Author Topic: Is it possible to get addicted to girlfriend the same way as porn?  (Read 1272 times)

J07

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Hello, I'm a new member,

a bit about me, I'm not addicted to porn, I learned everything on here and managed to stop, as I realised the porn was getting more hardcore.

Here is where the problem starts.. I have had a foot fetish and maybe a slight femdom fetish before I started masturbating, that is for certain. I was able to have sexual encounters with past girlfriends, but my first proper relationship we started off with normal vanilla sex but as time went on she learned the things I liked and liked them aswell, so I actually got to play out all my fantasies with her and its been great fun.

Unfortunately 3 years on, I have decided long term that she isn't the right girl I want to be with (please, if you can understand, with arguments and things that have happened I've realised we are great in the bedroom but not compatible long term).

Now I have tried to leave her before but I always have face the same problems that people who are addicted to porn face, its like I'm addicted to the stuff we did because there was also a fair amount of masturbation I did with her. But when I date other girls I just CANNOT get the same level of arousal as I get with my ex. I actually suffer from a bit of ED, my erections arnt as strong and they go, I know its because I'm, just not as aroused. Could this be a comfort issue aswell?

My questions is:

-Am I able to actually get myself to a stage where I can want to have normal sex again with a girl I really like? And how can I? What do I need to do?

I have this issue sometimes where I get real urges thinking about her, problem is even if things were good and we stayed together I wouldn't be helping myself because I will be constantly training my sexual responses to that, meaning in the future if something happened id be stuffed.
But im questioning if I'm able to get aroused with my fetish or atleast having some relation to it, I didn't need the fetish with my ex, but because I we'd done so much stuff that related to my fetish she just gets me aroused without touch. I fear another girl wont do this for me.

Any help of advice will be really appreciated.

Also I may keep adding information that I think is valid

Thanks
« Last Edit: June 10, 2014, 02:32:49 PM by J07 »

SuchAFool

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I actually have the same exact thing happening to me as you.  My journal is in the 30 year old sections if you want to read up on my progress.

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I actually have the same exact thing happening to me as you.  My journal is in the 30 year old sections if you want to read up on my progress.

Read it mate, seems your doing really well! What can you advise? My turn onsa re a little different to yours.. But I totally related to you about completely flatlining, as soon as my ex texts me I come out of it. But when I'm with other girls nothing happens. Can you help?