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...And So It Begins....
« on: January 04, 2016, 01:26:09 PM »
Greetings Everybody!

2016 is the start of a new year and the start of a couple of bad habits that I want to break. I never imagined that I would find myself on a site and forum such as this in my wildest dreams! ;D

There are many factors that lead me here and many more that made me decide to take part in a very interesting and exciting personal experience.

I'm looking forward to sharing a bit of that story with you every day and also making new memories as I share with you the journey towards becoming Pornography, Masturbation and Orgasm (PMO) free.

For the record: I've been going for this goal for a few months. My record is 19 days.

I came to realise that I needed a system of accountability not just for myself but to be accountable with others. Obviously, this journey is waaay to weird for me to be sharing with any of my mates ( any of you feel the same? ;D) so I decided to rather put my story out there, on some blog, somewhere, on the web....and wouldn't you know, I've chosen this one!

I don't know how many people read this forum and I'm not phased by that. I just know that posting daily is going to be the method that will keep me accountable and lead me to true success with this stage of my life. Hopefully my story might inspire someone who reads this one day (and if its you, we're in this together, lets do it!).

I'd like to end with 2 quotes I heard from some successful people.
1: What gets measured, gets improved.
2: Habits determine your success.

...And so the first page in this chapter of my life has been written...

...And so it begins...

Day 1 PMO Free  ;)

-AdamS
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Re: ...And So It Begins....
« Reply #1 on: January 04, 2016, 05:55:40 PM »
good luck. fuck those 3840 pixels × 2160 new year resolutions, lets quit porn instead!!!!!
My last relapse: 17. July. 2019

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Re: ...And So It Begins....
« Reply #2 on: January 05, 2016, 05:57:56 AM »
Welcome and good luck AdamS

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My Story (Introduction)
« Reply #3 on: January 05, 2016, 04:32:51 PM »
Ok, I know what you're thinking. It says Introduction in the title...... No, not Part 1. Introduction! What the hell! This is going to be one of those long, dull, drawn out essays, right?

Wrong.

I'll make it as interesting as I can. I'm just splitting it into parts because...well, I'm tired and don't want to have to type up the whole thing tonight.  That cool by you? :P

Lets Begin.....

I don't think I'm addicted to porn. I also don't know all that much in this area of human psychology. I'm happy to be corrected. I do know that I want to get rid of the degree of porn that I do engage in as I believe I can be doing more productive things in my life than taking a wank (to put it bluntly) :P ....and obviously there's the healthy benefits to my body, brain and self esteem that I stand to gain too.

At my best: I've been 19 Days without PMO.
At my worst: occasional weeks every now and then where I was masturbating once a day, 4/5 days in that week.
Absolute worst: masturbated 4 times in one day...........well.....thats not something to be proud of is it?

I'm 24.  My first experience with porn was when I was 12.
..Which has made me just realize this very second how long I've actually been watching this stuff....weird to think that a simple subtraction has so much impact in it huh?...

I'll be posting Part 1 tomorrow.

Until then, thanks to those who read and commented on my post yesterday, appreciate it!

Day 2 PMO Free  8)

-AdamS

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« Reply #4 on: January 05, 2016, 04:37:54 PM »
Hey buddy I am pretty new here as well.. and so far my experience on the forum has been helpful!  When I first found the forum I was thankful man its really is nice to know some people are going through the same shit as you.  And yeah I feel ya its pretty weird sharing with friends, not that I have but I feel no one understands this unless you have been through it.  So welcome, enjoy, fight through it, luckily we are all in this thing together  :)   

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Why?

Because I am a noob.   :-\ :P :P :P

My daily posts belong in the Journal Section and not this one.

From tomorrow I will be posting in the Journal Ages 20 - 29 Section.

I will be making one post and then just adding an update to it every day......like a good human who should have read the starred posts made by the administrators in the first place :P

Unfortunately I wont be able to further shed light on my story today, long day in the office and tired AdamS needs to get his rest  8)

Until then, See ya next time in Journal Ages 20 - 29

Day 3 PMO Free  8)

-AdamS
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Re: ...And So It Begins....
« Reply #6 on: January 07, 2016, 02:49:46 PM »
My Story Part 1

Im going to be focusing on the folks for this post.


As much respect as I have for the way that they brought me up.......there are a couple of things they said and did that messed with my head. I would have preferred that they were more aware of these things and had not subliminally drilled an unrealistic picture of the world into me, but hey, you cant blame the cards fate hands you, you just have to take them in your stride and get on with it.

My folks and grandparents each went through a messy divorce...I don't know the extent of how messy, only that I have no idea who my father is and that 24 years down the line it is still too emotionally hektik for them if I ask them for any information.

So as I was being brought up by a grandmother and mother, still trying to recover from their own emotional issues, they instilled in me, for whatever reason, the value that one day when I grow up and start having my own relationships I must be very committed to making sure that the person I meet is the perfect 'Miss Right' person. I need to make so sure of this as this person will most likely be the person that I marry and have kids with.

In theory, a very good ideal. A theory better taught by more emotionally stable individuals. A theory better taught to an older AdamS and not the younger one who received those direct and indirect comments that shaped his world view.

It put a huge emotional weight on my shoulders as I grew into my teenage years. On one hand I felt like it was now my duty not to perpetuate the family legacy of messy marriages and on the other hand every girl that I became interested in, or those few who became interested in me, was carefully analysed to see if she fit the unrealistic 'Miss Right' profile that I had subconsciously created over the years. My self esteem wasn't exactly all that great so teen AdamS became very introverted very quickly even though all he really wanted was a romantic relationship with someone from a young age.

And then at some point when I was 12 I heard a word beginning with a P that I had never heard before, one that would very quickly consume a small part of my life as if it were the norm.............

Don't ya just love a good cliffhanger? ;)

Catch you tomorrow friends!

Day 4 PMO Free 8)

-AdamS
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« Reply #7 on: January 09, 2016, 12:28:46 AM »
Good Morning, at least on my side of the world, fellow Rebooters!

I wasn't able to post last night due to a massive storm that wiped out the electricity in the block.

Happy to say its now Day 5 PMO Free 8)

So its my first weekend of my serious reboot journey....typically in the past its the weekends where I am relapsing. Either Im at a social event where the girls go out dressed to look good (meaning a little too many triggers for my brain to handle) or Im at home with no major commitments towards Sunday, bored, not in the mood for reading or gaming, so why not have a quick porn sesh before bed...and as we know, there is no such thing as a Quick porn sesh hey gents? :P

THESE ARE THE 2 THINGS THAT I REALISED TRIGGER MY RELAPSES DURING THESE TIMES:
1. Being tired - Being tired lowers your inhibitions. The more tired you get, the more your brain goes from 'I won't' to 'what if?' to 'why not'.
2. Surfing social media - if there isn't a real person acting as a stimulus, then I won't progress towards more pornographic material. Maybe its the girl in the photo, the environment that leads me to a different person's photos, the hair and eye colour, pose, clothing, body size and characteristics etc that creates a themed evening for later more graphical content.
--Side note: this can also apply to a person that I might have interacted with during the day.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU START GETTING THOSE THOUGHTS:
This is where you make the decision on if you are a man or a mouse. Every day without any PMO stimulus is a small battle won towards ultimate victory.

STEP 1. GO COLD TURKEY AND GO TO BED! (that is the only step :P)

The longer you are awake and staring at a screen the easier it is for your brain to transition to the 'why not' phase AND switch from tired to up all night insomniac. Instead....

1. Why not come here, make a quick post about how you are feeling, if it is on the web that means that you are accountable to the message and less likely to relapse.
2. Read some success stories (just know that some of them may contain graphic accounts that may turn you back in the wrong direction).
3. Check out some youtube videos or read some articles to educate you on the issue - once you know why your body and brain have been conditioned through the years to do the late night things that you do, you can enter a process of healing and change. That's why you're all here after all right?

Whatever it is you decide to do, do it fast so that you can get away from a screen and go to bed. Yes, its great if you managed to not do any PMO that night but if you are a caffeine addled zombie the next day in the office due to your insomniac driven porn addiction education binge, it doesn't help the situation much does it? :P (More tired = lowered inhibitions = greater chance of relapsing the next night)

Have a great one folks, I'll see you later this evening for my Day 6 PMO Free post, Boo Ya!

- AdamS



   
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Re: ...And So It Begins....
« Reply #8 on: January 10, 2016, 12:27:40 AM »
A Quick One Today

Because there is a lot that I need to get do get done today, so I cant spend as long as I would have liked making a more detailed post.

Same story as yesterday. Big storm. Big electricity blow out.

How ever, I'm happy to say:

Day 6 PMO Free 8)

-Adams
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« Reply #9 on: January 11, 2016, 12:19:40 AM »
My Week Long Journey

Well, I'm happy to say that I'm on Day 7 PMO Free!

I thought that I would just share a tiny bit on my experience.

As for me, personally, a week without PMO isn't all that difficult. I've done it a few times before.  It's just the willpower to constantly hold yourself to the standards that you have made that is. In the past if I had relapsed it would take me a while to get going again. My self esteem would be low as I would be beating myself up for not reaching a goal. So it wouldn't matter to me how many times I decided to PMO on a daily, weekly basis before resetting the counter and trying again.

So far this journal has been read 212 times! That's Awesome! I've never had anything that I've written read by that many people. I'm glad that my ongoing story has the potential to in some way help others with what they are going through.

So far I've learned a small amount on this issue. What fascinates me is the psychology behind it all. I didn't realise the increasing amount of dopamine I must have been conditioning myself to flood into my system over the years. (Check this video out to see what I mean : https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=2607&v=7oFVOJf0TzY) <- It's quite long so make sure you have a bit of time on your hands, but totally worth watching.

I also realised just how susceptible I can be in terms of relapsing. Am I the only one here who has a couple of people on my social media who I have a romantic feeling for?? I Don't think so. In this time of year, people are are still on holiday or just coming home and posting their beach related holiday pictures. It's not their fault, they can do what they want. It's just a big challenge when you want to casually browse your social media site and there are new bikini pictures of various people every day. Some of which you may be romantically interested in. When that happens I'd either stop browsing or make a picture not viewable.

I have come this far in my PMO Free journey. I'm posting all of my details daily on the web. I refuse to have one of those days be that I relapsed and that the counter is back to zero. That is not going to happen.

In case you're interested to know, my theme for this year is 'Habits Determine Your Success'. Like I said on Day One, there are a few of them that I want to break this year. Every 3 months I will move onto the next one while maintaining the new habit gained from the previous one. So 3ish months from now I will be a decently adjusted PMO Free AdamS and I will be moving onto my next major Habit to break: Social Media (IE Facebook). I'm not going to be removing it completely from my life, just for a limited time. Why? 1. No more images of people I know to potentially trigger a relapse and 2. I have more productive things that I need to get done in my life and put into my head.

And so I move into the beginning of my 2nd Week of being PMO Free. From my own experience this is what I know I will encounter, and its quite unpleasant :P : My brain will take every opportunity to mess with me, making me hornier as the days go by. Every time I pee, a small gob of jizz will come out and my balls will start feeling heavier and more uncomfortable. I have never wet dreamed in my 2nd week, so by the weekend I feel super uncomfortable and would do anything to make that feeling go away. In other words - the weekend of my 2nd week is when I notoriously relapse.......and the purpose of me going into such detail is if you've never tried going PMO Free, you now know what to expect more or less :P

My personal best is approximately 2 and a half weeks. So lets hurry up and get over this annoying slog of a week already, I want to write that Im on my 3rd week, that I've beaten my personal best of 19 Days and that Im looking forward to my 1st month of being PMO Free already!!! 

Happy Monday Folks, hope its a good week for you all!

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« Reply #10 on: January 11, 2016, 11:31:02 PM »
Another Quick One Today.

Sorry folks, as much as I am enjoying spending time here and trying to write the best posts that I can....its very time consuming :P Today I've got a lot on my plate to get done.

Happy to say however,

Day 8 PMO Free

-AdamS
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« Reply #11 on: January 12, 2016, 07:52:44 AM »
dont bother to post journal if you are very busy. its okay if you dont have any time to spend thinking about your addiction. some people prefer it that way.

good luck and enjoy yourself.
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« Reply #12 on: January 12, 2016, 04:13:56 PM »
My Story Part 2

'This program contains nudity and sexual content and is not suitable for viewers younger than 18'.

If only they included a tag line after that saying 'and if you are under 18 and watching this, let me tell you why it is not suitable. What you will see will shock your brain into all kinds of frenzy and take you down roads that you will regret going down after a good couple of years. Do yourself a favour, switch off and go to bed ok?'

But what rebellious teenager in his right mind would listen to that kind of advise? :P Especially after hearing hushed whispers in the school halls over a couple of weeks of this 'porn' thing  where you get to see naked adults on tv doing the birds and the bees on that new tv channel that just launched..... But only after midnight on a Saturday.

Its funny but I can remember a few bits and pieces of my first experience with porn vividly even though it was a good 12ish years ago. I cant remember if there was a significant gap between my first porn experience and then first masturbation, orgasm experience. But there definitely was a gap as I was in 2 different schools when I had the 2 different experiences.

It was the days with rubbish internet and a new government run tv channel had recently just launched with a whole bevy of weird local programs, adverts and news shows. Back in those days you needed a newspaper or magazine to read what is going to be shown during the week. Every Saturday evening, approaching midnight, and for some reason just after the lottery draw????? , the tv channel changed from the standard boring set up to a more sinister role.

The announcer would change from a bloke to this seduction tinged women, the adverts would change from cellphone ringtones to pornography ads and for the next few hours one of the many numbered sequels of a soft porn movie series called Emmanuel would play.

I had specially made sure that I was one of the few who was able to sleep over after a friends party one Saturday evening as I had heard down the grapevine that, because the parents were away,watching porn was on the agenda if you were able to stay over and stay awake.

I cant remember if from that evening I started to watch a little more every now and again or I just didnt watch anything after that- however with that kind of knowledge as to whats on the tube I knew that I could at any time.

It was the following year at a different school that I overheard a conversation that would really plunge me into the world of Ming and Oing. I overheard some of the kids in my grade huddled together and basically saying something along the lines of 'íf you rub it long enough this white stuff comes out and you have the most intense feeling ever, and this is called wanking'.

So that evening I decided to go to that channel at that time and rub it long enough to see what would happen........well, who would have thought that that small overheard conversation as a child would begin a weird and abnormal pursuit of pleasure that would eventually take me here.

When the internet became slightly better over the years so too did the opportunity to see more. It started with a sex tape by Paris Hilton. Then onto a few trailer clips of actual pornos that would take me to major websites where I could watch as much as I wanted. Come high school where the hormones are out of control, sex was the major topic with my peers. We'd share these sites and have a good time privately. After all, why not? Thats what all guys our age are doing right?

As the years went on I would be interested in more and more hardcore things.  And as the technology improved with internet and phone content sharing there was more of a way for the real messed up stuff to be distributed. In some circles, still now with a few of my acquaintances, groups were made where the winner of the week is the one who has found the nastiest porn content out there. Amputees, midgets, various animals, elderly, hentai but like in real life etc etc. I'd seen it during my school years and it wasnt pretty. I didnt take any pleasure in watching these things but being exposed to porn for the first time was like being exposed to a new candy shop where instead of there being tons of candies on display it was tons of different genres of porn to explore. And they all looked either instantly enticing of weird enough to briefly check out just out of curiosity.

So what was it that brought me here you might ask?

Well it was actually 4 completely different books that I had read a bit of over the years.......

.......Which I will tell you all about in the final part of my story, Part 3.

Until then, Stay focused folks!

Day 9 PMO Free 8)

- AdamS

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« Reply #13 on: January 13, 2016, 04:07:30 PM »
My Story Part 3

By 2015 I'd reached a point where I was pretty much desensitized to watching video porn. I transitioned from videos to gif images on tumbler sites. Now that I've done more research on porn addiction - the reason why makes sense. I needed a bigger fix than the one that I was currently getting. Instead of watching plenty of videos why not just watch several quick moving images on loops of a couple of seconds. The more images and the faster I could put them into my brain, the more arousal.

Another reason for switching to gifs was that I noticed just how fake and routine everything that I watched started getting.

The younger me saw these intense displays of pleasure from the women I watched as genuine. Now I resented watching these actors that started having so called ' intense orgasms' by doing stupid things like rubbing each other in the first few seconds of the video. 

It felt like every video I watched was starting to get the same. The younger me saw every video as a novel experience. Now I knew the script. Usually some lame story, then oral, to sex - front and back, to him finishing on her face...something Id always seen as repulsive. Now I was just going through the motions and watching this stuff to get my hit of dopamine. Something that I would never have been aware of if it wasnt for the things I've learnt from this site.

I started to be more aware of the actual porn industry itself by coming across the odd video or article showing these actors before and after their faces were meticulously covered in make up for hours or by watching blooper compilations. Watching porn was just something I did now for a temporary pleasure spike. I felt like I was wasting my time and felt awful after O'ing, especially now that I was learning more about just how fake this sex that I was watching actually was.

The younger me was intrigued in trying to discover as much about sex as possible in a safe environment and thought he was doing this through watching porn. The me now, knows that he was duped. And the safe environment I thought I had created was really just me conditioning myself to respond sexually with voyeur like enthusiasm to an assortment of pixelated, heavily manipulated, scripted and produced, grinding body parts.

I mentioned in my previous post 4 books that brought me here. And I'd like to share with you all what they are and the reasons why individually and as a whole.

The first 2 were written by a guy named Neil Strauss ( a few of you might know the title already  ;) :P )
The 3rd is a book called Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
the last book is actually more of a scroll than a book :P

But yet again my attention to detail has meant that I have already written far more than I intended and the desire to sleep has caught up with me.

So looks like tomorrows going to be the last chapter to this story.

Until then...

Day 10 PMO Free 8), Boo ya!

-AdamS



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« Reply #14 on: January 14, 2016, 05:03:27 PM »
My Story Last Part ( I promise :P)

Well we finally get to the end of the journey, if you have been reading this and have gotten this far, I just want to say thanks for reading and hope my story helps in some way.

Straight off the bat, lets go into those books that I mentioned last time.

I was introduced to this first book by a friend while still at school who had a similar background to mine, something along the lines of introverted loner :P. All of a sudden he comes out of nowhere one day and is dating this amazingly good looking girl from school. I asked him how the hell he managed to accomplish this feat and he said 'read this, it will change your life'. It sure did.

Neil Strauss wrote a book called The Game in 2005. In it he talks about how he transformed his personality from a low self esteemed and introverted guy to being voted as the worlds number one pick up artist. The book is about his experience as a pick up artist and the community he was involved in.

WORD OF CAUTION. DO NOT READ HIS BOOKS. THEY ARE LOADED WITH CONTENT THAT WILL MAKE YOU RELAPSE. CONSIDER YOURSELF WARNED.

These pick up artists are really just maladjusted men (myself included) when it comes to the subject of women and intimacy. They are however men who decided to master elements of social, emotional, female and relationship psychology. Furthermore they had enough courage to step out of their comfort zones and go out and get what they wanted by measuring and noting what techniques and observations could be improved each night with the girls that they interacted with.

Coming from a background where there were no exciting role models to aspire to, here all of a sudden was an everyman kinda guy who I could relate to and who shared some techniques and elements of psychology that would allow me to get the one thing that I always wanted but was too afraid of going for. I was the nice guy who was sick of being seen as the nice guy friend but not the boyfriend. Now here was a role model whose footsteps I could try and walk in! After reading that book I decided that what I lacked in 'jock strength' and popularity I could make up with a burning desire to spend as much time as I could learning about this community! ........I was so naive back then.

You know my story so you know that my combination of a growing pornography addiction and my 'perfect girlfriend syndrome' was not exactly a good foundation to seek or build a healthy relationship on, let alone throw in pick up artistry knowledge into the mix......in retrospect I wish I had understood this. But seeing as I didnt, young AdamS threw himself into learning as much of this stuff as he could. I spent a year learning the theory behind pick up. The year after that (my gap year) I put it into practice....

... Which brings me to my 2nd book: The Good Book :P

Im Jewish. Although I may not have all that much of a religious background. I do value the culture and elements of the religion, even though I cant say I'd done much research or been that committed to keeping the faith at that point. Ill be getting back to this aspect later as it is something that over the years leading to now I've slowly become more interested in. I brought it up now because of the one thing I did manage to take from my religion growing up, the value of keeping your virginity.

The year when I was putting all that theory into practice further cemented my brains focus on a romance and sexual nature, fully integrating my downtime with pornography use. By this point I could confidently attract anyone to me and get them to a bedroom. Just cuddles and kisses, the most I decided to go was getting head one night....and to this day its still a night Id rather not have had gotten that far. If I wanted to I could have spent a little bit more time researching the psychology of how to escalate towards actual sex and easily escalate further. Fortunately my v-card is not something I wanted to throw away to some random like what the rest of my friends did on the gap year.

Hey, I never said that the 4 books that brought me here would have to be all positive did I?? :P

My gap year was in 2010. Over the years I outgrew the pick up artistry knowledge, the psychology behind it was incredible but it became too overwhelming. Think about it like this: You're a guy who starts out with no experience with women what so ever. All of a sudden you discover a community that can teach you how to get that experience. Now you have access to an increasing amount of different 'masters', books, theories and viewpoints and as good as you may get, you never reach a point where you feel confident in your own ability or self esteem to be worthy of being in the company of interesting people in social situations. Instead of enjoying a good evening you analyse and break down everything that happens in to stuff that you know you can handle and stuff that ends up being a whole bunch of what ifs, leading you to to do even more research on minor details and repeat this spiral of social perfection that you begin to find yourself trapped in.

So I became less sociable over the years as a result. Which brings us to 2015 and yesterdays post. You could see how things were starting to change with my relationship towards pornography.

A couple of important things happened that year (in this order):

1. I started building a business with a big emphasis on personal development. I started learning from real personal development teachers in the books that I read. The most influential of which, so far, was Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
2. I decided to learn a bit more about my religion. Especially to do with M'ing and sex. I liked what I read online about the Jewish take on that subject. It made sense to me. I learnt that if I truly wanted to go hardcore and align myself closer to the laws of my religion with regard to this subject it meant that I needed to totally give up M'ing for life. Obviously, a very daunting undertaking.
3. Neil Strauss's sequel to The Game was published.

(Book 3) Think and Grow Rich is a book that I highly recommend that you all read. In truth, its not really a book. Its a textbook. :P With multiple reads, thorough analysis of its chapters and application of its content you will gain access to serious habits that will lead you to the riches you deserve and your fulfilling your true potential.

If this is your first time hearing about this book, here is a present for you for being such a good sport and reading all the way up until here, enjoy! : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Think_and_Grow_Rich and http://eventualmillionaire.com/Resources/ThinkandGrowRich.pdf.

The chapter that interested me the most in my first read through of this masterpiece was Chapter 10: The Mystery of Sex Transmutation. Read this chapter and you will understand why :P

So towards the end of 2015 I understood the religious perspective and success benefits to living a life of no PMO. Porn was beginning to lose its grip on me. The act of watching porn now just was getting less and less pleasurable but I was still relapsing every now and again even though I was trying to go without it. It was Strauss's follow up to The Game however that really hit it home for me. The book is called The Truth (Book 4).

AGAIN, WORD OF WARNING. IF YOU READ THIS BOOK, YOU WILL BE EXPOSED TO MATERIAL THAT WILL MAKE YOU RELAPSE. DONT.

Towards the end of the year I found out about this book so in December I decided to reread The Game and then buy The Truth. Although the pick up stuff that I learnt utterly pales in comparison to the personal development stuff I'm learning now I will always have a small appreciation for the few positive things that I learnt from that chapter in my life.

The Game's story didnt really have that much of a solid conclusion. It did however end on a bittersweet note. The community ended up in a shambles with all the major players ending their business relationships with each other or entering into some rehab institute. Neil however found a great girl that he wanted to have a stable relationship with and vowed that he would never engage in the pick up industry again. So it looks like this everyman hero won the day and the girl in the end! Happy ending, right?

Here's what I learned about rereading The Game: The community grew so huge because one of the major players read Think and Grow Rich at one point and applied its principles. (Oh the irony!! :P )

Here's what I learned after reading The Truth: 10 Years later I finally get to find out what happened to my everyman hero. The guy who broke away from the community to live a normal life yet still got what he wanted in the end. Finally I get to hear about whats been happening in his life and how successful he has become! 10 Years later, it turns out, I found out that my very first hero was in fact a sex addict who also was one of those major players who had himself checked into rehab for his addiction.  :-\

The important thing about this was that I didnt know that such a thing was possible. Neil really went in depth into talking about his addiction, it was interesting to see how small, seemingly irrelevant, experiences at a young age shaped this man into a sex addict. Some of the people he was in rehab with were porn addicts. And that got me really thinking......Am I an addict too? How is it that I understand the religious background and success benefits of a life without PMO yet I still end up relapsing after a couple of days?

In short, a few New Years Resolutions and Google searches later and I found myself here. :P

Which lead me to my first post: ...And So It Begins... written on the 4th of Jan.

That was 11 Days ago.

Day 11 PMO Free ;)

Thanks again for reading!

-AdamS
 
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« Reply #15 on: January 15, 2016, 01:51:36 PM »
Starting To Get Tougher

Well here we are at the beginning of another weekend. I'm nearly 2 weeks into my PMO Free journey....and so far its going just like I predicted it would. In other words its getting tougher downstairs and upstairs.

Im a boobs guy. Today was an uncomfortable day.

Go on social media. Eyes gravitated towards someones boobs. Enough social media for one day. Later turned on the tv. Eyes gravitated towards someones boobs (an illustrated Wonder Woman from the flippen Justice League movie that happened to be on :P ). Enough tv for one day.  At some point during the day for no apparent reason a clear as day image appears in my head of a porn vid that I had watched ages ago.

My brains beginning to play tricks with me it seems. Don't worry, Ill beat that jelly bastard into submission through sheer force of will as the days go by.

United we stand Reboot Nation!

Day 12 PMO Free  :P

-AdamS

P.S Just hit 15 posts, my icon on the forum is totally legit and orange now, boo ya!  8) :P

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« Reply #16 on: January 15, 2016, 02:13:34 PM »
AdamS, keep it up man. We're all rooting for you.

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« Reply #17 on: January 16, 2016, 02:07:51 PM »
Happy Saturday Folks!

Not much to report today.

Going to be ending my evening listening to some pretty damn good tunes and doing some reading.

Take a listen if you want, I've been wanting to listen to this album for a while, just never had the time to give it a go :P

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ioe5xzpVyMQ

Day 13 PMO Free

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« Reply #18 on: January 16, 2016, 02:36:18 PM »
one time i played this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HM36ZvMS81c and left it playing in the background for 2 hours while doing something else on the computer.

you are almost 2 weeks! how is it feels?
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« Reply #19 on: January 17, 2016, 01:32:40 PM »
2 Weeks In!!

As Numez pointed out in the previous post, its Week 2 of my PMO Free journey!

Or as I like to think of it: the beginning of the challenging Week 3.

This is the third time I've reached this point.

However, this time I know Im going to make it through to Week 3 easily. Unlike my previous attempts, I didn't have a whole community of people with similar stories reading my posts to be accountable to :P :P

So no matter how much my brain and body try to mess with me I will not be succumbing to my more primal instincts. I'm looking forward to my Day 20 PMO Free post, the one where I have beaten my personal best of 19 Days. Bring it on!!

Until then folks....

2 Weeks PMO Free!! 8)

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« Reply #20 on: January 17, 2016, 05:35:06 PM »
yup, this thread has been read over 350 times. many people are watching and holding you accountable. you better know that at all times.
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« Reply #21 on: January 18, 2016, 04:52:59 PM »
On Clarity and Peace of Mind

People, just do this thing properly. Just get it done.  If you are reading this - you are in an incredible environment here. You have people here to encourage you, be accountable to, provide you with similar stories or provide answers to questions you may have.

In my previous failed attempts, reaching this point, when I didnt have a forum to be accountable to - I regretted PMOing as soon as I started relapsing. I just needed some kind of instant physiological release. Upon reflection, I cant believe I was being so silly.

Guys, instant gratification is not worth it.

That clarity that I feel at this point, besides the interesting and sometimes uncomfortable sensations downstairs, however is COMPLETELY worth it.

The uncomfortable stuff will pass as the months go by and my body gets used to a normal, more natural, as it should be, flow.

Its such a great feeling just feeling more confident and in control of yourself. For me, when speaking to girls my total focus is just on them and the conversation now. You arent bundled up in anxiety because of the pornified thoughts you've had about this person, or worse, if they have noticed you thinking those thoughts....do you see a potential continuing cycle of anxiety here in this regard due to being a PMO addict?

If you have reached this point, or when you reach this point, next time you are in a mall and notice a good looking bloke/ lady, notice two things: 1. That you've noticed a good looking person FIRST as a whole, not good looking body parts like what you have been used to. Just appreciate that thought. Different isnt it?
2. Now notice all the people of your sex as well around you. Look at what they are focused on as this person walks past. They quickly glance at all the bits and pieces only, storing up flashes of imagery to use later that evening as a stimulus in order to put some colour into their otherwise dull, monotonous day to day lives.

If you are taking this journey seriously I want you to know, whoever you are, that you make up a small handful of people actively striving for positive personal change. This journey aint going to be easy in the beginning. But nothing in life really worth fighting for is just going to be a walk in the park. I want you to really understand just what living a PMO Free life could be and how that sets you apart from the MASSES of people enslaved to their pixelated screens. What you and I are striving for is incredible. Im doing this thing properly, I'd like to invite you to come do the same. Come experience what I have experienced today. And what I know I'll be experiencing more of, in increasing amounts, as the days go by.

Its worth it. All worth it.

Day 15 PMO Free 8)

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« Reply #22 on: January 19, 2016, 02:22:48 PM »
The Small Things That Cause Stress

You may not be aware of them. Or even think of them in that way. But they are there. And they do tax your body of small amounts of energy that if left unchecked could lead to a sense of being overwhelmed.

These are the things that you have been putting off for far too long. The procrastination and excuses made on the little things. Be it washing the dishes, cleaning the room, getting the car fixed up, returning those things that you have had on the shelf for ages that actually belong to a friend etc.

Waking up everyday and seeing those things sends your mind into a whole bunch of anxiety provoking what if scenarios and excuses. Imagine not having any of those. Imagine having a clearer head where you can use your energy towards progress and more productive things in your day.

Today I returned a few books that I borrowed from a friend a few years ago. Yes, it might have felt like a bit of an inconvenience. Instead of going home from work and relaxing I was now driving across town doing something seemingly trivial. But if you look at it from the long term perspective, look at what I have gained! I dont have to wake up anymore and worry about returning these particular items. They have now been returned. Small bit of stress taken off the brain, now I can use that small amount of energy on something more useful. And as a bonus I caught up with an old friend over some tea today.

What small, seemingly irrelevant, things are taking up too much of your daily thoughts? What would you rather want your mind to be focusing on instead of these things? What solutions and actions are you going to take now that you have identified that these small things are taking up too much of your energy?

Every small step taken towards fulfilling your potential creates a compound effect over time towards ultimate victory.

What steps are you going to take?

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« Reply #23 on: January 20, 2016, 01:56:16 PM »
Obligatory First Wet Dream Post

Well...it happened. Was quite unexpected as well. Thought it would be at least another week until I would be writing this up.

Apologies: I know I wrote on the 11th of Jan that I had never experienced a wet dream before in my previous attempts. However now that I think of it, I actually had experienced it once before.

Here's the funny thing though, I dont remember the dream. I just woke up.

Growing up through adolescence I remember that my wet dreams often involved very very very erotic/ sexual imagery. I stopped getting them as the years went on, obviously due to growing out of the puberty phase and also because at that point PMOíng was a habit. But I would know when I was having one of those dreams, in some cases I was able to take control of my body while still dreaming to prevent the O'ing part happening.

In my previous attempt, the one where I did have a wet dream, I remember that in the dream instead of me being involved I was dreaming about watching something on a porn site.....the relapses from those previous attempts being the pictures on social media.

But this one, I just woke up. Cant remember the dream. I wonder if this is what they are all going to be like? And is the reason why I remember the ones I had in the past so vividly because of all the porn imagery I was ingraining into my head? In that case, I'm interested to see what happens with the next one, when it happens.

And first place goes to me for the weirdest thing I've ever posted on the internet about myself.

Here,Here!

You stay classy Rebooters :P

Day 17 PMO Free 8)

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« Reply #24 on: January 20, 2016, 04:53:57 PM »
Keep going bro!