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Jaystock

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Re: I really need to change.
« Reply #25 on: July 20, 2016, 05:20:54 PM »
Way to Johnnie, keep up battle
 Everything you feel, we are all feeling it too. It really sucks. If we stick together,  we will beat this thing

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Re: I really need to change.
« Reply #26 on: July 22, 2016, 02:36:56 PM »
Holy shit I made it to 3 weeks. It's unbelievable. I have NEVER gone this long. Feels good. :)

21 days no PMO

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Re: I really need to change.
« Reply #27 on: July 22, 2016, 03:37:36 PM »
jonny71,

It's pretty amazing isn't it. You should be really proud of your success. Your doing great.

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Re: I really need to change.
« Reply #28 on: July 22, 2016, 05:19:36 PM »
It has been 72 hours since my last PMO.

I have tried many times in the last 25 years to curtail this tailspin. Why is it so easy to get sucked in? What is it with me? I've done drugs but was never addicted. I drink but I'm not alcoholic. I've never smoked. Why is THIS my addiction? I used to make a New Year's resolution every year that I would stop. Some years I'd get maybe 4 days. I have occasionally gone almost two weeks, and it seems that for the first few days there were events that prevented me from PMO, and then it got easier for the next week. THEN I'd start thinking about it a lot.

Getting an erection has never been an issue for me, but delayed ejaculation has plagued me since my teens. There are always those times when there has been elements of something new or even a little danger that made it a lot easier to O, like a new or illicit relationships, risky sex, etc. But then back to the same. I used to be able to fantasize during sex to help get myself off, but even in my last relationship with a beautiful sexy, adventurous woman, I'd have to finish myself off. And now that is done. And with that, I need to make a change.

I started with installing K9 on my computer. Not perfect, and of course I know the password, but it makes me think when it pops up a message. And I've been reading Reboot Nation. I last tried this six months ago. We'll see how it goes.
Welcome to RN Jonny,

The reason its so easy to fall back into porn has to do with your PFC(Pre-Frontal Corteex), a master control protein called, "DeltaFosB" and a brain chemical called "Dopamine".  The PFC is where our inhibition control room is, its what stops us from doing bad things to us and others.  The problem is we've over ridden our PFC circuitry so, so many times that it no longer recognizes porn as something bad we should avoid.  The second thing is the DeltaFosB, its function is to increase the conductivity of the circuits in our brains we use the most.  80% of what we humans do everyday is out of habit, good or bad, and the more we do something the more DeltaFosB gets laid down on those circuits, which equals habitual addiction.  So now the third thing is we've trained our brains to use porn to activate our pleasure center in our brain to release, "Dopamine" as a reward or medication for whatever ales us.  Dopamine isn't the only drug involved, but it is the main one we focus on for this issue.  That's the bad news.

The good news is this is totally reversible, but not without work and some pain and suffering and some sweat.  Your brain is now use to exceedingly high levels of dopamine all the time, which is why after 4 days you crash again and again, your brain needs it, it wants it, it desires it and it will do anything to get it.  Your gonna have withdrawals, your gonna be tempted to peak and see if it still effects you and a whole host of other lies your brain will throw at you to get the dopamine.  The cure is this, cut out all dopamine sources, all of them.  I always recommend using filters and blockers, the ones I use are in my signature box.  The next thought you'll have is, "I don't want a filter, I don't need it."  Now you fill in the blank with whatever excuse or reason why you don't need one.  If you could use will power to beat this, you wouldn't be here looking for help and answers...  There is no secret maneuver, or supplement to sidestep this, its straight ahead.  If you want to know more on how to beat this addiction, come read my journal, I also strongly recommend Williams(The link is below).  Its important you do the work and educate yourself too, but not having a filter is setting yourself up to be one of those guys stuck on here starting over every few weeks and never getting out.  Don't be one of those guys.  Best of luck.

Chip
http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=8727.0

William
http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=1256.0
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Re: I really need to change.
« Reply #29 on: July 27, 2016, 05:06:07 PM »
Has it really been a week since I posted? Well, up and down week, but I held strong. :)

26 days no PMO!

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Re: I really need to change.
« Reply #30 on: July 27, 2016, 05:52:02 PM »
26 - that's pretty awesome, man! Keep it up.

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Re: I really need to change.
« Reply #31 on: July 31, 2016, 02:06:56 PM »
Jonny71,
COngratulations on your 26 days of no PMO.
Keep posting of your insights for others.