bobitkitkit
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Okay I?ve known for a while that I have PIED but I?ve been on and off with No PMO and clearly it hasn?t worked out.
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Miserable due to porn addiction
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Relentless Observer
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I am sorry you had to experience that. However, most people on this forum express great recovery in time. So, read through accounts on this site and hopefully you can find situations similar to yours to find strength and connection. Furthermore, everyone hear wants you to recover.
Good luck.
Good luck.
FraDolcino
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Hi Anon,
Well done with the 13 days. The longest without PMO in years you wrote, that is really good!
Congratulations. I enjoy reading your journal, it motivates me to continue with the porn-free life and
makes me want to be as open and honest about myself as I feel you are.
So I hope you keep doing the good work. I have the feeling that you can do it.
Good luck.
Kind regards,
Fra Dolcino
Well done with the 13 days. The longest without PMO in years you wrote, that is really good!
Congratulations. I enjoy reading your journal, it motivates me to continue with the porn-free life and
makes me want to be as open and honest about myself as I feel you are.
So I hope you keep doing the good work. I have the feeling that you can do it.
Good luck.
Kind regards,
Fra Dolcino
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wecandoit
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You know, for some of us porn might not be the number one source of our misery. Or maybe you are in a flatline or indeed what you used to numb with porn came back to haunt you (it happens to me). But one thing is clear: Porn is not the solution. You don't need to go back to it because porn doesn't heal, porn puts another rock on your shoulders that you certainly don't need to carry given how you feel. Porn promises the cure and delivers misery.
About porn dreams: I have them too. I think they are part of the withdrawal. Other guys have reported having porn dreams too. I understand why you are annoyed that you still have porn dreams after 20 days but I don't know how long it takes. I had porn dreams after 40 days! It sucks to have to wait that long to heal but it's actually a shorter period of time in comparison to years of porn. It's just that years of pleasure certainly feel better than days of pain.
About porn dreams: I have them too. I think they are part of the withdrawal. Other guys have reported having porn dreams too. I understand why you are annoyed that you still have porn dreams after 20 days but I don't know how long it takes. I had porn dreams after 40 days! It sucks to have to wait that long to heal but it's actually a shorter period of time in comparison to years of porn. It's just that years of pleasure certainly feel better than days of pain.
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wecandoit
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22 days is great progress, man. You don't want to start from day 1 again and wait again for 3 weeks. I definitely don't like when this happens because I am not really patient. When you build a longer streak, you have to keep going because only like this you reach that day when porn leaves you alone.
faenoe
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Congrats man! That is a big accomplishment.
Don't let your physical goals get you down. That has led to too many relapses for me in the past. You have to separate your emotions from your addiction and let your goals govern your behavior. Physical changes come as slowly as the mental changes after years of porn use. You have to stay at them AND DON'T QUIT!
Don't let your physical goals get you down. That has led to too many relapses for me in the past. You have to separate your emotions from your addiction and let your goals govern your behavior. Physical changes come as slowly as the mental changes after years of porn use. You have to stay at them AND DON'T QUIT!
Tiredness and lack of energy can be a withdrawal symptom from porn addiction. The same with motivation issues and lack of concentration. That doesnt mean, that you cant overcome it, but i would recommend to start very slowly and to begin with something you feel like is substainable at the moment. Maybe start with two hours of learning, maybe just one, and slowly increase, when you feel like you can carry more. Maybe add one hour more after a few days or so. That at least worked for me. Maybe your psyche and body got to get used to tackle both problems at once.
Pressuring myself being successful and frustration because of it were my biggest triggers, so try to not pressure yourself too much.
Pressuring myself being successful and frustration because of it were my biggest triggers, so try to not pressure yourself too much.
Good job on resisting the urges. When you can overcome a few of these moments, you have made it out of the worst. The only tough thing then is to make it over a long period of time.
Boredom, quarantene and motivation issues at the same time are really a big challenge to tackle. Watching shows was definitely a good help for me ( i also was isolating myself heavily because of depression, so my situation was pretty similar. )
Workouts, especially running, is something i can also recommend.
Calling friends can also help.
Dont let the isolation get to you and keep going.
Good luck
Boredom, quarantene and motivation issues at the same time are really a big challenge to tackle. Watching shows was definitely a good help for me ( i also was isolating myself heavily because of depression, so my situation was pretty similar. )
Workouts, especially running, is something i can also recommend.
Calling friends can also help.
Dont let the isolation get to you and keep going.
Good luck
Frustration and pressure with studying were also my biggest triggers. Sometimes i just pmo'ed, so that i could just function. Thats tough to overcome. I tackled it by starting slow and when i bumped into difficulties i allowed myself to rest (napping) and tried to not pressure myself too much. Porn is an addiction and you would not demand the best version of yourself, when you would withdraw from any other drug. Meditating also did not work for me. The good news is, once you start to get a few good days in, the satisfaction of having success really helps against withdrawals. But getting there will probably take a bit.
Good luck getting over the hump
Good luck getting over the hump
faenoe
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Hey anon, sorry to hear about the rough day. I hate it when I feel like I am stuck in that "rut" of just wanting to only look at porn and knowing that I have a ton of other things I need to work on. It is seriously the pits. You have to get yourself out of that situation and detox from that cortisol that builds up in your body. When your brain gets in a high stress situation, it will look for anything to get itself out. At that point, you're fighting a survival instinct. I don't think I've ever had success in getting away when I just stay in front of a porn access point when I feel that survival instinct kick in. I have to get out.
Haha thats funny, it sounded familiar. But the thought was not so present in my mind anymore. Thats interesting.
It can definetely also be a withdrawal symptom. I had one week in which i slept the whole day with short hourbreaks and then had difficulties to sleep at night.
It can definetely also be a withdrawal symptom. I had one week in which i slept the whole day with short hourbreaks and then had difficulties to sleep at night.
anonfromfinance said:
That's already a very good sign. it took me months to not get urges out of frustration.
About the whole other stuff. Its tough, but if its something you really want, you will find a way. The good news is you still can take the test in a foreseeable amount of time and you dont have to wait an eternity.
Slow and steady man.
As i told you fatigue, insomnia, low motivation, depressions, lack of concentration and short-temperedness are very common and hit me really hard as well in the beginning. It will definetely pass amd become less and easier to fight through with time. I am very impressed how you handle the current situation.
Whats a nightfall? A wet dream? I dont know the term.
I watched this vid by gabe deem today. Lifted my mood for a bit and gave me a little hope.
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/porn-induced-sexual-dysfunctions/start-here-porn-induced-sexual-dysfunction/porn-induced-ed-reboot-advice/
Keeo going
As i told you fatigue, insomnia, low motivation, depressions, lack of concentration and short-temperedness are very common and hit me really hard as well in the beginning. It will definetely pass amd become less and easier to fight through with time. I am very impressed how you handle the current situation.
Whats a nightfall? A wet dream? I dont know the term.
I watched this vid by gabe deem today. Lifted my mood for a bit and gave me a little hope.
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/porn-induced-sexual-dysfunctions/start-here-porn-induced-sexual-dysfunction/porn-induced-ed-reboot-advice/
Keeo going