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Re: 15 yr , going to reboot
« Reply #25 on: February 15, 2016, 06:50:02 AM »
I found the hard way that as long as you have that feeling or that temptation that is hard to say "no" against concerning triggers, relapse is going to be something quite common. I guess its part of learning about yourself and realising when you're brain is tricking you into "just casually going on the internet for no immediate reason" or "just peeping at that page where I found nude girls last time cuz I'm just curious and even if there are I wont go any further" sort off thing. Those sort of things are the ways we fall. Cuz once you start, you don't stop because it just fuels the fire and is so hard to say no.

So I guess you just need to stay away from surfing the net or places where you would view triggers because when you feel like going to surf or on that social media page you know straight away its temptation and you can say no.

Hope this helps

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« Reply #26 on: February 16, 2016, 08:55:55 AM »
I admire you man. I fell today too. But I would blame mark zuckerberg for it. I am 15 and was scrolling in fb. A sponsored ad of P was shown. Hell! I reported it and hid that ad, but then my mind started wavering. Blame game is not what I need. Its my mistake too.  :-\

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« Reply #27 on: February 16, 2016, 06:48:16 PM »
Sorry to hear about that relapse man that's a tough one.

Although something like that isn't rare, you'll find that one most social media its really easy for triggers to just pop up or be really really accessible. Trust me I went through a bad stage where I had no browsing access and learned all the ugly ins and outs of social media's porn access. It may not be such a bad idea to temporarily disable most if not all of your social media accounts (except perhaps texting) to limit the chance of triggers coming.

As much as avoiding triggers (and urges) and preventing them can work, you've actually gotta know how to fight one if it does rear it's ugly head. This is where your past relapses work to your advantage. Have you ever avoided PMO (or triggers) when in an urge? How did you do it? What would be your best way to distract yourself?

When I planned my reboot I made 3 columns: preventing urges, dealing with them and making life happy.

In preventing urges I wrote down all of my weaknesses in the past where I have relapsed (one particularly is taking a device into the bathroom) and figured out how to avoid and prevent the situation.

Dealing with urges is something I knew I would have to do as you can't fully eliminate porn access from your life in this day and age. There's always some from of opportune chance that will present itself (no matter how stupid or risky). This is about having a general solution and an emergency escape plan. A general solution often involves distracting yourself or avoiding the situation of the urge increasing... something like not doing school research on my laptop when I feel a little urge. But the emergency plan has to be something that totally distracts you, expends large amounts of energy, makes you feel happy and relaxed afterwards. Immediate Jogging and then a cold shower is my current plan and I also do drumming If the urge isn't too big cuz it has the same effect and I enjoy it a lot more. But it's all about figuring out whats best for you man.

Happiness is the bit that is responsible for me being where I am in reboot. Happiness is finding something to replace porn and also generally improving your life. I'm really messy, unorganised, lose things a lot and am usually late. But since the start of my reboot, I spring cleaned my room and it's been spotless and organised ever since. I also started getting really serious and committed to drumming as my hobby to take my spare time away from porn. Everynight before I go to bed I brush my teeth, update my forum, say a prayer and then fall asleep. I've also been planning my homework out so I can get it done. Reboot isn't just about quitting porn man it's about getting your life back together.

My last major issue was commitment. I found it incredibly hard to stick to that "hell yeah" "viewing porn isn't even an option" attitude. I fixed this by writing out my plan and then looking in the mirror, alone in my room and making a promise to myself "That I would do everything in my power (including asking God for help) to try to reboot until I succeed. If I relapse, I will learn from it and comeback strongly until I am bulletproof, indestructible, invincible". And I'll tell you what man I had one of the ugliest relapses you have ever seen after that. I was watching bukkake, aggressive disguistive porn and got myself into a lot of shit triying to get nudes out of girls online. But I came back from it. I learnt from it. And now I'm pulling through the ugly part of the reboot for the first time.

I hope this helps man this was just how I did it. I hope you can adapt this to your reboot and you can start enjoying life :)
See you in a porn free tomorrow,
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« Reply #28 on: February 17, 2016, 04:30:01 AM »
Thanks a lot . unfortunately I have relapsed now. I watched but didn't M for more time or O. Fortunately I don't watch any aggressive P. I guess it is atleast a little better scenario. I am going to follow your plan.I will post it tomorrow. Good luck on your drumming. See you too in a porn free tomorrow.

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« Reply #29 on: February 17, 2016, 06:34:50 AM »
That's great to hear mate.

Honesetly, all pornography absolutely disgusts me. It really does. I was only ever originally interested in seeing boobs and stuff like that. Any form of porn is just horrible its only cuz I've been terribly desensitised to the dopamine hit associated with it that it gives me a buzz.

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Re: 15 yr , going to reboot
« Reply #30 on: February 22, 2016, 06:49:47 AM »
porn is a piece of feces

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« Reply #31 on: February 24, 2016, 07:17:32 AM »
Wow it's day 8 !I have reached 7+ days after a month. Meanwhile in the last few days I had a wet dream and I fought the chaser effect . it was hard but I won. Today I had another wet dream. But the scenario today is different. Last time I got frequent fantasies to porn and erections. But now I got frequent erections when I see girls. I get so hard that I fear my pants would tear. This has been so long. This is a great progress really . thank you everyone especially Sampson bro. But still I didn't make any plans. I just couldn't find time to think of porn or reboot. 8)

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« Reply #32 on: February 24, 2016, 06:21:47 PM »
That's fantastic to hear! That's really good to hear about those dreams. It's progress! Keep going. You don't have to have a full on plan, but I'd invite you to have some sort of coping mechanism. Very recently for me I had super strong urges and nearly gave into viewing soft-core stuff. I got around this by taking my device out of my room and charging it in the living room. I also deleted my history and am not going to let me back onto that site again (reddit). I then went for a jog the following morning to expel some of that energy. Today I'm planning to do a lot of drumming and study to keep myself occupied. That being said its great to just not think about the addiction it helps heaps. But that being said I would just have a quick think about what you would do in an emergency :)

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Re: 15 yr , going to reboot
« Reply #33 on: February 26, 2016, 07:27:43 AM »
I had urges today very powerful that I was about to give up, then I came here. I have killed my urge. My emergency plan is this learnt from you: switch the phone off. Charge it in living room and take my books to study. 8) feeling super cool for winning this urge
Day 9 today , two weeks more for the exams...

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Re: 15 yr , going to reboot
« Reply #34 on: February 28, 2016, 01:11:08 AM »
I was so high today and gave up :(. This time I am not going to binge....relalse is over... And it's time to study. My emergency plans didn't work because i was so favour of P.:( :'(

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« Reply #35 on: February 28, 2016, 04:24:42 AM »
Admitting a relapse and stopping more immediate relapses can be a tough thing to do so nice work. Hopefully after the relapses you've learnt and and thought about what you'd do next time to avoid a relapse. Good luck bro
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Re: 15 yr , going to reboot
« Reply #36 on: February 28, 2016, 04:35:23 AM »
Admitting a relapse and stopping more immediate relapses can be a tough thing to do so nice work. Hopefully after the relapses you've learnt and and thought about what you'd do next time to avoid a relapse. Good luck bro

Every relapse is a valuable learning experience that will help you in the future.

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Re: 15 yr , going to reboot
« Reply #37 on: March 01, 2016, 01:10:57 AM »
I watched yesterday and PMO,d today, I am feeling all down. No excuses again to P. I have set my goal to 15 days . I have went 14 days befoRe. Any

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« Reply #38 on: March 01, 2016, 06:58:40 AM »
Bummer. I suggest that you should leave your devices (phone, laptop, tablet, etc.) and only use them in a more public area with your family. Never take them with you privately otherwise you'll just be tempted to look for porn again. Don't give up, its tough for everyone to quit no matter what stage you're at. All the best atwtr :)
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Re: 15 yr , going to reboot
« Reply #39 on: March 09, 2016, 12:25:19 PM »
Thank you all, but I feel so ashamed when looking at my counter. A feel of boredom or horny makes me relapse at most immediately atleast after a day or two. Whatever,I am not giving up. I

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Re: 15 yr , going to reboot
« Reply #40 on: March 09, 2016, 03:08:00 PM »
Hey atwtr, stay strong bro. I recommend this video, really got me out of some hard times when I felt like chain relapsing.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E0cPVRzwXd0

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Re: 15 yr , going to reboot
« Reply #41 on: March 10, 2016, 03:28:23 AM »
I failed again.
My list of triggers:
1)searching for p subs
2)looking at girls in the road
3accidentally coming across hot girl in TV
 These are the my triggers.
1)Whenever I have the urge , I am going to put off my device.
2) Do my prayer.
3) Read
4) if nothing helps, sleep.

I don't want to get addicted to those immoral people who aim at spoiling me. I want to conserve my testosterone. I don't want prolactin to make my man boobs. I am not giving up. I guess I should not be touching the devices at all. In this binge streak, I would be playing games and suddenly it becomes boring and I would be searching for p sub's.

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Re: 15 yr , going to reboot
« Reply #42 on: March 22, 2016, 03:14:44 PM »
I don't want prolactin to make my man boobs.
What? :D

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Re: 15 yr , going to reboot
« Reply #43 on: April 12, 2016, 07:58:30 AM »
NO PROBLEM BRO!!

keep going keep it on brother!!!


PS_ i am also 15 years old  8) and have some similarity with your story  :o
FAPPING IS SLOW DEATH!!!!