me in grad school seemed to notice, so they can't smell it on you. What they can detect is confidence. Sex doesn't make you who you are nor does it make you a man. Confidence is sexy. Forget about articles and all that stuff.
You would make a worthwhile mate. You have qualities that a woman would find attractive. You would make a girl happy she met you. I don't know you, but those statements are true for virtually every guy out there. Problem is those guys don't have the confidence in themselves to see it. You don't have to be a model/athlete/secret agent to attract women. You have what it takes. And I'm not sayin that to buck you up. I'm saying it because it doesn't take as much as you think it does to believe in yourself.
Also, forget that gibberish about women not wanting a virgin at your age. Those studies articles just ask random women, "would you want a guy who is a virgin?" They say yes/no. With that question does is completely remove the important context of a man that actually attracts them. When is the last time you heard, or thought that any guy would realistically go up to a girl and introduce himself as a virgin? I would not be surprised if women generally had a thought in their head about the kind of person who is a virgin at that age, or maybe don't even have a thought about it at all and just say they have no interest.
I was a virgin at your age (see my journal). None of the girls that pursued me in grad school seemed to notice, so they can't smell it on you. What they can detect is confidence. Sex doesn't make you who you are nor does it make you a man. Confidence is sexy. Forget about articles and all that stuff.
You would make a worthwhile mate. You have qualities that a woman would find attractive. You would make a girl happy she met you. I don't know you, but those statements are true for virtually every guy out there. Problem is those guys don't have the confidence in themselves to see it. You don't have to be a model/athlete/secret agent to attract women. You have what it takes. And I'm not sayin that to buck you up. I'm saying it because it doesn't take as much as you think it does to believe in yourself.