22, fit, healthy male but can't get hard

madsbp22

New Member
Good evening
So I wanna share a story from tonight.
So I was just on my third date with an amazing and good looking young girl, where I escalated to sex. When I was grinding on her with clothes on, I was getting a half erection, but when we both had our clothes off and I was finished fingering her, it wasen't possible for me to get hard and penetrate her. This left me with such shame and sadness because I like this girl so much and I really want to be able to fuck her. I was sexually turned on when I was escalating with clothes on, but it was as if I lost that excitement when we got undressed and were about to have sex.
I have a long and severe porn addiction, which I started when I was 12 years old. I know for a fact it's porn because I can have rock hard erections when looking at porn, but can't when i'm laying naked next to a beautiful girl. I have abstained from porn for roughly 30 days now and plan to continue FOREVER. Porn has fucked with my life and have turned down multiple young and beautiful women because of PIED.
My question is, how long will it take me to reach a state where I can have a NORMAL fucking life? Is there anyone else who have experienced this and felt like a fucking piece of shit like I am right now? Someone give me hope
Mads
 

Maglue

Active Member
Everyone is different so there is no answer to how long it will take... it depends on how much effort you put in...
Its 100% curable sir...
You have to give up porn for ever...
...
When I first started I wasn't sure about no masterbation but now I'm sure no masterbation... all the success stories are saying it...
...
Enjoy...
 

Relentless Observer

Active Member
If you can get hard to porn, but not to ladies, then it really is likely PIED and that you simply need time away from PMO.  How much time is uncertain.  You haven't gotten to the point where your erections suffer even to porn, so that is good.  you have using porn since you were 12 which is a long time and young, but many of the accounts here discuss longer and earlier histories of porn consumption.
So, commit to no porn and I suggest no masturbation as well.
With time hopefully you will feel better.
Good luck.
 
Monke said:
Good evening
So I wanna share a story from tonight.
So I was just on my third date with an amazing and good looking young girl, where I escalated to sex. When I was grinding on her with clothes on, I was getting a half erection, but when we both had our clothes off and I was finished fingering her, it wasen't possible for me to get hard and penetrate her. This left me with such shame and sadness because I like this girl so much and I really want to be able to fuck her. I was sexually turned on when I was escalating with clothes on, but it was as if I lost that excitement when we got undressed and were about to have sex.
I have a long and severe porn addiction, which I started when I was 12 years old. I know for a fact it's porn because I can have rock hard erections when looking at porn, but can't when i'm laying naked next to a beautiful girl. I have abstained from porn for roughly 30 days now and plan to continue FOREVER. Porn has fucked with my life and have turned down multiple young and beautiful women because of PIED.
My question is, how long will it take me to reach a state where I can have a NORMAL fucking life? Is there anyone else who have experienced this and felt like a fucking piece of shit like I am right now? Someone give me hope
Mads


hey man, been there many times, I know exactly how you feel. Fucking shameful and just awful situation; when that happened to me, oftentimes I felt like less of a man.
One suggestion: have you told that girl about your porn addiction? Being open about it can be very helpful for both her and yourself; if you haven't done that, I suggest you give it a try.
Besides that, having found out about your problem and dedicating yourself to overcoming it is the first and most important step on this path. Much luck to you, you got this!


 

hervesta

Member
You got this man. Even though youve been an addict for 10 years you can still heal. Noah and Gabe were addicted from like 10 to mid 20's yet it took them less than a year to heal. Just don't expect it to be short and sweet. You should abstain from sex for the next 100 days, youll feel asexual but then it'll surely come back soon after. Maybe if it takes longer to heal (12+ months) you should see a doc though.
 

deebo150

Member
I'm in the same spot man. Had the same exact situation occur recently and I'm finally addressing it. Day 14 and I'm done with PMO forever. I never knew it was even harmful until I had this realization. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just commit to changing your life and let's get the fuck out of this situation. Never turn back.
 

Gambitchco

Active Member
deebo150 said:
I'm in the same spot man. Had the same exact situation occur recently and I'm finally addressing it. Day 14 and I'm done with PMO forever. I never knew it was even harmful until I had this realization. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just commit to changing your life and let's get the fuck out of this situation. Never turn back.

That's good to hear. I agree commitment is really important.
 
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