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« Reply #75 on: May 21, 2016, 12:12:39 PM »
Well said, Boo. I declare independence with you from the porn industry that simply exploits all involved for mere monetary gain.

I agree with your comments regarding masturbation, that it's sex with ourselves, no matter how 'mindfully' we do it- as some teach.

For me, it's all part of, or rather, the main reason for the sex addiction. Porn is just a way to enhance and elaborate on the act of masturbation.

Congrats on saying No to that, and the porn subs...

Blessings.

Hey Leon, thanks. Yes, the M'ing seems to be at the center of it. It's a hard impulse to control, even without porn. I feel the compulsion, strictly as a manifestation of libido, probably once or twice weekly. If one would start to view porn while already feeling an increase in libido, then it's extremely hard to not act out.

It's something for each of us to ponder, kind of like the chicken/egg question.Which came first? Does porn feed libido or does libido lead one to view porn? I guess it's one or the other, depending on the day. In the middle of it all is also the need to medicate from stress/pain, etc.etc. It's complicated and disturbing. I really have to develop more resolve concerning "M". I'm really missing porn less and less these days, which I'm thankful for. Thanks for checking in.
I would agree and add that maybe porn warps libido, sex drive-junk food.  Having a libido/sex drive is normal, natural and a very good thing.  Feeling the urge to be intimate with our spouses is a must, it brings us closer, it keeps us in sync and its freaking awesome even when its not perfect.  Porn on the other hand pushes us away, promotes solitude and loneliness and distance.  Libido is good, Porn is bad.  Libido and love coexist in harmony.  Libido is a tap on the shoulder reminding you its time to be close, she needs it and you need it, you both need it, so enjoy.
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« Reply #76 on: May 22, 2016, 07:54:38 AM »
Well said, Boo. I declare independence with you from the porn industry that simply exploits all involved for mere monetary gain.

I agree with your comments regarding masturbation, that it's sex with ourselves, no matter how 'mindfully' we do it- as some teach.

For me, it's all part of, or rather, the main reason for the sex addiction. Porn is just a way to enhance and elaborate on the act of masturbation.

Congrats on saying No to that, and the porn subs...

Blessings.

Hey Leon, thanks. Yes, the M'ing seems to be at the center of it. It's a hard impulse to control, even without porn. I feel the compulsion, strictly as a manifestation of libido, probably once or twice weekly. If one would start to view porn while already feeling an increase in libido, then it's extremely hard to not act out.

It's something for each of us to ponder, kind of like the chicken/egg question.Which came first? Does porn feed libido or does libido lead one to view porn? I guess it's one or the other, depending on the day. In the middle of it all is also the need to medicate from stress/pain, etc.etc. It's complicated and disturbing. I really have to develop more resolve concerning "M". I'm really missing porn less and less these days, which I'm thankful for. Thanks for checking in.
I would argue porn warps libido.  Having a libido/sex drive is normal, natural and a very good thing.  Feeling the urge to be intimate with our spouses is a must, it brings us closer, it keeps us in sync and its freaking awesome even when its not perfect.  Porn on the other hand pushes us away, promotes solitude and loneliness and distance.  Libido is good, Porn is bad.  Libido and love coexist in harmony.  Libido is a tap on the shoulder reminding you its time to be close, she needs it and you need it, you both need it, so enjoy.

No argument here. You're kind of making my point, although I wasn't clear enough I guess. When I said porn feeds libido I meant in an unnatural  way...i.e.....you may not even be feeling horny but if your addicted mind leads you to watching porn it will create a "false" elevation of libido. Libido naturally comes and goes on it's own, right?  I had a very nice "session" with my wife yesterday that was driven by my natural libido and love for her. I don't think I've ever said that porn was good for one's libido so I'm not sure what point you're arguing, to be honest.

The second part of what I said about libido feeding porn use has more significance for me in terms of logistics..i.e... if my natural libido kicks in in the morning, when testosterone is highest, and my wife is working, then what do I do? This is where the rubber meets the road: BECAUSE, I may seek out porn as a convenient tool to help me quickly act out and relieve myself. This is where trouble begins for many of us. At the center of it is masturbation and how we manage  and/or abstain from it.

Right now I'm not feeling drawn to porn at all, but my "natural" libido is urging me to masturbate when my wife is not around. If I do, and let me say that I don't want to, I need to still be on guard about porn. Porn is the bigger problem, even though I also want to diminish or eliminate masturbation as well. Masturbation is at the center of porn use, ultimately, IMHO. Hope that clears things up a bit for you. The issue isn't about intimacy with my wife, which I have, it's about unhealthy intimacy with myself. Many of us masturbated before we discovered porn. That is the truly long term habit.
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« Reply #77 on: May 22, 2016, 10:08:24 AM »
...When I said porn feeds libido I meant in an unnatural  way...i.e.....you may not even be feeling horny but if your addicted mind leads you to watching porn it will create a "false" elevation of libido. Libido naturally comes and goes on it's own, right?  I had a very nice "session" with my wife yesterday that was driven by my natural libido and love for her...

The second part of what I said about libido feeding porn use has more significance for me in terms of logistics..i.e... if my natural libido kicks in in the morning, when testosterone is highest, and my wife is working, then what do I do? This is where the rubber meets the road: BECAUSE, I may seek out porn as a convenient tool to help me quickly act out and relieve myself. This is where trouble begins for many of us. At the center of it is masturbation and how we manage  and/or abstain from it.

Right now I'm not feeling drawn to porn at all, but my "natural" libido is urging me to masturbate when my wife is not around. If I do, and let me say that I don't want to, I need to still be on guard about porn. Porn is the bigger problem, even though I also want to diminish or eliminate masturbation as well. Masturbation is at the center of porn use, ultimately, IMHO. Hope that clears things up a bit for you. The issue isn't about intimacy with my wife, which I have, it's about unhealthy intimacy with myself. Many of us masturbated before we discovered porn. That is the truly long term habit.

I myself don't understand too much about libido, outside of experience of course. My own addictiveness distorted what was for me natural libido. I would find myself during those times acting out of habit (in whatever way it expressed itself at the time), but learned after a while that maybe I'm not obsessing as per my addiction, maybe I was simply just horny?

Recently I experienced this, and decided as I lay in bed obsessing, that my wife- who was next to me asleep- needed to be the object of my sexual needs, not myself. So, I turned to her- and we ended up having a really good 'session' together. This is something I try and work out with her, if it gets to that point.

About a "false elevation of libido", for me it's a matter of respecting our sexuality- kind of like seeing it as a power which can be misdirected, and can be something that we can totally lose control over in the moment. So, viewing stuff (porn or porn-subs) only fuels what is after all an appetite, and we may have that illusion of control- that we can stop whenever we want to- but we start a [mating] process in our brains, that finds completion in the act. I've been fortunate to find this completion with my wife as it should be- but my hope is to not start off in the distortion of my sexuality, but rather to initially respond to natural libido with her from the start- and it's often that way, just speaking of those times when I've obsessed.

My point here is that- we're in control, unless of course we're responding to our urges. Our urges in terms of libido may be natural, but is our mind misinterpreting them as our addiction? If we respond in the same old ways (in terms of acting out), we only strengthen our unhealthy habits.

As for your statements regarding logistics... see that the urges themselves (fueled by natural libido, distorted by the lower brain as a need to masturbate) are temporary. Urges may be like the tides of the ocean, they rise and they fall. They increase, but they again subside. They may seem like they'll never go away without being acted on, but they will. Maybe they come in waves, so be it. Ride the first wave out, wait it out, and it will subside. If another comes, you'll be ready- to do what? Nothing. Don't even judge it as good (natural libido) or bad ('must do the m-word'), just be aware of it as you calm yourself down through deep breathing. Use those logistics as times of training, you'll see that you're after all in control, and not libido, and certainly not the m-habit.

As for the differentiation between porn and masturbation- I would kind of see them as the same thing. Whether one is viewing porn (and, yes, I can see that as a 'worse case scenario'), or doing the autoeroticism, it's all the same dopamine addiction acting out. Why is this important? Because we should see this as a unit- a sex addiction, or rather, a dependency on dopamine through these related acts.

Regardless, just as we refuse to give too much power to porn- as if it were some external force acting upon us, so too ought we to refuse to give too much power to masturbation. This is tricky, and it's explanation may fall short- but it's the difference between viewing external forces (including natural libido, times of day, logistics) as all-important factors in our behavior- versus what arises from us- ourself- that we're the ones who impose so much meaning onto these factors which only serve to disempower us. Instead, it's from ourselves, from within ourselves, where we seek to find the power to say, 'NO' to an impersonal and powerless impulse- because we're more than that.

Forgive the lengthy ramblings, hoping that in them are helpful advice and encouragement.
« Last Edit: May 22, 2016, 10:19:56 AM by Leon »

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« Reply #78 on: May 22, 2016, 01:06:00 PM »
Leon,

Good stuff to ponder, thanks. Yes, I want to reduce autoeroticism, in all it's forms, from my life. I want to have the control to know that I don't have to act on my urges, whether they be natural or not. Rightly said, the power resides within and must be exercised with full consciousness and forbearance. 

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« Reply #79 on: May 22, 2016, 03:46:34 PM »
Well said, Boo. I declare independence with you from the porn industry that simply exploits all involved for mere monetary gain.

I agree with your comments regarding masturbation, that it's sex with ourselves, no matter how 'mindfully' we do it- as some teach.

For me, it's all part of, or rather, the main reason for the sex addiction. Porn is just a way to enhance and elaborate on the act of masturbation.

Congrats on saying No to that, and the porn subs...

Blessings.

Hey Leon, thanks. Yes, the M'ing seems to be at the center of it. It's a hard impulse to control, even without porn. I feel the compulsion, strictly as a manifestation of libido, probably once or twice weekly. If one would start to view porn while already feeling an increase in libido, then it's extremely hard to not act out.

It's something for each of us to ponder, kind of like the chicken/egg question.Which came first? Does porn feed libido or does libido lead one to view porn? I guess it's one or the other, depending on the day. In the middle of it all is also the need to medicate from stress/pain, etc.etc. It's complicated and disturbing. I really have to develop more resolve concerning "M". I'm really missing porn less and less these days, which I'm thankful for. Thanks for checking in.
I would argue porn warps libido.  Having a libido/sex drive is normal, natural and a very good thing.  Feeling the urge to be intimate with our spouses is a must, it brings us closer, it keeps us in sync and its freaking awesome even when its not perfect.  Porn on the other hand pushes us away, promotes solitude and loneliness and distance.  Libido is good, Porn is bad.  Libido and love coexist in harmony.  Libido is a tap on the shoulder reminding you its time to be close, she needs it and you need it, you both need it, so enjoy.

No argument here. You're kind of making my point, although I wasn't clear enough I guess. When I said porn feeds libido I meant in an unnatural  way...i.e.....you may not even be feeling horny but if your addicted mind leads you to watching porn it will create a "false" elevation of libido. Libido naturally comes and goes on it's own, right?  I had a very nice "session" with my wife yesterday that was driven by my natural libido and love for her. I don't think I've ever said that porn was good for one's libido so I'm not sure what point you're arguing, to be honest.

The second part of what I said about libido feeding porn use has more significance for me in terms of logistics..i.e... if my natural libido kicks in in the morning, when testosterone is highest, and my wife is working, then what do I do? This is where the rubber meets the road: BECAUSE, I may seek out porn as a convenient tool to help me quickly act out and relieve myself. This is where trouble begins for many of us. At the center of it is masturbation and how we manage  and/or abstain from it.

Right now I'm not feeling drawn to porn at all, but my "natural" libido is urging me to masturbate when my wife is not around. If I do, and let me say that I don't want to, I need to still be on guard about porn. Porn is the bigger problem, even though I also want to diminish or eliminate masturbation as well. Masturbation is at the center of porn use, ultimately, IMHO. Hope that clears things up a bit for you. The issue isn't about intimacy with my wife, which I have, it's about unhealthy intimacy with myself. Many of us masturbated before we discovered porn. That is the truly long term habit.
When I said "argue" it was just a figure of speech, not that I was arguing with you.  LOL.  No worries, we're good.  I agree and understand what your saying and yes having our natural libido kick in when its not feasible to satisfy it at that time, can lead to struggle.  Learning to deal with that urge, in a positive productive way, I guess, is the struggle.  For so long, if the urge hit me I just went and dealt with it on my own, MO.  Sometimes it involved porn, sometimes not.  So I agree 100% with what you said, I just misunderstood some of it.

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« Reply #80 on: May 23, 2016, 06:18:15 AM »
Well said, Boo. I declare independence with you from the porn industry that simply exploits all involved for mere monetary gain.

I agree with your comments regarding masturbation, that it's sex with ourselves, no matter how 'mindfully' we do it- as some teach.

For me, it's all part of, or rather, the main reason for the sex addiction. Porn is just a way to enhance and elaborate on the act of masturbation.

Congrats on saying No to that, and the porn subs...

Blessings.

Hey Leon, thanks. Yes, the M'ing seems to be at the center of it. It's a hard impulse to control, even without porn. I feel the compulsion, strictly as a manifestation of libido, probably once or twice weekly. If one would start to view porn while already feeling an increase in libido, then it's extremely hard to not act out.

It's something for each of us to ponder, kind of like the chicken/egg question.Which came first? Does porn feed libido or does libido lead one to view porn? I guess it's one or the other, depending on the day. In the middle of it all is also the need to medicate from stress/pain, etc.etc. It's complicated and disturbing. I really have to develop more resolve concerning "M". I'm really missing porn less and less these days, which I'm thankful for. Thanks for checking in.
I would argue porn warps libido.  Having a libido/sex drive is normal, natural and a very good thing.  Feeling the urge to be intimate with our spouses is a must, it brings us closer, it keeps us in sync and its freaking awesome even when its not perfect.  Porn on the other hand pushes us away, promotes solitude and loneliness and distance.  Libido is good, Porn is bad.  Libido and love coexist in harmony.  Libido is a tap on the shoulder reminding you its time to be close, she needs it and you need it, you both need it, so enjoy.

No argument here. You're kind of making my point, although I wasn't clear enough I guess. When I said porn feeds libido I meant in an unnatural  way...i.e.....you may not even be feeling horny but if your addicted mind leads you to watching porn it will create a "false" elevation of libido. Libido naturally comes and goes on it's own, right?  I had a very nice "session" with my wife yesterday that was driven by my natural libido and love for her. I don't think I've ever said that porn was good for one's libido so I'm not sure what point you're arguing, to be honest.

The second part of what I said about libido feeding porn use has more significance for me in terms of logistics..i.e... if my natural libido kicks in in the morning, when testosterone is highest, and my wife is working, then what do I do? This is where the rubber meets the road: BECAUSE, I may seek out porn as a convenient tool to help me quickly act out and relieve myself. This is where trouble begins for many of us. At the center of it is masturbation and how we manage  and/or abstain from it.

Right now I'm not feeling drawn to porn at all, but my "natural" libido is urging me to masturbate when my wife is not around. If I do, and let me say that I don't want to, I need to still be on guard about porn. Porn is the bigger problem, even though I also want to diminish or eliminate masturbation as well. Masturbation is at the center of porn use, ultimately, IMHO. Hope that clears things up a bit for you. The issue isn't about intimacy with my wife, which I have, it's about unhealthy intimacy with myself. Many of us masturbated before we discovered porn. That is the truly long term habit.
When I said "argue" it was just a figure of speech, not that I was arguing with you.  LOL.  No worries, we're good.  I agree and understand what your saying and yes having our natural libido kick in when its not feasible to satisfy it at that time, can lead to struggle.  Learning to deal with that urge, in a positive productive way, I guess, is the struggle.  For so long, if the urge hit me I just went and dealt with it on my own, MO.  Sometimes it involved porn, sometimes not.  So I agree 100% with what you said, I just misunderstood some of it.

Hey Chip, I hear you brother. I wasn't getting "sideways" with you. I realized I wasn't  being very clear with the whole nature/nurture thing. We're all in this together bro. I knew you weren't really arguing.   Sorry that I insinuated that you were. We're good. Thanks for your input. Always appreciated.

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« Reply #81 on: May 23, 2016, 06:54:22 AM »
I read somewhere that following food, that sex is our second strongest drive.

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« Reply #82 on: May 23, 2016, 06:59:56 AM »
I read somewhere that following food, that sex is our second strongest drive.

It drives me to distraction sometimes, no doubt  ::)

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« Reply #83 on: May 24, 2016, 12:43:05 PM »
I'm experimenting with ERP (Exposure-Response-Prevention) therapy. There are different protocols one can follow. It's a bit like dancing at the edge of the abyss. Not for everyone, to be sure. I'm basically following Leon's protocol as explained on page 11 of his journal.

I've posed a few questions in his journal to clarify my understanding of implementation. I think it would be a bit dangerous unless you've not used porn for several weeks. I believe the purpose is to reinforce long term control over acting out from triggers and urges, which will always be with us, in one form or another.

I can see the efficacy of ERP if it is practiced with caution and self awareness. It can really help one to master urges. I think it's a way to build on progress already made...maybe collapse time frames on achieving total mastery over this habit. It should not be practiced, IMO, without a high degree of confidence. It could easily lead to acting out and possibly a full blown relapse.
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« Reply #84 on: May 24, 2016, 01:37:44 PM »
I'm experimenting with ERP (Exposure-Response-Prevention) therapy. There are different protocols one can follow. It's a bit like dancing at the edge of the abyss. Not for everyone, to be sure. I'm basically following Leon's protocol as explained on page 11 of his journal.

I've posed a few questions in his journal to clarify my understanding of implementation. I think it would be a bit dangerous unless you've not used porn for several weeks. I believe the purpose is to reinforce long term control over acting out from triggers and urges, which will always be with us, in one form or another.

I can see the efficacy of ERP if it is practiced with caution and self awareness. It can really help one to master urges. I think it's a way to build on progress already made...maybe collapse time frames on achieving total mastery over this habit. It should not be practiced, IMO, without a high degree of confidence. It could easily lead to acting out and possibly a full blown relapse.
I went and read Leon's page 11 ERP deal.  I'm afraid y'all will have to go that path without me.  To me its inviting disaster, a kin to playing with fire.  I'm not trying to be preachy, but when the Bible warns me to flee temptation, I think its the factory recommended approach.  I know as men we all want to be strong and be able to withstand whatever gets thrown at us, but the way I understand what our approach is to be, in light of scripture, is a path of defense, by putting on the "Whole Armor of God", "By Fleeing when we are tempted".  The flesh IS weak...  To be quite honest I'm fearful for you taking this path.  It is your choice to make and I do hope it all goes to plan for you.
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« Reply #85 on: May 24, 2016, 01:56:18 PM »
hahaha, really? Must be something in the air, I just did a simliar thing :)
No PMO for 50 days, and counter stopped now as I am off the net for God knows how long.

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« Reply #86 on: May 24, 2016, 04:41:55 PM »
I'm experimenting with ERP (Exposure-Response-Prevention) therapy. There are different protocols one can follow. It's a bit like dancing at the edge of the abyss. Not for everyone, to be sure. I'm basically following Leon's protocol as explained on page 11 of his journal.

I've posed a few questions in his journal to clarify my understanding of implementation. I think it would be a bit dangerous unless you've not used porn for several weeks. I believe the purpose is to reinforce long term control over acting out from triggers and urges, which will always be with us, in one form or another.

I can see the efficacy of ERP if it is practiced with caution and self awareness. It can really help one to master urges. I think it's a way to build on progress already made...maybe collapse time frames on achieving total mastery over this habit. It should not be practiced, IMO, without a high degree of confidence. It could easily lead to acting out and possibly a full blown relapse.
I went and read Leon's page 11 ERP deal.  I'm afraid y'all will have to go that path without me.  To me its inviting disaster, a kin to playing with fire.  I'm not trying to be preachy, but when the Bible warns me to flee temptation, I think its the factory recommended approach.  I know as men we all want to be strong and be able to withstand whatever gets thrown at us, but the way I understand what our approach is to be, in light of scripture, is a path of defense, by putting on the "Whole Armor of God", "By Fleeing when we are tempted".  The flesh IS weak...  To be quite honest I'm fearful for you taking this path.  It is your choice to make and I do hope it all goes to plan for you.

Yeah, this approach is not for everyone. You have to stay with what's working for you, if you truly feel that it is. This ERP stuff is taking it to the next level in mastering urges and compulsions. It's a bit risky, but for me it's a calculated risk. This is about not fearing porn. This is about making myself stronger than the urges that want to lead me.

It's all about taking porn's power away. Once the power is gone, then the pull is gone. Where's there's no pull, there's no interest. ERP is essentially a form of brain reconditioning that takes the reboot to a higher level. That's my understanding, anyway. I'm not promoting it nor seeking affirmation to do it. It's just part of the path I'm taking. Mentioning it here is just part of my journal and what's going on with me. Anyone trying this should really be aware of the pitfalls, which I am.

And you know, Chip, if I lapse, so be it. I guarantee it won't turn into a relapse.  I also will learn something either way. I'm becoming less and less fearful of porn and what it can influence me to do. I'm not in the clear yet, but I'm getting there. The first ERP session caught me a little off guard. This is something that has to be done in an exact way following a strict protocol, as I see it. A long time ago I served in the Marine Corps. If I could do that, I can do this.  ;)

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« Reply #87 on: May 24, 2016, 05:57:01 PM »
Hey Boo - My thoughts on ERP (and you can take it or leave it) is that it's not something I would entertain trying as a stategy. I can only speak for my experiences, but I know that my brain will tell me all sorts of things and find all kinds of ways to rationalize porn use. Even if your intentions on the surface seem good, you are still giving your brain that artificial dopamine hit that it is looking for. My advice - do the hard 90. Don't let your brain tell you that quoting poem wasn't so hard or that you have this beat and can try advanced techniques. I can't speak for you, but I know that for me any kind of intentional, prolonged exposure would be the start of a relapse. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but I've learned that if I try to keep porn in my life I always end up down the same road.
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« Reply #88 on: May 24, 2016, 06:11:53 PM »
Hey Boo - My thoughts on ERP (and you can take it or leave it) is that it's not something I would entertain trying as a stategy. I can only speak for my experiences, but I know that my brain will tell me all sorts of things and find all kinds of ways to rationalize porn use. Even if your intentions on the surface seem good, you are still giving your brain that artificial dopamine hit that it is looking for. My advice - do the hard 90. Don't let your brain tell you that quoting poem wasn't so hard or that you have this beat and can try advanced techniques. I can't speak for you, but I know that for me any kind of intentional, prolonged exposure would be the start of a relapse. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but I've learned that if I try to keep porn in my life I always end up down the same road.

ERP doesn't involve prolonged exposure. As I said, I'm just updating my journal as to what I'm doing. I'm not really seeking affirmation or making recommendations. But, I do appreciate your interest. This is an advanced technique, not for the faint of heart. It's good for you that you know you should avoid it.

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« Reply #89 on: May 27, 2016, 10:28:45 PM »
I have been very busy the last 48 hrs. helping my church and getting caught up on chores around my house. All in all I've been feeling pretty good about my progress as I will be hitting 50 days tomorrow.

Once I determined that I wasn't a victim of porn I began to believe in my ability to control and conquer the urges that have for so long steered my behavior.

Gentlemen, ask yourselves, do you want to be the captain of your ship? Do you want to be the "alpha" in your life?. If your married, it doesn't matter whether she's a shrew or a saint, she wants you to lead her. She wants you to be the "alpha' in the house.

Think about this: watching another guy get Pu$$Y while you jack off is really one of the most "beta" things you can do. I've known for a long time that porn was really robbing me of being the kind of man that I want to be. Those days are over. I have a ways to go, but I am getting stronger and more resilient day by day.

I'm not a feminist. This world needs men to lead it. Your immediate social sphere needs you to rise above this sh*t and be a positive force of nature. All porn does is weaken us as MEN. This is a bullshit way to live.

Am I trying to fire some of you guys up? You're fucking right I am!  Let's stop the navel gazing and all the psychobabble, okay? We either own our minds or we don't. I take ownership.

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« Reply #90 on: May 28, 2016, 04:34:14 AM »
I agree with every letter in that post
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« Reply #91 on: May 28, 2016, 08:31:08 AM »
Good word, Boo! Lol... this is what we need, to be challenged as men to be men! It's like the porn industry has been instrumental in castrating men-folk from being the manly and godly examples their family, their society needs.

It's a truism that to have control in the area of our sexuality (no ogling, no wanking, and no porn-use) encourages male virility, creativeness, and gosh darn it- the female populace can sure sense it....! The funny thing is, when we're in control like that, we have no intention of taking advantage of the female populace when they do take notice of our male-power. Ironically, when we are 'on the take', and lack control in areas of our sexuality, they (women) notice that, too- so if we were a wolf in the hen house, they part the waves, because they sense that 'creepiness' about us.

Congrats on your 50 days, Boo- you deserve to celebrate in some way.

Blessings.

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« Reply #92 on: May 28, 2016, 09:14:18 AM »
Keep moving forward and congrats on approaching the 50 Day milestone.

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« Reply #93 on: May 28, 2016, 06:18:48 PM »
I like these posts!
H.A.L.T - Hungry Angry Lonely Tired
Wherever water flows it creates ruts. Where is your mental water flowing?
PMO increases DeltaFosB in your brain, which in turn makes you crave the next PMO even more. DON'T DO IT! Your future self will thank you :)
PMO & excessive MO fux up your Prefrontal Cortex

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« Reply #94 on: May 29, 2016, 08:50:24 AM »
Thank you Boo for cutting through the crap and getting to the basics.  Taking ownership of your life is what it is all about.  As we have all heard, there are 2 types of people.  Those who lead and those who follow.  Applying this to your personal life, being on this site and participating in the forum, sharing and educating yourself is being a leader, taking control of your life. We all know what being a follower is about, it is what our lives have been using PMO. It is why we are here.  Be a leader in your own life. The first step is making a decision to rid PMO from your life.

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« Reply #95 on: May 29, 2016, 02:09:49 PM »
I want to thank you small group of guys who show some interest in my journal and also for the kind remarks. I've been trying to keep it real since I've been here. What I say may not always resonate, but I always try to be honest and authentic.

I appreciate the support and ideas that we all share with each other. RN is a brotherhood of men trying to become better men. We all have it within us to realize a fuller manifestation of our potential as husbands, fathers, brothers, sons, lovers, mates, partners ,or whatever. If we can change, then everything will change for us.

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« Reply #96 on: May 29, 2016, 02:43:25 PM »
Hi Boo... Just a quick one to say it was really cool to see how you helped Chip in his earlier posts. I know this is a bit weird as it's not me who you helped, though you have, as I already mentioned in my journal, but what the hell. I got a lot from reading Chips journal, and your comments were part of it.

Congrats on the five-o... I didn't wanna say as I have congratted a few people and then they have 'faltered', which of course is okay. Anyway... Peace Bro  8)

I haven't read your journal for a few weeks...which is crazy! But maybe I thought you were okay as you were, maybe similar to Leon... But I think that's my issue with dealing with dudes sometimes anyways...

Anyways, really peace out this time :)
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Wherever water flows it creates ruts. Where is your mental water flowing?
PMO increases DeltaFosB in your brain, which in turn makes you crave the next PMO even more. DON'T DO IT! Your future self will thank you :)
PMO & excessive MO fux up your Prefrontal Cortex

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« Reply #97 on: May 29, 2016, 04:13:06 PM »
I want to thank you small group of guys who show some interest in my journal and also for the kind remarks. I've been trying to keep it real since I've been here. What I say may not always resonate, but I always try to be honest and authentic.

I appreciate the support and ideas that we all share with each other. RN is a brotherhood of men trying to become better men. We all have it within us to realize a fuller manifestation of our potential as husbands, fathers, brothers, sons, lovers, mates, partners ,or whatever. If we can change, then everything will change for us.

Nice words, Boo. This is exactly what I think RN should be. Sometimes it goes a bit off course, and people can get a bit judgemental and preachy with each other. But that's to be expected, I suppose. As long as we keep reminding ourselves of why we're here and to try to help where we can, RN will be an invaluable tool and source of safety and support for all of us. I know that if I had not found this place, I'd be in a dopamine stupor over porn sites right now.

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« Reply #98 on: May 29, 2016, 06:51:49 PM »
I want to thank you small group of guys who show some interest in my journal and also for the kind remarks. I've been trying to keep it real since I've been here. What I say may not always resonate, but I always try to be honest and authentic.

I appreciate the support and ideas that we all share with each other. RN is a brotherhood of men trying to become better men. We all have it within us to realize a fuller manifestation of our potential as husbands, fathers, brothers, sons, lovers, mates, partners ,or whatever. If we can change, then everything will change for us.
You are most welcome, I just wish Branch was here with us.  Have a great Memorial Day Weekend and thank you for your service too.

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« Reply #99 on: May 30, 2016, 06:47:35 AM »
I'm looking forward to a quiet Memorial Day here in my peaceful neighborhood. I'm a veteran and there's a culture of military service in my family going back a hundred years. I'm grateful for the sacrifices made for the freedoms I enjoy.

Several years ago we spent Memorial Day week in Washington D.C. Going the Arlington National Cemetery was a very emotional experience. Peace to all today.