ToomuchisToomuch
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one of the tools that i have read about in overcoming porn and lust, is writing a letter to myself from myself in a future in which I have broken free from porn addiction and sex addiction and lust addiction. A future in which I have admitted my short comings, but identified my true goals and discovered a life of love, and meaning.
So this may be corny, but here goes.
Dear G,
I hope that you are doing okay right now, and I hope that you are staying strong in your efforts in getting past your addictions. Here I am sitting in my home office, thinking of you and giving you all the strength and support that I can. I know first hand that what you are going through is not easy. In fact, it is pretty far from anything even resembling easy. But you are strong. I know that sometimes you don't see or feel that strength, but it is there. So keep fighting.
It truly is worth it.
My life now is much more peaceful that it used to be. The inner turmoil has faded and I wake each day with a sense of purpose. In fact, I don't get out of bed in the morning until I know what I am going to do for the first hour of the day. I remind myself that having a sense of purpose is what brought me to this life, and away from the distracted and directionless life I had before. So if there is one bit of advice I can pass on to you, it is to identify your purpose early on in the day, so that you can build strength from that.
Buddy, there is so much to do in this life of ours. I know that you get bogged down in a narrower scope of that and you focus on porn or lust, but I can share that I have discovered so many cool hobbies and activities that I get excited about doing each day, week, month, and year. Having my family around to do some of these things with means the world to me. I fought so hard each and every day for this life, for these people to know me and love me and feel my love back to them. My soul is bare to my loving partner, and she sees me for who I am, and for my shortcomings, and loves me anyway. There is nothing in this world I would trade that for. Especially not a porn addiction. Fuck porn. One day at a time I persevered. one day at a time, is what lies ahead for you.
Trust me when I say this, the evil genius that lurks within us will do anything and everything it can to lead you away from this life I send this letter from. That asshole will try and manipulate you subtly at times, and will come at full force at other times. but you are one smart son of a bitch yourself, and you will need to be ready for him. Don't even let him start chattering away inside your head. change the subject, meditate, call a friend, or take away his tools. put him down and keep him down. don't engage in anyway, shape or form. There were some times when the going got really tough, when he pushed back against me with everything he had, but I turned off my computer, put away my cell phone, and took away any device that my evil genius could use to bring me back to the dark. fuck that guy.
Still to this day, I need to be wary of him. he is not as strong now as he used to be, but he is still lurking in my brain, so my guard must always be up. But it's easier now. For the rest of my life, I stand guard. You are a lot farther back in this journey. but this is a righteousness quest and by moving forward one minute, one hour, one day at a time, you will one day look back over your life just as I am doing now, and know that you are better. That you are living a life you deserve, and that you can be proud of.
I love you man. You can do this. You will find the strength. Your family and friends are here waiting for you. We all love you.
So strive for excellence, but show yourself compassion and love as well, because there will be bumps. There always are. A wise man once said ?Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty? I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life. I have envied a great many people who led difficult lives and led them well.?
This chair is waiting here for you...and you will be here before you know it.
one day at a time.
G
So this may be corny, but here goes.
Dear G,
I hope that you are doing okay right now, and I hope that you are staying strong in your efforts in getting past your addictions. Here I am sitting in my home office, thinking of you and giving you all the strength and support that I can. I know first hand that what you are going through is not easy. In fact, it is pretty far from anything even resembling easy. But you are strong. I know that sometimes you don't see or feel that strength, but it is there. So keep fighting.
It truly is worth it.
My life now is much more peaceful that it used to be. The inner turmoil has faded and I wake each day with a sense of purpose. In fact, I don't get out of bed in the morning until I know what I am going to do for the first hour of the day. I remind myself that having a sense of purpose is what brought me to this life, and away from the distracted and directionless life I had before. So if there is one bit of advice I can pass on to you, it is to identify your purpose early on in the day, so that you can build strength from that.
Buddy, there is so much to do in this life of ours. I know that you get bogged down in a narrower scope of that and you focus on porn or lust, but I can share that I have discovered so many cool hobbies and activities that I get excited about doing each day, week, month, and year. Having my family around to do some of these things with means the world to me. I fought so hard each and every day for this life, for these people to know me and love me and feel my love back to them. My soul is bare to my loving partner, and she sees me for who I am, and for my shortcomings, and loves me anyway. There is nothing in this world I would trade that for. Especially not a porn addiction. Fuck porn. One day at a time I persevered. one day at a time, is what lies ahead for you.
Trust me when I say this, the evil genius that lurks within us will do anything and everything it can to lead you away from this life I send this letter from. That asshole will try and manipulate you subtly at times, and will come at full force at other times. but you are one smart son of a bitch yourself, and you will need to be ready for him. Don't even let him start chattering away inside your head. change the subject, meditate, call a friend, or take away his tools. put him down and keep him down. don't engage in anyway, shape or form. There were some times when the going got really tough, when he pushed back against me with everything he had, but I turned off my computer, put away my cell phone, and took away any device that my evil genius could use to bring me back to the dark. fuck that guy.
Still to this day, I need to be wary of him. he is not as strong now as he used to be, but he is still lurking in my brain, so my guard must always be up. But it's easier now. For the rest of my life, I stand guard. You are a lot farther back in this journey. but this is a righteousness quest and by moving forward one minute, one hour, one day at a time, you will one day look back over your life just as I am doing now, and know that you are better. That you are living a life you deserve, and that you can be proud of.
I love you man. You can do this. You will find the strength. Your family and friends are here waiting for you. We all love you.
So strive for excellence, but show yourself compassion and love as well, because there will be bumps. There always are. A wise man once said ?Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty? I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life. I have envied a great many people who led difficult lives and led them well.?
This chair is waiting here for you...and you will be here before you know it.
one day at a time.
G
