43YearsAnAddict
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Yeah, 43 years an addict. Can't beleive it. I'm 56 and I've had this monkey on my back since I was 13. It actually started a couple of years before that when I would clip magazine pictures of girls and hide them under my mattress. But I didn't start using actual porn and masturbate until 13.
I'm married to a wonderful wife, 3 grown kids, professionally successful, and untolerably tired and conflicted. From 13 to 28, this was just a fun hobby. At 28, I became a Christian and tried to stop .... literally hundreds of times.
So from age 28 to 56, half my life now, I've struggled with the one to two week cycle of white-knuckles, relapse, shame, rinse, repeat. It's really horrible and I'm a fraud. Although I'm super blessed, I know that I've already missed a lot that life has to offer for me and my family. When I first tried to quit at 28, I think I made it about a month. But apart from that time, the longest I've lasted is around 2 weeks. If anything, this addiction has gotten worse over the years, and these days, I can't seem to make it more than a day or so. No one else knows about this, but still I'm embarrassed. It takes so much energy to function and I'm pretty much at my breaking point.
So I'm not sure what the point of this post is ... Maybe just to ask if anyone has heard of recovery after such a long addiction. In fact, I'm not sure I'm RE-covering, because that implies that I'm returning to a condition of normalcy. And since this started more than 43 years ago at such a young age, I never really had a normal sexual mindset.
I am trying to quit yet again and today is Day Zero. I'm afraid to announce this to even myself because I've been here so many times and failed. I plan to pray, avoid triggers, and stay upbeat. But I really don't know why this time will be different. But giving in without a fight is not an option. I guess that's it.
I'm married to a wonderful wife, 3 grown kids, professionally successful, and untolerably tired and conflicted. From 13 to 28, this was just a fun hobby. At 28, I became a Christian and tried to stop .... literally hundreds of times.
So from age 28 to 56, half my life now, I've struggled with the one to two week cycle of white-knuckles, relapse, shame, rinse, repeat. It's really horrible and I'm a fraud. Although I'm super blessed, I know that I've already missed a lot that life has to offer for me and my family. When I first tried to quit at 28, I think I made it about a month. But apart from that time, the longest I've lasted is around 2 weeks. If anything, this addiction has gotten worse over the years, and these days, I can't seem to make it more than a day or so. No one else knows about this, but still I'm embarrassed. It takes so much energy to function and I'm pretty much at my breaking point.
So I'm not sure what the point of this post is ... Maybe just to ask if anyone has heard of recovery after such a long addiction. In fact, I'm not sure I'm RE-covering, because that implies that I'm returning to a condition of normalcy. And since this started more than 43 years ago at such a young age, I never really had a normal sexual mindset.
I am trying to quit yet again and today is Day Zero. I'm afraid to announce this to even myself because I've been here so many times and failed. I plan to pray, avoid triggers, and stay upbeat. But I really don't know why this time will be different. But giving in without a fight is not an option. I guess that's it.