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Coisbo

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Dropped back
« on: May 31, 2016, 07:25:19 AM »
In july 2015 started nofap, relapsed in november (masturbated 10 times in one week), then stopped again until june 2016 where i relapsed again (3 times masturbating).
I found out that i was able to stop masturbating but not able to stop watch girls on Facebook or fantasize about girls i know.
Every time when i watch these girls on FB then i get an erection, but i don't masturbate or cum at all until last 2 days.
I never really felt recovered from porn because the escalated porn genres never really left my brain.

I think that we have to skip all the watching parts of our addiction, at least the part that happens on internet because
otherwise the brain doesn't rewire to what it once was.

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Re: Dropped back
« Reply #1 on: May 31, 2016, 05:04:27 PM »
Hey Coisbo,

I think you are bang on. I've done the same as you in my reboot from time to time but havnt masterbated. I've come close a few times in trigger situations but I try to avoid those as best I can. When I find myself looking at a girl with sexual intent. I try to remember thT my brain is warped from porn and I think about how I wouldn't want an old guy like me looking at my own daughter like this. That usually squashes the fantasy dead pretty quick. It still happens though and sometimes I'm not able to let go of the fantasy right away. The main thing I'm trying to focus on right now is no Masterbating and no porn. Limit my time on FB and journal or talk to someone who understands. My confidence is increasing everyday and it has nothing to do with ego. I'm talking about feeling good about being in my own skin. You can't fake that or buy that. That only comes by doing the right thing and being true to myself. Good luck bro....
RJ

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Re: Dropped back
« Reply #2 on: May 31, 2016, 05:16:11 PM »
When I find myself looking at a girl with sexual intent. I try to remember thT my brain is warped from porn and I think about how I wouldn't want an old guy like me looking at my own daughter like this. That usually squashes the fantasy dead pretty quick.

That's an interesting strategy, RJ. I can directly relate to that feeling because I have a 2 year old daughter and I want her to always be respected. That's part of the reason I want to change. Even though she'll never know about my P addiction, I want to be somebody inspiring and to make her proud. I know the role fathers play in a girl's development - you basically set their standards for what men are. It's important to be a decent and upstanding man and to value the right things. I am not that person yet, but I'm really trying to be. Thanks for your thoughts.

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Re: Dropped back
« Reply #3 on: June 01, 2016, 09:34:09 AM »
It shouldn't be a problem to see a pretty or sexy lady while you watch tv or when you scroll down your FB
but when we freeze on it and constantly wait until the erection comes then it is in my opinion the same then masturbating or edging on it.
Edging is watching without masturbating but then finally after a few hour you Finnish which i have done 1000's of times the last 15 years.
So watching or fantasizing with a hard one is just like edging and this is extremely destructive for your Dopamine dynamics, it actually
depletes your level of neuro transmitters.
In the end you need more and extremer genres to feel the same rush, the same feeling.

Internet is like a net work where along viruses like FB, porn sites, game sites etc are transmitted into our brains but most people don't know it
because everybody douse it and so its NORMAL.
Psycho docs do not even know about it, even they find it all very normal!!