mattoondah
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Man I feel like a new man! I have gone on an absolute TEAR lately! I've had sex with 5 different girls in the past 5 or 6 weeks. Plus 3 more just fooling around.
I quit porn November 1st. So a little over 3 months ago.
There are definitely a couple different factors. Quitting alcohol last August definitely made it much, much harder initially, but I got over the hump and now I feel like I have freakin' SUPERPOWERS in the bar! All sober.
The first girl that broke the dry-spell definitely made a huge difference too. That took that stank of desperation off. Hahaa!
But I really think that quitting porn has been a big factor. And in subconscious ways at least, made me more attractive. I have more confidence talking to beautiful women, better eye contact, no repressed shame about porn use.. and in general just find it much, much easier to be myself! The best version of myself.
But it took time to get here...
I also work on this shit. HARD. I didn't just quit porn and alcohol. I did those things and then FORCED myself to go to the bars on the weekends and approach attractive women sober. There have been many, many, BRUTALLY hard nights, nights where I got stuck in wall-flower mode and did not at all feel like myself.
I felt like quitting after those nights. But I didn't. I slept it off or took the whole week off from women if it was Saturday, then picked myself up and tried again the following weekend.
I made it past that. Those nights are far and few between now. The new norm is that I go out and am more outgoing, more social, opening more attractive women than I did before when I was drinking and using porn.
From a 7 MONTH sexless dryspell, to 5 different girls in 5 weeks... I feel like a new man!
There has still been some ED with some of these girls. But considerably less than before. I think the reality is porn use is ONE thing that can cause ED. It's not the only thing.
I'm very healthy and not THAT old at 45. I get crazy morning wood, so I don't think it's physical or bloodflow related. I don't use porn at all anymore, so I don't think it's dopamine related.
I think what's still giving me problems, is mental. I get fucking nervous, because it has happened in the past. And I think about that. You know... overthinking it. But I'm confident that will happen less and less often over time. I see lots of improvement so I'm not too worried about it. I'm just going to give it time and try to be IN THE MOMENT more, and enjoy the naked woman in front of me, instead of worrying about how it's going to go with her.
I quit porn November 1st. So a little over 3 months ago.
There are definitely a couple different factors. Quitting alcohol last August definitely made it much, much harder initially, but I got over the hump and now I feel like I have freakin' SUPERPOWERS in the bar! All sober.
The first girl that broke the dry-spell definitely made a huge difference too. That took that stank of desperation off. Hahaa!
But I really think that quitting porn has been a big factor. And in subconscious ways at least, made me more attractive. I have more confidence talking to beautiful women, better eye contact, no repressed shame about porn use.. and in general just find it much, much easier to be myself! The best version of myself.
But it took time to get here...
I also work on this shit. HARD. I didn't just quit porn and alcohol. I did those things and then FORCED myself to go to the bars on the weekends and approach attractive women sober. There have been many, many, BRUTALLY hard nights, nights where I got stuck in wall-flower mode and did not at all feel like myself.
I felt like quitting after those nights. But I didn't. I slept it off or took the whole week off from women if it was Saturday, then picked myself up and tried again the following weekend.
I made it past that. Those nights are far and few between now. The new norm is that I go out and am more outgoing, more social, opening more attractive women than I did before when I was drinking and using porn.
From a 7 MONTH sexless dryspell, to 5 different girls in 5 weeks... I feel like a new man!
There has still been some ED with some of these girls. But considerably less than before. I think the reality is porn use is ONE thing that can cause ED. It's not the only thing.
I'm very healthy and not THAT old at 45. I get crazy morning wood, so I don't think it's physical or bloodflow related. I don't use porn at all anymore, so I don't think it's dopamine related.
I think what's still giving me problems, is mental. I get fucking nervous, because it has happened in the past. And I think about that. You know... overthinking it. But I'm confident that will happen less and less often over time. I see lots of improvement so I'm not too worried about it. I'm just going to give it time and try to be IN THE MOMENT more, and enjoy the naked woman in front of me, instead of worrying about how it's going to go with her.