makeitcount
New Member
Hi everyone,
I have been reading for a few years both on YBOP and the different forums including this one. First time posting - not sure if I will be good at it but just thought that I need to try something different. My story is pretty much the same as everyone else here who's in their late 40s. I may develop more in future post but the patterns are all the same from what I can read. I have tried I don't know how many times to quit PMO however in retrospect I think more often than none my mindset and seriousness were not into it. I think I was lacking the sense of "urgency" because 1) I was able to hide my secret well and was never confronted and 2) I don't have physical issues (for now) related to my porn use. I think the longest I have gone is 17 days.
I know I have been addicted to porn for quite some time but for one reason or another I was not willing to either break this habit or put in the effort required.
Couple of things happened recently that forced me to take a good look in the mirror and get that desire and willingness to get on it seriously.
1) I was hit with a realization, as I mentioned before although I knew very well that I am addicted to Porn, one of my browsing session I could identify by name probably 80% of the performers just by looking at the pictures/thumbnails. it just hit me in the face just how sick this is and how much of a ridiculous amount of time I spent online watching this crap.
2) I have a son that is now 15 years old (my daughters are in early 20s) - he had some exposure to porn for a few years now and we did have a few discussions on the subject. At this point, I want to be able to have those conversations but I also want to make sure that I can support with actions and not just talking. This is to be honest a very delicate matter that I am not sure how to handle, I don't want to create a problem if there is not an issue however I don't want to pretend or ignore what he might be doing. In any case this is a though one, not sure if any of you of dealt or dealing with this. I will have to put in some more thoughts on this and try to get educated. I can't even imagine how I would've turned out if I go back 35 years at that age with everything that is now available at the tip of their fingers today.....
That's it for now, thanks for reading.
I have been reading for a few years both on YBOP and the different forums including this one. First time posting - not sure if I will be good at it but just thought that I need to try something different. My story is pretty much the same as everyone else here who's in their late 40s. I may develop more in future post but the patterns are all the same from what I can read. I have tried I don't know how many times to quit PMO however in retrospect I think more often than none my mindset and seriousness were not into it. I think I was lacking the sense of "urgency" because 1) I was able to hide my secret well and was never confronted and 2) I don't have physical issues (for now) related to my porn use. I think the longest I have gone is 17 days.
I know I have been addicted to porn for quite some time but for one reason or another I was not willing to either break this habit or put in the effort required.
Couple of things happened recently that forced me to take a good look in the mirror and get that desire and willingness to get on it seriously.
1) I was hit with a realization, as I mentioned before although I knew very well that I am addicted to Porn, one of my browsing session I could identify by name probably 80% of the performers just by looking at the pictures/thumbnails. it just hit me in the face just how sick this is and how much of a ridiculous amount of time I spent online watching this crap.
2) I have a son that is now 15 years old (my daughters are in early 20s) - he had some exposure to porn for a few years now and we did have a few discussions on the subject. At this point, I want to be able to have those conversations but I also want to make sure that I can support with actions and not just talking. This is to be honest a very delicate matter that I am not sure how to handle, I don't want to create a problem if there is not an issue however I don't want to pretend or ignore what he might be doing. In any case this is a though one, not sure if any of you of dealt or dealing with this. I will have to put in some more thoughts on this and try to get educated. I can't even imagine how I would've turned out if I go back 35 years at that age with everything that is now available at the tip of their fingers today.....
That's it for now, thanks for reading.