DwnNz
Member
Where to start.
I have been addicted to porn for Im guessing, well over 30yrs. It all started with a VHS tape I found hidden in our house. Then a friends dads stash of mags. I remember when the WWF first hit TV in New Zealand, they had a full sized colour picture of each wrestler in the back of the news paper, I dont think they realized, that on the back of that was all of their porn/adult advertising, so at 10 I had it on my wall. Joining the military and having my own room, deploying and being away for months and still having/finding something. Then the internet!!! It was always there. Taking away from me. For 27yrs I never knew it was a problem, never knew it had caused the failure of every relationship I have ever had. Until I met my wife, who knew something was wrong early on, but couldn't put her finger on it. Once she did, after catching me out and nearly ending it. I thought I could get it under control. After all, its only porn right? For the first few months to a year I did really well. After about 3 weeks, for the first time in over a year, I orgasm'd during sex. I felt great!! So I felt like I deserved a reward... Yep, back at it. Early the next year we got married and I thought that would be the key to me kicking it. I got software which has been awesome and started to do better. But I would always back slide. Always find a way.
A month ago I developed some bumps in places that shouldn't have bumps. I got tested and I told my wife the results (which came back positive). What little trust she had left was now gone.
Now I'm almost 41yrs old, live far away from my family, I have no children (because of this) and am about to be divorced from the only woman who has ever believed in me..
This morning I put a gun to my head, but couldn't pull the trigger.
I have been addicted to porn for Im guessing, well over 30yrs. It all started with a VHS tape I found hidden in our house. Then a friends dads stash of mags. I remember when the WWF first hit TV in New Zealand, they had a full sized colour picture of each wrestler in the back of the news paper, I dont think they realized, that on the back of that was all of their porn/adult advertising, so at 10 I had it on my wall. Joining the military and having my own room, deploying and being away for months and still having/finding something. Then the internet!!! It was always there. Taking away from me. For 27yrs I never knew it was a problem, never knew it had caused the failure of every relationship I have ever had. Until I met my wife, who knew something was wrong early on, but couldn't put her finger on it. Once she did, after catching me out and nearly ending it. I thought I could get it under control. After all, its only porn right? For the first few months to a year I did really well. After about 3 weeks, for the first time in over a year, I orgasm'd during sex. I felt great!! So I felt like I deserved a reward... Yep, back at it. Early the next year we got married and I thought that would be the key to me kicking it. I got software which has been awesome and started to do better. But I would always back slide. Always find a way.
A month ago I developed some bumps in places that shouldn't have bumps. I got tested and I told my wife the results (which came back positive). What little trust she had left was now gone.
Now I'm almost 41yrs old, live far away from my family, I have no children (because of this) and am about to be divorced from the only woman who has ever believed in me..
This morning I put a gun to my head, but couldn't pull the trigger.