Really can?t believe I didn?t know I had a problem

Hello all. I?m a 50 year old male who now knows I?ve been battling this thing since before being a teen. I?m 21 days into my reboot. No porn no sex no masturbation. I can tell you the clarity I?m gaining every day is astounding. I did a 8 week nonporn earlier this year but kept on with regular sex and masturbation and didn?t have the clarity I do now. It really bothers me that this isn?t in the governments radar. I watched the Social Dilemma on Netflix which sums it up but of course no mention of porn addiction. Really sad.

Well I?m planning at least 30 days my wife is on board and has been a great support during this time.

Congratulations on 3 weeks! Hope you make it the full month. I've just finished a week, and hope this is the end for me.

Dude.  62 here.  Married 32 years.  Consuming porn 48 years. 

Interested in conversation with you, because where my head is at, I am still not sure if I have a problem or not, and I don't think I do.  That said, I am doing a Reboot in an effort to make my wife happy, but of course, that's a pretty shallow reason to do it and probably only a symptom of other problems, maybe.  I get that.

For starters, I'm curious as to what put you across the line on no sex?  I am at 42 days with no PM but I continue to have regular sex resulting in orgasms, with my wife.  Can you tell me the value of, or reasons for, your decision to also not have sex with your own wife?  I am not having sex or orgasms with anyone else and I am not looking at porn or masturbating.  The only withdrawal symptom I am experiencing is a struggle with the urge to search.  I believe I am controlling that urge adequately if not perfectly.

Another guy on here who carries himself as an expert, is saying a lot to me, and after a lot of Private Message exchanges, he has decided that I am probably not having an addiction problem so much as I have a habit my wife doesn't like and wants me to stop, but I don't want to stop.

It's all very confusing.  I hope you will write back.