Today is day 61 completely PMO free. I don't think I've ever had this long without P or M since I started by porn career at about age 13; I'm now 58. I don't even want to know if I was able to add up the hours how many complete days or weeks of my life have been spent indulging this addiction. I've also been trying to stop for almost as long as I've been doing it. There's was always another day off in the distance when I would conquer it, "when I'm 18, when I'm 21, 25, 30, 35, 50, when I get into college, when I get out of college, when I get married, when I get divorced, when I get remarried, when this project is over," yadda, yadda, yadda. You get the idea. Aside from the negative effects directly caused by the addiction, there was also the negative effects caused by constant relapse. I quit smoking when I was 24 and quit drinking when I was 39. It was in AA meeting rooms that I first heard about SA and sex addiction and I thought "finally, the way out of this!" It didn't work for me. When I first found yourbrainonporn I also thought "finally, the way our of this!" Although it didn't happen right away, the knowledge base that I got from YBOP about how this is really a dopamine addiction is the foundation for my success so far. I have also been reading all the posts on this website from Jon64 and William. The brain science on YBOP and William's insight into how to bring that knowledge to bear in the day-to-day struggle have really been transformational. In addition to having all of that ammunition, the one thing that has been keeping me PMO-free these last 60 days is I avoid like the plague not only porn (duh!) but also any porn substitutes. For me that includes racy TV or even TV shows that have attractive women on them, including some cable news channels. I don't look at pictures of girls in bikinis or underwear or even fully clothed. I also avoid allowing myself to look at the women around me. Obviously if I'm talking to someone that's different, but walking along the train platform or waiting on line in the deli, or sitting in a restaurant, if I see an attractive woman I just look away. That is the exact opposite of what I've been doing for the last 45 years, and it's working. It may seem unnatural, etc., etc., but I don't care. That is a price I am very willing to pay. I'm not consumed with lust, I'm not jerking off to porn, and I'm not that letch ogling every female that happens to pop up in my field of vision. No porn, no porn substitutes of any kind, including fantasy. That was a killer for me too in the past. Well, I feel like I'm babbling now. That's what's been working for me and that's what I'm going to keep doing. God bless to all of you guys and gals and have a great PMO-free day!