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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #275 on: December 17, 2016, 05:14:49 PM »
It's been an up and down couple of days, primarily due to my own stupidity. I've been failing to link small issues to broader picture stuff for a little while now, and that's what's been causing the issues.

I've just gotta pull my head out of my ass and engage my brain again, and we should be alright.
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« Reply #276 on: December 19, 2016, 09:19:51 AM »
Yesterday was awesome. We decorated some cookies, drove around to see some Christmas lights, had some pizza for dinner. Once my wife and I went to bed, we had some the most spontaneous sex we've had in a loooooooong time, and it was great.

I really hope we start and upward swing heading into the Christmas weekend.
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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #277 on: December 20, 2016, 06:13:35 AM »
We do a little shopping and wrapped presents last night. Pretty good day. We shared some laughs and overall enjoyed the day.
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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #278 on: December 23, 2016, 10:33:11 AM »
Last few days have been good. My mother and law is staying with us tonight, and I've been super horny. So that sucks, but we'll get through. Merry Christmas everyone.
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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #279 on: December 27, 2016, 12:00:08 AM »
Hey all. Christmas was great, had a blast watching our son unwrap his gifts. My wife got me some great stuff, and best of all, she really liked her stuff!

We planned out the rest of my vacation today, so we won't spend the mornings asking "Whaddya wanna do today?", everyday. And now it's time for bed.
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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #280 on: December 31, 2016, 07:20:32 PM »
Happy New Year everyone. As I've said, 2016 is a year I'm very thankful for, but I'd never want to redo. I hope you all have a great time tonight. God bless you.
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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #281 on: January 03, 2017, 01:39:41 PM »
Happy New Year mate !  :) I hope 2017 reinforces what 2016 brought to your life  ;)
"Learn to hate porn. You will never destroy an enemy you embrace."

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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #282 on: January 03, 2017, 06:21:29 PM »
Thanks man, same to you.

It has certainly started off great. We had a lunch date today while our son was at school. We made love, had some lunch at a really good restaurant, and went to see Star Wars. What a fantastic day.

I've been off for almost 2 weeks and we've spent a lot of quality time together, shared a lot of laughs. It has really brought us closer together. The trick will be to keep this momentum up after I go back to work tomorrow.

I think the series of books we have to read will help for sure.
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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #283 on: January 04, 2017, 11:26:13 PM »
Hey all. Had a good day. First day back to work since 12/23. Ugh. But, could be worse, right?

The reboot has been going well, I've had a few more human moments while watching tv lately, but nothing I'm gonna beat myself up over. I have been doing well with ogling, which is positive. My wife and I continue to connect well together, and we've got another little date planned for Friday! So it should be a good couple a days.
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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #284 on: January 05, 2017, 01:13:01 AM »
Rebootrapp,
Glad to hear things are going well.  I have to admit also I am impressed with your stick-to-it-ivness of posting so often.  I really need to do that more.

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« Reply #285 on: January 05, 2017, 06:09:32 PM »
Hey metal,

What's up dude?

I've felt a couple times that posting regularly keeps me on track, even when things are going well. There've been a few times when I didn't post for a while that I got a little more distant from that which has made me successful so far. Also, my posting gives my wife peace of mind that I'm still on track, which helps keep the air between us positive. Y'know?

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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #286 on: January 05, 2017, 11:47:34 PM »
Yeah I do know.  Busy life had been getting the best of me,  but now I'm on the road for work by myself,  and I promised (both to her and myself) that I would be on this site nightly while I'm away.  In a way it's a good thing.  She's been playing it cool,  but I'm sure there is a little worry that I'm just going over the deep end and not saying anything. 

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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #287 on: January 08, 2017, 12:30:28 AM »
Good day today. Took my son sledding, had some fun. Had a good burger for lunch.

Tomorrow should be a good day with the family. Also, I've decided to learn how to do home electrical work. So wish me luck with that!!
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« Reply #288 on: January 08, 2017, 05:43:36 AM »
well done! Congrats.

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« Reply #289 on: January 09, 2017, 11:03:36 AM »
What's up y'all. It was a great weekend at my house. Saw a movie, fixed that light I was talking about, Sunday was a chill day which was great. We did have amazing sex in the morning, which pretty much ensured the rest of the day would be awesome.
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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #290 on: January 09, 2017, 10:13:55 PM »
Good job on the electrical.  I'm an electrician so I get to do it all the time.  Most people are scared of it,  but with a good amount of common sense you can go pretty far.

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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #291 on: January 10, 2017, 06:40:12 PM »
Hi,
Just dropping a line to say your journal is probably the only one that gives me some hope for my marriage and that if you can do this hopefully my husband can too  :)

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« Reply #292 on: January 10, 2017, 07:25:22 PM »
Hey FOF, thanks for that comment. It means a lot to me. I pray the best for you two. I think anyone can break this addiction, once they're ready. Like I've said, I've tried to quit by myself countless times, and it never worked. But between her support, the support on here, my true commitment to quit, and a ton of help from the Big Guy upstairs, it's worked this time so far. If there's anything I can do or any questions I can answer for you, PM me or post on here, whichever.

Along those lines, as far as normal updates go, I had a good ogling victory yesterday, some woman out running who appeared to be pretty good looking. Just let her go. It's nice not staring women down.

The atmosphere in the house continues to be light hearted and fun. We finished our Love Life book, so now we're starting another money book. The trick this time will be to try and keep the romance up, unlike last time we read a financial book.

Also, we've been talking a lot about religion lately. Which has me really excited that she's so excited to try out churches and try and find someplace to worship regularly. I'm trying to find an NLT bible so we can study it, especially during the financial books to keep working on our marriage and spirituality.
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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #293 on: January 11, 2017, 10:09:11 PM »
Not a whole lot going on today. She was in worse than usual pain so we didn't really do much. We finished reading the chapter we started last night. It'll be interesting to try and blend this guy's financial plan with the other book we've read...

Anyway, I passed out on the couch watching tv, so now it's time for bed. Nite.
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« Reply #294 on: January 15, 2017, 07:36:06 PM »
This weekend has been great. Yesterday we visited a Christian bookstore an hour away (it's the closest one!) to get a couple of study Bibles. So that was great. Then we went to a children's museum, and had some great pizza. Also, I got home before my son on Friday, and my wife was feeling frisky. We had sex 3 times, all of which were awesome. The relationship is still going well. I'm very excited to start studying the actual Bible!

Today we visited a great friend, who unfortunately was involved in a car crash Friday night, and it hurt pretty bad. After his initial accident, an elderly man plowed into the cars involved in the first crash without slowing down at all. The old mans wife was killed in the accident. Nothing good comes from something like that.

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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #295 on: January 17, 2017, 05:51:24 AM »
Things continue to go well here. We bought a book called Intensed for Pleasure, which is all about having a satisfying sex life in marriage and how Biblical principles can enhance whatever you've got going on now. We started reading that last night, the first chapter was just an intro really. We didn't learn anything he hadn't already seen reading Love Life, but that's ok.

Tonight we're going to start our actual Bible study, and probably read a bit more of intended for pleasure.

My reboot is still going well. I had a close call with ogling last week, so that was a bummer. But it did force me to reset and step up the vigilance in that regard. As far as porn goes, I don't ever want to say I'm cured or some crap like that, but it doesn't enter my mind that porn is even a thing I could do anymore.

I'm just trying to learn ways to make myself a better man still, which will be a never ending quest. And that's cool.
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Re: Reboot Journal - 31yo married w/son
« Reply #296 on: January 17, 2017, 07:45:51 AM »
Given the world we live in, and the prevalence of visual titillation of countless types, the exercise of self-discipline and vigilance is "the new normal"...you have created the habit that will serve you well: recognizing and avoiding. The opportunities to stray will always exist, and that is not something you can change or fix. Your reaction/response is what you you are accountable for, and you are demonstrating that you know what is right and are acting accordingly.

Keep up the good work.

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« Reply #297 on: January 17, 2017, 09:55:42 PM »
Rebootrap,
I'm glad you are finding faith.  It had really helped me in many ways.  Like when I start to worry,  I tell myself its just me lacking faith in God.  Like He's got this handled,  I just need to believe.  Plus worrying about things has never actually brought me benefits.  It's just circular thinking in a stressed way that results in a heart murmur and insomnia for me.
I feel like faith has really helped my SO with her recovery as well.

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« Reply #298 on: January 18, 2017, 07:31:00 PM »
Thanks man. I'm very excited. We just finished reading Luke 2 with our son.

We're gonna start a basics of Christianity reading track tonight essentially. I went to Catholic school thru the 3rd grade, but don't remember hardly anything I learned in the Bible during that time. And she's brand new to Christ, so we're both gonna learn together.

Last night we read the Song of Songs to improve our marriage, but instead were more caught up in whether or not it about the King and his wife, or if her lover was a third man altogether. So we lost any meaning we could have applied to our lives by concentrating on details instead. Either way it's a great love story with plenty of messages for us to learn.

Anyway, bed time for little man. Have a good one y'all.
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« Reply #299 on: January 18, 2017, 08:04:06 PM »
Reboot -

Hey man!  I'm a pastor and I'm also a Rebooter here on the forum. I've been encouraged by your journey and will continue to follow your journey.  Keep it up man! There's some great stuff out there that tackle P from a Christian stand point:

- Sex is not the Problem, Lust is. - Joshua Harris
- Sexual Detox - Tim Challies

Man, I can say my relationship with God has been the single-most motivating factor for me. Finding God to be a better, truer pleasure than what screens can provide is what keeps me daily pressing on in the battle. None of us are perfect, but if you continue to study Christianity, I promise you'll find the answers you are looking for. 

I'd recommend the book of Romans as well! 

Peace and love man,