Healingshame
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HI guys just wanted to made a post here because I owe it I guess given how much help it was for me. (maybe more YBOP but still)
I am healed after 13 months.
About me and my story you can learn from my blog :http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=188.0
Just couple advices I can give from my mistakes that could help guys here:
1) It is not about porn and or masturbation it is about improving your life and changing it.
I think that most here don't look at the bigger picture and in a way they "sort of want" to quit porn and/or masturbation yet they keep relapsing.
What helped me and made me basically not relapsing was realisation of how much I lost due to MO'ing and Porn. I lost 10 years ,countless of girls, was hurt so many times and was living like a zombie. Thats something I saw in Gabe vids too when he talked about it. If you really realize on a deeper level how much you lost due to all of this shit you won't relapse.
2) Again quiting porn and moing has to be a part of much bigger action. It is easy to keep going even when things are bad when you keep improving your life and see results.
I lost 15kg, saw 2 continents made new friends, scored a girlfriend had sexual encounters with sever girls. And It was probably more experience than im my previous 28 years of life.
Simply make a decision to "stop this shit" and " I don't want my life to look like that for the rest of my life" and try to improve it day by day.
3) Abstaining is not a solution
I see so many guys here trying to abstain long enough to be healed. It won't work you need to find girlfriend and believe I know that it is hard. But it is possible. I did that. Many many guys did that too. Woman are no aliens and if you make yourself at least semi interesting to them it will work. I am sure about that. But you have to create consistent effort and massive action.
If you keep trying and keep learning based on your experience you will make it.
4) This one will be controversial. I think that for many guys they should at some point try ED drugs. I mean I lost probably several months because I didn't wanted to try. When you have ED there is a ton of anxiety and for people like me who was a virgin no experience. It is hard to rewire when you can't have sex and you get rejected by girls thanks to that.
However it is not a band aid. You just need to use it to improve and speed up your healing process with the goal to decrease dosage or quit entirely ASAP.
I saw people (e.g. John) being in the same position as me healing themselves much faster (like in 6 months) because with Ed drugs they could rewire much more consistently and faster.
Tho I do think that me traveling abroad and not seeing then my GF and limited rewiring due to long distance relationship played its part.
Ok guys. Take care. GL on your path.
I am healed after 13 months.
About me and my story you can learn from my blog :http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=188.0
Just couple advices I can give from my mistakes that could help guys here:
1) It is not about porn and or masturbation it is about improving your life and changing it.
I think that most here don't look at the bigger picture and in a way they "sort of want" to quit porn and/or masturbation yet they keep relapsing.
What helped me and made me basically not relapsing was realisation of how much I lost due to MO'ing and Porn. I lost 10 years ,countless of girls, was hurt so many times and was living like a zombie. Thats something I saw in Gabe vids too when he talked about it. If you really realize on a deeper level how much you lost due to all of this shit you won't relapse.
2) Again quiting porn and moing has to be a part of much bigger action. It is easy to keep going even when things are bad when you keep improving your life and see results.
I lost 15kg, saw 2 continents made new friends, scored a girlfriend had sexual encounters with sever girls. And It was probably more experience than im my previous 28 years of life.
Simply make a decision to "stop this shit" and " I don't want my life to look like that for the rest of my life" and try to improve it day by day.
3) Abstaining is not a solution
I see so many guys here trying to abstain long enough to be healed. It won't work you need to find girlfriend and believe I know that it is hard. But it is possible. I did that. Many many guys did that too. Woman are no aliens and if you make yourself at least semi interesting to them it will work. I am sure about that. But you have to create consistent effort and massive action.
If you keep trying and keep learning based on your experience you will make it.
4) This one will be controversial. I think that for many guys they should at some point try ED drugs. I mean I lost probably several months because I didn't wanted to try. When you have ED there is a ton of anxiety and for people like me who was a virgin no experience. It is hard to rewire when you can't have sex and you get rejected by girls thanks to that.
However it is not a band aid. You just need to use it to improve and speed up your healing process with the goal to decrease dosage or quit entirely ASAP.
I saw people (e.g. John) being in the same position as me healing themselves much faster (like in 6 months) because with Ed drugs they could rewire much more consistently and faster.
Tho I do think that me traveling abroad and not seeing then my GF and limited rewiring due to long distance relationship played its part.
Ok guys. Take care. GL on your path.