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Success Stories / Re: SIX+ YEARS PORN-FREE!
« on: November 11, 2020, 05:41:55 AM »
Hey nation! I recently celebrated 6 years porn-free. I'm thrilled to no longer be a slave to sex, pornography, and masturbation. I didn't stop watching porn because of some higher purpose or lofty goal. I stopped watching because I'd hit rock bottom and was so addicted to porn that I'd taken to surfing porn and gay hook up apps WHILE DRIVING! After several near-miss head-on collisions, I (reluctantly) joined this forum but quickly adopted a 'PORN IS NOT AN OPTION' mentality. Thanks to my time here, thanks to RN's supportive members, and thanks to joining, I made it 6 years without porn. If you want to read about how I did it, please see my thread on the 40+ year old forum. Take care friends! Love, Lyon.   

Ages 40 and up / Re: 6 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« on: October 29, 2020, 03:33:38 AM »
Thanks brother. Your website and its kind members saved my life. Forever grateful. 

Ages 40 and up / Re: 6 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« on: October 28, 2020, 12:22:22 PM »
Thanks so much gents for the shouts out! My final word: there is very little porn has to offer me, other than a totally warped sense of love and intimacy. I used my porn addiction to escape reality and, like most addictions, it started killing me. Thanks to my time here and my continued membership with, I've learned to live in the here and now...without porn. As I wrote many times here in the past: PORN IS NOT AN OPTION! 

Ages 40 and up / 6 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« on: October 27, 2020, 09:05:47 AM »
Good day RN. This week I'll celebrate 6 years porn-free. It's certainly been a journey my friends. My how the time flies! My entire journey is posted on this thread so I won't explain the nuts and bolts of my porn addiction. But I will share that I only addressed my porn addiction because I'd hit rock bottom. You see in addition to PMOing all day, every day, I'd also started watching TV, porn and perusing gay hook up apps WHILE DRIVING. Yep. Somewhere in the back of my mind I just knew that my addictions to porn/sex would eventually kill me, and likely another driver/passenger in a head-on collision. All that death and destruction because I was on my f*cking phone. So I joined this forum and (or "PAA") back in November 2014 and adopted a 'porn is not an option' mentality. Now years later, I'm much happier and healthier although I'm glad I had PAA to work through the emotional sh*t that caused my addictions to porn, sex, and masturbation. While I've had a good run this time, I tried and failed for years to stop watching porn. So please don't give up if you're struggling. That's all I have to share friends. Love, Lyon. 

Ages 40 and up / 5.5 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« on: April 24, 2020, 02:35:15 AM »
Hey Nation! I recently celebrated 5 1/2 years porn-free and wanted to check in with y'all. There is no secret to my recovery:

1. Doing a hard 90 (no porn, no masturbation)
2. Regularly posting here
3. Joining Porn Addicts Anonymous and working the 12 steps with a sponsor
4. Exchanging and encouraging other members
5. Honesty, accountability, and authenticity

Life is so much better porn-free...I'm talking like going from grainy black-and-whites to IMAX-movie better. Yes there may be stumbles/relapses along the way, but falling down on this journey doesn't mean you fall completely off the mountain. I hope everyone is healthy and safe during these trying times.

Much love,


Ages 40 and up / Re: I guess every form of refuge has its price
« on: November 01, 2019, 06:23:34 AM »
3+ weeks porn-free! Great job my friend. Keep coming back and sharing your journey. For every person posting here, I reckon there are dozens quietly following our journeys. Take care.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Ending an Insidious Addiction
« on: November 01, 2019, 06:22:34 AM »
Hey Chicago. Just a shout out to wish you the very best on your recovery journey. I also wanted to thank you for so actively encouraging others through posts on their threads. Be well my friend. Love Lyon.

Happy 71st birthday my friend. You're an inspiration and an example that recovery (and a porn-free life) can start at any age. I'd encourage you to keep posting and encouraging others. Love Lyon.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Jixu's Journal
« on: November 01, 2019, 06:19:40 AM »
Congrats on 3 days brother. Keep coming back!

Ages 40 and up / Re: Patrick's Journal: A gay guy's imperfect reboot
« on: November 01, 2019, 06:19:09 AM »
Hey Patrick. Glad to see that you're still on the boards my friend. Keep coming back. Thinking of you brother. Love Lyon.

Ages 40 and up / Re: still going strong/still no career
« on: November 01, 2019, 06:18:12 AM »
Hi Olaf! Congratulations on going porn-free my friend. It sounds like you're on the right track brother. Thinking of you and your family. Love Lyon. 

Ages 40 and up / Re: quit for good
« on: November 01, 2019, 06:16:42 AM »
Thanks for sharing Joe! I agree that there is no one path to recovery. For me personally, after years of struggling, what worked for me was stopping porn completely...forever. I'd tried the gradual or "lite beer" approach and it never worked for me. By "lite beer" I'm referring to an alcoholic who drinks mostly whiskey switching to lite beer and then calling it a victory. Unfortunately, it's still the same thing: alcohol = drunk = addiction. With my porn addiction, I was the worst judge of what was acceptable or not so I stopped looking at porn and porn-lite images (some also cut out erotic literature). Reading "Your Brain on Porn" was a great tool that helped me understand my dopamine addiction. Good luck with your journey brother.

Thanks for sharing brother and good luck with your journey. Keep coming back.

Ages 40 and up / Re: 5 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« on: November 01, 2019, 06:11:22 AM »
Thanks brother and congratulations on 3 years porn-free. I'd encourage you and others to keep sharing, posting, and (most importantly) encouraging others. This community and its kind members were a huge part of my recovery. And is not an option.

Ages 40 and up / 5 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« on: October 28, 2019, 03:17:55 PM »
Bam! On Wednesday, I'll celebrate 5 f*cking years porn-free. And I couldn't have done it without this forum and its wonderful members. I am beyond thankful. On an addiction scale of 10, I was easily a 12 before joining Reboot Nation. I'd spend hours every day fapping to internet porn, suffered from severe porn induced erectile dysfunction (PIED), and a whole host of other porn-related problems. Now five years later, I'm a different and much better man. One of the greatest things about recovery is being able to sleep again. For most of my life, I've been a black-belt insomniac and never once considered that it was caused in part by my porn addiction. These days I fall asleep almost once my head hits the pillow and it's bliss. I can't tell you how much happier I am without porn because I don't spend all day, every day with this porn-like "I'm ashamed of myself" stank like some creepy form of second-hand smoke. I no longer have to deal with the daily shame of seeing my post-orgasm reflection in the computer screen after I've fapped for hours to some of the worst filth imaginable. When I joined RN five years ago, I thankfully adopted a "porn is not an option" mentality. I'm not going to lie. It was damn hard to go porn-free, particularly for the first 100 days. (Feel free to read my posts where I detail: night shakes; head rushes; migraines; and terrible blue balls because I gave up compulsive masturbation as well.) But after a few months, things got much easier. What was truly difficult was dealing with the emotional damage that led me down the path of addiction. For that, I'm thankful to and the 12 steps. Now five years later, I'm happily divorced, completely out of the closet, self-employed, and renovating a house with my long-term boyfriend. We move in next month! I am so thankful to Gabe for creating this website/forum which truly saved my life. Without RN, I'd probably be dead in some ditch because I was so addicted to porn/sex that I'd often watch porn and surf gay hookup apps while driving. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. Love Lyon.   

Ages 40 and up / Re: Uk65tantra
« on: May 13, 2019, 02:30:18 PM »
Congrats on 2+ months porn-free! I'm rooting for you brother.

Ages 40 and up / Re: See them grow up
« on: May 13, 2019, 02:29:32 PM »
Great update my friend. Rooting for you!

Ages 40 and up / Re: my success
« on: May 13, 2019, 02:28:42 PM »
Hi Olaf. I celebrate your recovery my friend. We've traded barbs in the past so I wanted to apologize for being harsh. I'm thrilled you stopped the porn altogether...and reconnected with your wife. Congratulations my friend! Much love to you and your family. 

Ages 40 and up / Re: 4.5 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« on: May 13, 2019, 02:24:21 PM »
Hey friends! I just celebrated 4.5 years porn-free and I did it just like all of you: one day at a time. Life is so much better porn-free. Insomnia: gone. Limp d*ck: gone. Depression: gone. Anxiety: gone. Self-esteem: back. Love of life: back. Confidence (not arrogance): back. Happiness: back. Had I not stopped watching porn back on October 29, 2014, I know for a fact that I'd be a dead man right now. Why? Because I was such a screen addict that I often watched porn and sexted while driving. There is no secret to my recovery: hard 90 porn/masturbation free; posting here for the first year of recovery; encouraging others; and these days I continue to participate in weekly 12-step meetings for porn addiction ( For me, there was no quick fix to overcoming my addictions to porn, sex, and masturbation. It was a grind, particularly for the first year, but now 4.5 years later, it was so worth it. I wish you all the best with your own journeys. Love to all. 

Success Stories / FOUR YEARS PORN-FREE!
« on: October 28, 2018, 11:22:56 AM »
Hey friends! Tomorrow will be 4 years porn-free. Life is so much better without porn. Keep fighting the good fight. Want more information? Just read my threads.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Trying to get the feeling back
« on: October 28, 2018, 11:18:19 AM »
Thanks Larry! I remember that feeling like it was yesterday. Keep coming back my friend.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Yes I Can!
« on: October 28, 2018, 11:17:43 AM »
Thanks for sharing Bob! Just came back for a quick post and was happy to see you're still fighting. Be well my friend. Love Lyon.

Ages 40 and up / Re: 4 YEARS PORN-FREE!
« on: October 28, 2018, 11:16:46 AM »
Good day nation! Tomorrow will mark 4 years porn-free for me. Let's have a look at my very first forum post:

"Here is my story: 42 years old, first discovered porn/masturbation around age 12, went from magazines, to video, paid streaming porn, then free and highly addictive porn sites. What was a flirtation became a full-on obsession in 1994 and heroin-like addiction in 2005. I'm starting this journal on day 23 of my recovery with a goal of hitting 90 days initially before stopping forever. My addiction has now cost me: my career, my business, my marriage, and was well along to destroying my relationship with my three kids. On October 30th, I finally said "f*ck this". I've not watched porn since and never will do it again. I've started a reboot with no-fap and no television. I've also read pretty much everything I could about my addiction, namely it's harder to give up than meth. (Scary!) But there are temptations, particularly in the form of rock-hard erections at night and geyser-like pressure because I haven't had an orgasm in roughly two weeks. I'll post daily to keep motivated. Glad to have found this site and very happy to share with others."

I can't express how much better my life is without my addictions to porn and masturbation. So how did I get this far?

1. Set a goal: "Porn is not an option"
2. Joined and this forum.
3. For the first 100 days, posted daily.
4. Read everything I could about addiction and particularly porn addiction.
5. Made a point of reading other threads while also encouraging others.
6. Got back into shape.
7. Quickly realized that, for me personally, porn was just a coping mechanism. I had to change my whole way of thinking.
8. Worked hard to address a whole host of other issues (being closeted; toxic relationships; co-dependency; sex addiction etc).

Thanks for reading friends. This forum was a huge part of my recovery so I'd like to thank Gabe Deem and my fellow members. Keep fighting the good fight. Love Lyon.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Yes I Can!
« on: August 16, 2018, 10:05:26 PM »
Shout out Bob! Thinking of you my friend and hope you are well.

« on: August 16, 2018, 10:03:55 PM »
1387 days porn-free / 3 years 9 months 18 days porn-free: Hey nation! It's been a while between posts. In just 10 weeks, I'll reach the major milestone of 4 years porn-free. What started as a journey to have boners again has become so much more. Just a few days ago, I celebrated 6 years with my boyfriend. It's been quite the journey my friends. In addition to addressing my decades-long porn addiction, I have also: come out of the closet, separated, divorced, and found love again. I don't have a lot to share my friends other than that porn was simply the tip of the iceberg, the acting out if you will, 9/10ths of my problems remained under water. I'm not the same person I was when I started this journey. After a lifetime of shame and self-hatred, I've re-learned to love myself, am no longer angry all the time, sleep better than I ever have, and now connect with people almost instantly.  I'm 100% myself which is so much easier when I'm not carrying around the pervvy porn aura I had in the past. Living with the dual shame of being a closeted gay man AND porn/masturbation addict almost drove me to commit suicide. As one of my favourite books writes, "Suicide is a permanent solution to life's short-term problems." Amen to that. Life still has its challenges for sure, but I no longer turn to porn nor masturbation to cope with them. Speaking of masturbation, I probably wank about 5-6 times a year, compared to 1-2x daily during full-blown PMO addiction. Someone asked above:

1. Your erections no longer worked before quitting.


2. Now your erection works every time you feel like being intimate and it stays?

Not always my friend, but that's life when you're 46 like me. Most of us start this process because we want puberty-level rock-hard erections...on command. Now 4 years later I understand this process was always about my brian, not about my junk. I'd suggest you read, "Your Brain on Porn" to better understand that what we have is a brain/dopamine addiciton, not limp d*ck obsession.

If you want to learn more about me and my journey, just read my thread! Be well friends. And remember: PORN IS NOT AN OPTION. 

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