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Girlfriend likes porn - advice?
« on: January 24, 2016, 11:13:19 AM »
Hi guys,

Not sure whether to post this here or in the partners forum. Basically, I'm facing up to a damaging relationship with porn in the past. Led me to some dark habits I'm struggling to make sense of.

One problem is that my girlfriend of 7 months really likes porn. She knows nothing of my past problems with it, apart from the fact I watched/watch it too.

Early on in the relationship she suggested we watch it together as part of sex. We tried one night but I felt NOTHING. The porn just seemed silly. I realised that detached from the privacy and secrecy, I saw porn objectively and it wasn't really a turn on. So we haven't tried that again.

However, she still uses it.

My question is, does anyone else have a partner into it? How do you handle it? Part of me thinks that because of her use of it, she may be more understanding of me saying I have a problem with my use of it and want to be free of it. However I'm worried she will feel I'm making her feel bad about something she doesn't have a problem with.

Any advice or discussion is welcome!

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Re: Girlfriend likes porn - advice?
« Reply #1 on: January 28, 2016, 04:40:54 PM »
Hello there,

I would definitely talk to her about your past and try to explain why you don't like porn and i think you should be honest about your past.  I don't see why would she feel bad about it once she knows what you went through. I would understand and probably stop watching it because of you. If she refuses then I guess she is not the one and it is time to move on.