I just realized why I had been seething with rage the last couple of days. We are coming up on an "anniversary" and my subconscious realized it before my conscious mind did. But, I definitely started to realize it with my conscious mind - a LOT. I know the timelines of all of my husband's escalations - basically, I know his entire porn journey. My husband crossed a line in that he actually visited a massage parlor and got a blow job. I know when it happened - just about two weeks after my birthday. Well, guess what is coming up - my birthday. He had to plan this little 'adventure', so he had to start planning right around my birthday.
My husband is trying desperately to just move past things, he wants the past to be the past and focus on the future. I, on the other hand, want to know that he realizes consistently just how much hurt and destruction this particular act brought into our marriage. We are coming up on the absolute biggest deception of our marriage. We are about to step directly into the anniversary of the biggest lie my husband ever told. His hesitancy in acknowledging that and wanting to close his eyes and stick his fingers in his ears and just cover up the date with cake and ice cream has me absolutely raging.
So - how do you handle "anniversaries" for things like d-day? I may be the only person here that has a husband that actually moved beyond viewing porn to actually doing cam-to-cam and having a "happy ending' massage, but I do know everyone had a d-day. Do you find yourself getting angry around that time? Do you want your husband to acknowledge the date or just ignore it?
My husband is trying desperately to just move past things, he wants the past to be the past and focus on the future. I, on the other hand, want to know that he realizes consistently just how much hurt and destruction this particular act brought into our marriage. We are coming up on the absolute biggest deception of our marriage. We are about to step directly into the anniversary of the biggest lie my husband ever told. His hesitancy in acknowledging that and wanting to close his eyes and stick his fingers in his ears and just cover up the date with cake and ice cream has me absolutely raging.
So - how do you handle "anniversaries" for things like d-day? I may be the only person here that has a husband that actually moved beyond viewing porn to actually doing cam-to-cam and having a "happy ending' massage, but I do know everyone had a d-day. Do you find yourself getting angry around that time? Do you want your husband to acknowledge the date or just ignore it?