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marco_60

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I think I can understand your situation, D. And believe me: it is really remarkable the fact that you start reboot under your particularly stressing circumstances!

As a short introduction: I am a university prof, 60 y.o., and have a partner. I have no ED but no ejaculations, and this is my main driver to start reboot. I am convinced that my problem is that I got ejaculations only through M until very recently,  thus my brain should "forget" that very special way of getting to the end and be "rewired" to the usual way.

However, stress matters a lot. We all are in smart working and delivering lectures remotely has proven to be challenging and time consuming: the stress certainly does not help. I have spent few weeks in flatline, now since a week I start feeling a change but it takes time (I know because I already had a previous reboot which lasted a little less than four months, and I saw the results...).

I think it would be pretentious to give you whatsoever advices, but I would like to let you know that what helped me a lot was  to have longer preliminaries with my girlfriend before the real intercourse, and to be open about the reasons of my stress (she is a high school teacher, so she also is stressed since the beginning of this pandemic).
 

workinprogressUK

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Massive respect to you and the challenging, difficult and worthwhile work you're doing..... at the same time as buying and renovating a house.... and breaking your porn addiction cycle. That's seriously impressive commitment!! Hopefully staying off P can help you stay focused and energised in the other facets of your life, which have so much more value. More power to you, Discobolus. Hope you smash it!
 

marco_60

Active Member
I read your journal with a mixture of sincere interest and admiration, D. The latter because you seem to be able to keep the emotional side from the exceptional situation at job well distinct from your personal life.
 

workinprogressUK

Well-Known Member
Great that you're working at it together. That's got to help  :)
Worried that I may be one of those old guys who "come across as pseudo intellectuals in denial" so I won't try to be clever. But I never stop being amazed at the number of successful, intelligent individuals who are here as a result of their low self-esteem. And it doesn't matter how many people tell them they're amazing. You appear to be a bit of a star, though, so I really do wish you continued strength and success.
 

LetItGoAlready

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Discobolus - Congrats on your progress and on resisting the inescapable magnetism of Temptress Pelosi. LOL. Wishing you well, friend.
 
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Deleted member 17609

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Butthead, that?s funny. Kids can be very funny sometimes.

Read your journal, it?s pretty interesting. Rebooting when you?re in a relationship is different than when you?re single. I like reading about guys who are in a relationship, because I have a girlfriend too, and the process is not exactly the same, we?re facing other challenges. But things get better with time, no doubt about that.

Keep it up.
 
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Keep it up, it will pass.

Viagra can be helpful as a temporary aid, it works really well. You don?t seem to have severe ED, so that?s good. I?ve had good sex thanks to it, but I try to use it as less as possible these days. It?s different for everyone. Trying smaller doses can also be a good idea. But you?re a doctor, you know about that.

And finally, redirecting all our desires towards our girlfriends or wives is also a good thing. I personally don?t masturbate, because I have a pretty severe case of ED, and that would probably slow down my recovery a lot. But even for other guys, especially for those in a relationship, I think it?s good to masturbate as less as possible. Not only for your brain, but also for your relationship: you?re more likely to be looking forward to a great evening with your wife, and to be more sexually engaging with her if she?s your only outlet.

You?re doing good.
 
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discobolus said:
Weird night last night. Even long after the viagra should of been out of my system I?m just laying in bed with a boner and my heart pounding. Strangely if I rub my own body the pounding goes away. So I was rubbing my own chest which got me even more turned on but the pounding goes away. I didn?t look at porn or anything but I did masturbate this morning. So I?m going to see that as a small setback but nothing big in the grand scheme of things.
That?s pretty common. Many guys, including me, still feel an effect from Viagra on the day after, even if it?s out of your system. I always have good morning wood the day after, while usually I don?t have morning wood. It might be caused by the fact you?ve reached a higher level of arousal, and your body is still on some sort of high on the next day. As I said, it?s pretty common, it?s no big deal.
 
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Well, that?s all very positive. You?re definitely going forward, keep it up.
 
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discobolus said:
Bilbo Baggins said:
Well, that?s all very positive. You?re definitely going forward, keep it up.

Every time say ?keep it up? I can?t help but think of a double entendre regarding ED. My brain is pretty juvenile at times.
Don?t worry, you?re not alone.  8)
 
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I?m also starting to see things like this too. I?ve had PIED for years, but I?m still able to perform most of the time, things could be worse for me. Many guys have a severe case of PIED, and it?s really heartbreaking to read their stories. Fortunately, there?s hope for everyone, including severe cases. There are countless recovery stories from guys who had never had successful sex in their whole lives before their reboot.
 

joepanic

Respected Member
I hear you Discobolus    I am going through some similar issues  with my wife.  Try to get a straight answer out and it will probably turn into a fight.  I just posted my feelings on this issue ion my journal not 10 minutes ago. Basically I will probably be going the same way as my wife and just give up on it.  I love her dearly and I'm so attracted to her and have no intention of ever leaving her but I am starting to look at options as to what I can do with my life that will equal the loss of pleasure  of our sex life.  I hope it doesn't break up the marriage  some day  but I must have enjoyment  in life... Fulfilment if you will.

    Good luck  hope it gets better  but stay on track with your reboot.  It may help you later

    Post often it helps me it helps you
 

joepanic

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I too find the and I use this for lack of a better term right now "cold start" frustrating.  I've always been a shoot straight from the hip kind of guy.  There were times because of this sort of start I wasn't sure if she was into it or not so I would go from hard rock to soft pretty quick  therefore giving the impression that maybe I wasn't interested.

  Perhaps you need to reach the full 90 days or longer before things below the belt  begin to improve    I never suffered any pied. I guess I was very lucky there.  But nice going on your present stats.  try not to allow the frustration to derail any other progress you have made.

    Post often it helps me it helps you
 
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J01

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Good going on the 30 plus days.  Hope some of the COVID stuff can continue to lessen to take some of the stress away from your work.  On the other hand, in your line of work I guess there is always something out there! Don't rush back to the gym too quickly-doctor's orders!  Take care.
 
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I?m not sure I go that right: what dosage of Viagra are you taking? You wrote 1 1/2 pills, that?s not clear. Just asking, because 100mg is the maximum recommended dose, as I?m sure you already know.
 
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I thought 100 mg was the maximum dose, thanks for the input. I?m lucky, because 50 mg is enough for me at this point, and it doesn?t matter if I eat or not before to take it, or if I drink alcohol, it always works. Of course, I?m looking forward to obtain nice erections without Viagra, but in the meantime, it can be pretty useful at times.
 
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Yeah, having ED really sucks. Life becomes much less interesting when you can?t properly make love to a woman. That?s why we have to give it our best shot, and not be afraid of trying different things to improve our libido. Meditating, doing exercise, not drinking too much... All these things have a big impact on our lives, not only on our libido, so regardless of where we are in terms of recovery, they are good things to do.

Keep it up, friend, you?re doing good.
 
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Sounds good. If you do this for a couple of weeks, it will become easy and natural for you to avoid that kind of content. We really have to commit to rebooting if we want our situation to improve, just like anything else actually. Keep it up.
 
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