NEED HELP with self diagnosis: PIED vs PA - What's the Difference?

Thank you all for clicking on my thread post. I'm seeking the advice of this community as I'm not sure where to begin or what exactly I am suffering from as I am new to these forums. I'm also too embarrassed and financially unable to seek professional therapy. This past Saturday (2/20/21) I hung out with this girl that I have been dating. It was our 8th date and we had dinner and a movie at my apartment. Shortly into the movie, we started making out and getting undressed on my couch to the point where we were naked and dry humping. After a good 45 minutes, I was still unable to achieve an erection.  I tried both fantasying about my biggest turn-on's as well as focusing on the moment; neither proved to be effective. The exact same scenario happened when we first tried to have sex about a month ago. I am absolutely stunned by the situation; There are many traits that I like about her and I find her to be attractive too. After this last incident, I fear that she will not want to see me again.

I suffer from DE as a result of a lifetime of DSG. I was too naive to try to fix the DSG in the past. My worry coming into dating this girl was that I would suffer from DE but was completely thrown off by exhibiting ED. The last time I had sex was nearly a year ago and experienced DE (I had to finish myself off). I've never been able to organism inside of a woman.

Although I'm not sure if this is PIED related. I am still very new to this topic but after reading a couple of posts I believe I may have suffered from hypersexuality. I've been MO since I was 12 and PMO since I was 16. Throughout the last 16 years I've been PMO (~95% of the time) and MO on a daily basis (>2 times per day 25% of the time). I feel like it was just ingrained into my daily routine. The average session lasts about an hour and I'd always edge in my boxers to the point where I was about to cum and switch to dry bare skin. The quarantine initially exacerbated my masturbation habits. I was going in cycles of PMO twice a day for four or five days straight then taking off for three or four days (usually as a result of being disgusted with myself). But when I would stay in my parent's house for weeks on end I never had the urge to PMO or even MO.  Further, I can still get morning wood (when thinking of a fantasy girl or girl that I know) and I can still get an erection without porn. I stopped PMO/MO the day after the first incident (I MO to prove to myself that it was a mental issue). I haven't really had the urge to watch porn since then (I have had the urge to masturbate though). My means of getting off has mostly been through photos of women I find attractive with high-speed porn being more supplementary; I would typically use tube porn in the beginning of my session but finish to the photo of an attractive woman.

I'd also like to note that I may be suffering from some depression issues. My life, while not bad by any means, isn't close to where I would like to be. I often find myself caught up in fantasy worlds and "what could have beens".

Based on this information do you think that I am suffering from PIED or could this be more of a performance/transitional anxiety issue?

What recommendations can you provide?

Bro...
If you want to have real sex with a real woman then never watch porn ever again!!!
Make that choice right now!!...
Also don't masterbate for at least 30 days... but 60 days and 90 days to reboot... you will feel so much better real soon if you so choose to never watch porn ever again...
Do everything else possible including telling your gf about this even friends...
Do fitness, do mediation, fasting and Keto diet, herbal teas and everything possible to heal your body ...
It will work if you want to achieve this but no masterbstion is important and no porn is most important...

I believe in the system! I've been a little over a month into my reboot. I have noticed that my ability to focus has significantly improved. There were a couple of weeks where I believe I may have been flat lining but I'm starting to see improvements.  I'm getting morning wood 3 or 4 times a week and my sex drive feels like I'm in my early 20s again.

The best sign is that I got rock hard making out with my girlfriend when she stopped by yesterday. Although I never took off my pants it felt like the best erection I've had in years. We made out with an intensity that I have not felt since I was a teenager. I didn't have any anxiety and I felt focused on the situation. I think this was also because I had to be somewhere and knew we weren't going to try to have sex so I didn't feel pressured. For the past month, I've been doing positive affirmations and telling myself every time I feel the urge that the only way I'm going to O is through sex.

I do believe porn was a problem in my life. I can clearly see the benefits and will never use it again! I cannot wait for the day in which I am fully cured but I believe that journey is a good six to nine months ahead.

What are some other signs that I should look for in my road to recovery?

I believe I'm continuing to see progress. Last night my girlfriend and I ended up having sex. This was the first time we tried since the second PIED incident. I got a firm erection just from making out and with neither of us touching that area. My erection lasted firm throughout the entirety of sex (about 20 minutes). She ended up finishing me off with a HJ but I truly believe I was close to an O while inside her. The fact that I was able to even ejaculate in front of her is a major sign since I've struggled with DE for most of my adult life.

The funny thing is that I haven't even felt the urge to touch myself since the first PIED incident. Maybe I'm traumatized from the whole ordeal. When I started stroking myself last night I didn't even feel any pleasure until she started doing it for me. Is this a good sign?
I'm incredibly grateful to have a girlfriend throughout the rewiring process. I think it's helped suppress any temptations to PMO/MO and serves as something tangible to work towards. I know I'm far from being out of the woods just yet but I'm extremely surprised by the amount of process that I've made over the past 6 weeks. I've been heavily mediating and using positive affirmations over the past six weeks. I've also been constantly reminding myself that the only way I'll O is to sex with a partner. I have also been seeing a counselor for the past month.

According to the yourbrainonporn recovery formula it should take me anywhere from 9 months to 2 years to fully recover since I started PMO at an early age and have had a limited amount of real life encounters. Further, according to most addiction assessments I tend to score a 3 or 4 which puts me in the moderate category. However, I feel like the reboot or rewire is already working very well since I successfully had sex (supplemental free too might I add) and have been getting morning wood 3 - 4 times a week.

I'd love to get more feedback on this update. Please feel free to share your thoughts.

Last night my girlfriend came over. We had sex on and off for about 45 minutes. This was the first time we tried again since the last time we had sex. I was able to get a firm erection while making out on my couch and during foreplay in my bed but after like 2 or 3 minutes of intercourse I would go soft. We went through this cycle 4 or 5 times. In the end, she gave me a BJ but after ten minutes I still could not O. I was pretty disappointed with myself as a result. I think after the first time I went soft I began to doubt myself. I wonder if I am experiencing a flatline. It didn't feel nearly as good as the first time we had sex. I also didn't feel like I had the same drive as I did the first time. I also drank two glasses of wine and felt kind of tired which probably didn't help either. I also fantasized a couple of times about one of my fetishes while caught in a day dream a few times this past week. I may need to be more disciplined. Although I haven't had any urges to PMO or even MO. I do believe that I have began to condition myself to believe in the notion that I will only O through real sex with someone else.   

Was ejaculating during my reboot a mistake? I've read conflicting views on this topic.