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livenlearn

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Not ready for this.
« on: April 10, 2016, 06:51:30 AM »
Good Morning Fellas,

I'm not ready to take this plunge. Hopefully, I'll be back soon.
« Last Edit: April 12, 2016, 07:27:13 AM by livenlearn »

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Re: My impatient self and mental math...
« Reply #1 on: April 10, 2016, 07:08:08 AM »

Frankly, I don't know what to say without triggering anyone. I feel generally okay right now. I have battled many addictions before with success. This is a frikkin' big one, and I'm still smoking cigarettes (which has now brought on a bothersome cough.)

I really need a hand reaching out to me. I know I'm not alone here, but feel alone anyway. I just don't know how to get on board or what to say. I want to be positive and helpful for the members here. If I wrote an honest journal, it may not shock anyone but the devil is really in the details.

I would say "post away" and don't worry about triggers.  One thing that EVERYONE here has to learn is now "not" to be triggered by passing comments.   If we can't learn that, we will never progress.

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Re: My impatient self and mental math...
« Reply #2 on: April 10, 2016, 07:34:41 AM »
Warthog, Thank you.

« Last Edit: April 12, 2016, 07:27:40 AM by livenlearn »

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Re: My impatient self and mental math...
« Reply #3 on: April 10, 2016, 08:35:23 AM »
Hi Livenlearn,
Personally, I would suggest writing down all of your goals.
In other words, write what you want to achieve by quitting pmo and how you can achieve that.
What methods you are going to use to reach your ultimate target. You will begin to get an idea of what is working and what isn't and other posters will suggest ideas to help your progress.

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Re: My impatient self and mental math...
« Reply #4 on: April 10, 2016, 08:52:48 AM »
Thanks, Maxman! Great idea!

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Re: My impatient self and mental math...
« Reply #5 on: April 10, 2016, 11:18:22 AM »
Hey livenlearn,

Welcome to the forum. It's a great place for support and recovery.

I read that post you deleted, and it was fine - there were no triggers for me. In fact, you posed some questions I was going to answer, but when I went back later, I realized you must have deleted it.

I would post what you feel you need to post. Sometimes, it can be helpful to get this stuff out of one's head. I doubt there is much of anything that can shock this crowd, but if you are concerned, you can always put trigger alert before a particularly grueling sentence.

As Maxman71 said, writing down your goals is an excellent suggestions.

You are not worthless. In fact, you are very courageous for taking the first big steps in your recovery - recognizing the problem and seeking help. That is huge. Pat yourself on the back!

Stay strong, and keep posting. Anytime, I feel the urge to use, I come to this forum instead. Make your recovery your new addiction for the time being.


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Re: My impatient self and mental math...
« Reply #6 on: April 10, 2016, 05:37:16 PM »
Harry, Thank you.

« Last Edit: April 12, 2016, 07:28:15 AM by livenlearn »

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Re: My impatient self and mental math...
« Reply #7 on: April 10, 2016, 05:44:05 PM »
Hey, Livenlearn,

I was in the process of posting to your journal when it disappeared. Took me a while to realize that you were gone. I searched up and down the site for your name or your original journal but I couldn't find it. It was then I realized that I was a too late. I was so frustrated.

Anyway, I know how it feels when someone doesn't respond to a journal/post and you are reaching out. Let me say that we are glad you are here and understand your frustration and pain.

This is a great group, very supportive.

Glad to have you back!

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Re: My impatient self and mental math...
« Reply #8 on: April 10, 2016, 05:54:07 PM »
Back again.

I guess i wanted to post fast 'case your journal went away again.

Anyway, one of the things that you will learn is that there are many here with similar stories. I started very young. Did everything I could do to get at porn. I got to the point where I could spot a dirty magazine along the side of the road or in a ditch faster than anyone. Even went to leanghts of trying to dry out pages after pulling it from a puddle of water.

So just to say, you are not alone, and as Harry said. You are not worthless. You are brave and and worthy of a life without Porn.

Again, thanks for coming back!

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Re: My impatient self and mental math...
« Reply #9 on: April 10, 2016, 06:06:48 PM »
Hey Bob,

Cheers, and I really appreciate your remarks.
« Last Edit: April 12, 2016, 07:28:42 AM by livenlearn »

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Re: My impatient self and mental math...
« Reply #10 on: April 10, 2016, 09:09:17 PM »
Livenlearn,

Just realize that through RN, you are not alone. Night to you too.